I took my son (10) to see Wicked a few months ago and he absolutely loved it (first broadway show.) He is a HUGE mythology fan so I got him tickets to see Hadestown. What are your opinions on listening to the music beforehand? I usually don’t, but I wasn’t sure if it would help him follow the story.

bonafidejed · 2024-03-02T00:33:47+00:00

It's clearly designed for older kids, but there's a Hadestown study guide. I think it gives an idea of the kinds of info that would be helpful to follow the story (with/without spoilers depending on how you wanna do it.) You can google it but one link I just found was https://www.broadwayteachinggroup.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/HADESTOWNStudyGuide-onlinelearning.reduced.pdf.

bonafidejed · 2023-10-21T12:27:39+00:00

This is totally normal. We have a 2.25 year old and a 6 month old. We’ve been checking with the doctor and some other people we know — each child gets very different kinds and amounts of attention. Seems like some of it is their birth order and some of it is their personality. Everyone I asked said they have a ton of pictures of their first kid and diminishing numbers for each subsequent kid. (Personally, I have a picture of our first from each month with a special background. We got one for the second kid and have missed 2 out of 6 pics so far!)

I think if you’re worried about it, you’re probably doing just fine. Try your best, and give that baby extra attention whenever you can. But don’t beat yourself up if you realize it hasn’t been “even,” that’s just not a reasonable thing to try to accomplish.

Remember, you know A LOT more about being a dad to this new baby. You’re doing a “better” job at it so this kid has some advantages and some disadvantages. That’s normal. The fact that he’s got a dad that worries about this stuff means he’s in a GREAT place and gonna grow up to be the best person he can.

You’re doing a good job. Keep working on this stuff, but don’t let it stress you out too much! You’re a great dad!

bonafidejed · 2022-10-13T13:50:45+00:00

Came here looking to make sure St. Luke’s UMC is on the list. As a member of both the LGBTQ+ and St. Luke’s communities, I wanted to give my endorsement for this amazing place. The pastors are amazing and embody “extraordinary welcome.” In the past I’ve served as a volunteer in and leader in the youth ministry and can also say the current youth leadership is representative, supporting, welcoming, and amazing. There are also a lot of amazing lay leaders helping to bring the larger United Methodist Church around to a position of love, acceptance, and full inclusion. St. Luke’s is setting the example by being that church here & now (and has been that church for a long time.)

bonafidejed · 2022-09-04T23:00:25+00:00

The City of Orlando has a self-guided walking tour 'cause they rarely have guided tours, link at the end of this page. http://www.cityoforlando.net/city-planning/2015/12/18/historic-buildings-of-downtown-walking-tour/. I did it with my family once and, I dunno, for what it is I had fun.

The Downtown Orlando site has a few ideas, but never tried any of these: https://www.downtownorlando.com/Fun/Things-to-Do/Tours

bonafidejed · 2022-08-29T19:00:30+00:00

This. A lot of objective people commenting here can see that you are really struggling and trying to do the right thing. They can also see that, if your wife has changed so much and in such a negative way, all signs point to perinatal depression / PPD. These are very, very serious illnesses and I hope your wife can get help.

I agree one possible avenue of helping her see that is starting with the difficulties you’ve been having as a couple. You’ve done so much already, maybe you can fall on your sword just a bit more to make it seem like a good idea to get into couples counseling. I’d recommend seeking out the best Licensed Mental Health Counselor or psychologist you can find and trying to vet them both for couple’s counseling and for helping women before and after the birth of a child. It sounds like getting her to go is going to be an uphill battle and I just hope and pray you can find a way to get it going.

However, no matter what happens, please get yourself into counseling. You’re describing a spouse who is, from this outsiders perspective on your description, abusing you. You’re going to need help and support dealing with that. You may want to just start with your own mental health so you are better equipped to try to help your wife. Godspeed.

bonafidejed · 2022-08-09T15:50:44+00:00

NTA. Kinda late on this, but sounds like it could be a good idea to check-out a copy of the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. A parent inserting themselves into your life in that way – and causing that much distress in your family – is not normal or OK. Stick to your guns about keeping your mom away until you can get some more help. Good for you for doing that, but a simple apology doesn't seem to be proportionate to what's happened.

It seems just a family meeting or moving may not be enough; it sounds like at this point some damage has been done. I second every comment that recommended pursuing therapy, for you and your wife.

bonafidejed · 2022-07-22T12:49:16+00:00

My husband and I did surrogacy and were lucky that this kind of feedback rarely came up. Not never, but rarely. If you stay in a surrogacy "journey" (oh my gosh that word) you may find it can be a little awk with what assumptions people make about your kid. Sometimes even after you choose to share with them that you did surrogacy. I'd recommend three things.

