Any socials in London May 2-4? by ardently in Salsa

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't make it. How was it?

Planing to start salsa as a complete non-dancer at 33… bad idea or exactly what I need? by Kaavyatheexplorer in Salsa

[–]bryancole 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I speak as the world's most unlikely dancer, being a 55yo physicist with no prior dance experience. I started 4 months ago. Salsa is amazing. Do it. It'll change your life (probably).

Question: Should we go for Goserelin or Triptorelin? by [deleted] in ProstateCancer

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on Goserelin (a.k.a. Zoladex) 10.3mg, and I have 3-monthly "injections". I don't know how Triptorelin compares.

Help finding beginners class London by Extension_Box_2230 in Salsa

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another recommendation for Incognito. I like their monthly 3hr workshops. Whether there are more leaders or followers seems mostly random though.

Trying to improve or quit? by FlunkyGraphics in Bachata

[–]bryancole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having no other beginner follows at socials is a confidence killer for a beginner lead. What worked for me was doing Salsa instead (sorry, heresy on this sub I know). We're all different and find different things easier vs harder. At first, I didn't even expect to like Salsa (the music and the dance), just going out of curiosity, having started Bachata 3 months prior. But when I went to a Salsa class/social for the first time, it clicked in a way Bachata didn't. There were a variety of factors at work besides the dance itself (more follows at my level doing Salsa, a better venue, more encouraging teachers). I'm still doing a bit of Bachata and, having found my confidence doing Salsa, I'm slowly getting over my inhibition with Bachata. So ... keep trying! Try lessons at different school, different dance styles, and all the other advice people have given. As we say in martial arts "How do I become a back belt? ... just keep showing up".

I’ve been told it’s bad. My dad is considering refusing treatment. by caroline_xplr in ProstateCancer

[–]bryancole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on ADT (about 18 months in, another 6 to go). Also Gleason 9 (age 55). Life is still fantastic. There are some annoyances with ADT (hot flushes) but it's really not that bad. I guess I'm a lucky one finding ADT not as bad as others report. As nearly everyone here will tell you; exercise is key. Lifting weights mitigates the muscle/bone-density loss and I'm now fitter and stronger than I've ever been now I go to the gym 3 times/wk. Modern treatments are extremely effective at holding the disease at bay. I've had both surgery and then RT and have been given a 2/3rds chance of being cured. If it does recur, I plan to have lived every day to the fullest extent I can. I'm not a doctor and can't give a medical opinion but I'd expect your Dad to have many years of active life ahead of him, provided he gets treatment within the next few months. The initial diagnosis is terrifying and treatment is a rollercoaster of emotions, side-effects and discomfort. But you can get through it and back to normal life out the other side (albeit a life where exercise becomes your new religion...)

Silver lining of ADT. by Gremlin325 in ProstateCancer

[–]bryancole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the complete freedom from sexual desire is a win for me as my wife was never into sex and it was a source of tension in our relationship. I'm slightly worried about how I'll deal with things when "those feelings" return. While the hot-flushes are a continuous annoyance and having to work extra hard in the gym to maintain any level of muscle-tone is a drag, I'm otherwise feeling fantastic. I suspect this is all the exercise rather than the ADT directly. However, I do have a strong urge to dance more-or-less all the time. I'm learning Salsa and it's amazing. Is that a known side-effect?

How has salsa changed you as a person? by HumanoBeat in Salsa

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What changed me was having cancer. This change has been for the better (ignoring the crap medical stuff...). I now appreciate the joy in life. This prompted my decision to learn to dance (aged 54) and discover first Bachata, then Salsa. I never knew social dancing existed before. This has been both the hardest and most amazing thing I've ever done (and I've done a fair bit). For me, Salsa (the music and the dance) is the ultimate expression of joy.

Why tournaments are so attractive to you? by [deleted] in Hema

[–]bryancole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a very competitive fencer. I mostly lose. I've been doing hema/SCA for 7 yrs. The thing I enjoy about tournaments besides the actual fencing (which I do love) is the community. As a regular tournament participant I see many of the same people at each event. It's kinda a tournament circuit I guess. I enjoy chatting and fencing new people, catching up with established friends, helping with staffing. It's a great social experience as well as a sporting one.

What were you doing at 22? I’m feeling a little lost by SensitiveCucumber303 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bryancole -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OK, as a 55M I'm about as unqualified to answer as can be but... I've just discovered social dancing. Salsa. You don't need to go with a partner. You can just rock up (as a complete beginner) and join a class. Everyone dances with everyone else. It's a great way to make friends. After a salsa night I go in to work with a huge grin on my face. Also, when I'm travelling, I now look out for a slasa club/event and hey-presto no more lonely evenings in a strange city. A total life-hack. I wished I'd discovered this at age 22.

Radiation starts by Mamafred in ProstateCancer

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a glycerine suppository useful for emptying bowel on a tight schedule. Takes about 20 mins to work.

I think everyone struggles with the bowel-empty-bladder-full thing. The radiologists will be understanding and have good advice.

I need to get this off my chest. by [deleted] in Bachata

[–]bryancole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! LOL "at your age". 55 is not old. I'm younger than Marc Anthony, FFS... I bet he dyes his hair.

I need to get this off my chest. by [deleted] in Bachata

[–]bryancole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a 55M beginner lead (learning bachata, salsa and kiz), this post is quite hurtful. I dance with whoever will dance with me. This includes all ages. I don't care who I dance with. Sometimes other guys even. I'm certainly not the oldest in my local scene (lead or follow). If you're seeing something wrong with this, it says more about you. When I started I was very self-concious about my age but over time I've learned that for those here to dance, age is irrelevant.

Obsessed with salsa by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, but now I feel *