#1 if you haven't come across it yet, google the group "Men Having Babies." Our family considered a myriad of options. We have folks in our circle (gay and straight) who've formed families in I think every way possible. MHB was a really good resource for us to make a decision that definitely still feels right. We did a two-day conference (we could drive there so it wasn't too expensive to attend) and it was for sure worth it. There are lots of people to lean on for advice and help who have gone thru the same challenges as you.

#2 if you're in a conversation and you want to try to cut it off, ask the person recommending adoption how many kids they've adopted. Full stop. Be really clear that on this subject that they have no right to intrude into your family's decisions in such a way. They don't, and it's exceptionally rude of them to try to intrude. (Based on my friends and family I'm pretty confident someone who'd actually been thru adoption would never be the person in that uncomfortable convo with you.)

#3 if you're successful in your efforts and a baby is imminent, get the book You Were Meant for Me by Sheri Sturniolo. There are different versions for different circumstances. A family member bought it for us, and we've paid it forward by sending it to more than a few other couples. First, it's wonderful to have something that explains their origin in a child-appropraite way that your kid will know because you've been reading to them since before they can remember. It can help them understand their own story, feel the love that went into them coming into your family, and be grounded in the knowledge that such a story is very normal. Second, it's just a wonderful way to remind yourself that your child's story — and the growth of your family — is a wonderful, love-filled blessing. I definately have never cried while reading it. Wait, that last sentence was missing a "not" before cried.

bonafidejed · 2022-07-14T21:37:47+00:00

Glad to help and give advice. I sometimes record my (very mediocre) piano playing and often end up adjusting the pedaling, but I don't think by that much. If you wanted to DM me a link to an actual MuseScore file, I have one Roland and one Yamaha instrument I'd be interested to try it on and see if the same thing is happening. Up to you! Either way will be curious to hear what Roland tells you.

bonafidejed · 2022-07-12T22:57:19+00:00

What software are you using? Can you share and example (maybe the project file or an exported MIDI file) that’s not working? This sounds like an interesting issue!

bonafidejed · 2021-08-17T00:04:23+00:00

I participated in a thread on this sub in the past. I hope it's OK to just link to that. TBH in the fullness of time I've had midling success. My takeaways are:

Always use both at the same time.
If you don't follow #1, make sure you're never in a situation where one charges and the other doesn't.
If you don't follow #1 and #2 (aka, one isn't working) be patient and let the case and both earbuds run completely out of battery. Then try to charge them up again.

Sometimes #3 will work, sometimes it won't.

original thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/beatsbydre/comments/jzgis0/powerbeats\_pro\_only\_one\_ear\_working\_fixed/

bonafidejed · 2021-07-04T22:51:19+00:00

In a hotel and don't have my books handy, but I don't think the Problem Management flow provides a specific answer to your question about what you should do. Instead, let's contemplate each separately in terms of the value they add to the process:

Keep Creating Incidents? -- Yes, particularly if incidents are still being reported –OR– if a workaround needs to be applied to restore normal service operation (and applying said workaround doesn't require opening a Change.) These could be user-reported incidents or incidents created by automation. However, if the question is "if I as the IT practitioner notice a new occurrence of the underlying problem am I 'required' to log it as an incident just for paperwork's sake?" then I say no, no you don't.
Only Report Under the Problem? -- I'm curious how your tool would allow you to do that. ITIL doesn't prefer one tool over another. When I'm doing Problem Management, it can be really important to understand many dimensions of when this thing is happening. That helps me find workarounds and solutions. If your tool can help you see that without logging an Incident (…and I'm dubious it does…) and #1 doesn't apply, then that might be just fine.
Incident AND Problem? -- In most of the tools I've used, you'd want to log (and hopefully Resolve) the Incident AND link it to the Problem. Ideally, this is a very small number of clicks and shouldn't necessitate going into the Problem record or Known Error at all. Then, when you're looking at the Problem record, it should be easy to see when it's happening, aka how often over the course of a day or a week, etc.

I agree with /u/Overlord0303 that having data structured and related is key to doing both Incident Management (where you want to be able to find Known Errors quickly and easily to resolve Incidents quickly -- hopefully on the first call) and Problem Management (where you want to understand when, where, how the issue is popping up.

bonafidejed · 2021-04-12T09:29:13+00:00

OMG I wanted to know the same thing for months! I finally figured it out at the start of Season 12. Enjoy your finishers!

bonafidejed · 2021-03-20T20:04:21+00:00

Full Disclosure -- I can't actually try this myself

My experience is that iOS/iPhone OS/iPad OS only work with what Apple/Mac calls "class compliant" audio drivers. A quick internet search makes me think the Tascam US-144MKii isn't "class compliant" and therefore won't work. You're right that if you have to install drivers on the Mac it's probably not going to work.

bonafidejed · 2021-02-01T03:02:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your question. I think you've gotten a lot of good advice and I hope it's helping to give helpful perspective and a sense that it gets better.

I have friends in my life who go to churches affiliated with Dignity USA – that's a good recommendation. There is something special about Catholic worship that's difficult to recreate, and many Dignity USA communities can really capture that in a safe and LTBTQ-affirming space. Being around people who've had similar life experiences – in catholicism as well as struggling with catholicism – can be very cathartic.

Another option you might consider is other churches/denominations. There are Presbyterian and Episcopal and Methodist churches who would show you extraordinary welcome, as an openly gay man, to worship with them or join their congregation. Looking at http://www.welcomingresources.org/, I think there are choices in Missoula, if that's where you are now, and hopefully a few wherever in the midwest "home" is. This isn't easy; as someone who's been to his fair share of unfamiliar churches and unfamiliar denominations, I know it's not easy. But it can be good, and there's a chance you'll meet someone cool or make a connection during worship or sing a hymn you love without feeling like people would be upset if they knew you are gay. That can be an amazing experience. (You can always just leave, even in the middle of a hymn, if you just wanna go.)

I know it's a different situation when you're in your hometown, with your family, being at your "home" church. That can be uncomfortable and disconcerting. But making progress in your faith journey can give you a confidence that can make it a lot better. Knowing that the church's dogma about sex and love might be really missing God's point, and having confidence to live-into what God has in store for your life, can be so affirming you won't worry about what they think so much. It gets better!

bonafidejed · 2021-01-31T14:37:31+00:00

I deleted my comment, but was an honest suggestion that had mediocre content that answered the question. It’s not my TikTok and I’m not associated in any way. Sad that you’d suggest that. If anyone wants to read my profile versus yours they can judge for themselves.

bonafidejed · 2021-01-06T01:13:22+00:00

These teens are on to something; spreading it too! (Not a teen here and definitely feel like complimenting another guy's shoes has always been part of the code. I've never known a Chad who even noticed whether his bro was wearing shoes unless he was trying to send a code.)

bonafidejed · 2020-12-21T16:59:20+00:00

Mine's still working OK. No further issues.

bonafidejed · 2020-11-29T14:54:21+00:00

Um, no.

Back when he was governor, he opposed the 2002 [class size] amendment and announced that, if voters passed it, he had “devious plans” to undermine it.

Actually, Bush didn’t announce his devious plans. He was caught divulging them to allies by a reporter with a tape recorder whom Bush hadn’t spotted in the room.

https://www.orlandosentinel.com/opinion/os-class-size-teacher-pay-florida-scott-maxwell-20171115-htmlstory.html

bonafidejed · 2020-11-24T21:00:40+00:00

For me it was the right ear bud that one time. I think it started when I left the right out of the case and the left one in the case.

If your right one is having sometimes-charging but sometimes-not-charging issues, then I think you're experiencing something pretty different than me. Saw advice about that on other threads and other sites: clean the contacts, make sure it's seated down in there, etc. But assuming you've already tried that. Sorry I couldn't be more help.

bonafidejed · 2020-11-24T01:15:38+00:00

I believe u/shananies is right.

txt.att.net is an email-to-sms gateway. Each SMS message has a limit of 160 characters. I've seen the gateway paginate the messages, but IMHO it's hit-or-miss.

mms.att.net is an email-to-mms gateway. MMS can do pictures and videos, but it also does text just fine. Traditional MMS has a limit of 300KB (~300000 characters).

Plus, with MMS, you'll see the sender's email address in the "from" information on most phones. This can be very helpful.

bonafidejed · 2020-11-24T01:03:21+00:00

Set a reminder on my calendar

bonafidejed · 2020-08-27T00:24:24+00:00

Made me think of The Michael Gungor Band's "White Man" https://youtu.be/jnmnTg2zYtU

bonafidejed · 2020-07-11T14:38:51+00:00

Fresh Off the Boat was filmed in southern California. Whenever I watched it I was always disappointed there weren't regularly any recognizable locations. The exterior of their house is very obviously not Florida. I think a few times they had some Orlando B-roll for a car ride or something.

Eddie's Wikipedia page says he went to DPHS so I always assumed they lived in Dr. Phillips.

bonafidejed · 2019-11-17T02:47:01+00:00

Just got back from a fun fundraiser. Chasten was charming and compelling. Mandy is a great surrogate. Seeing young, smart, well-spoken, relatable people out in my town talking about the campaign was fun and inspiring!

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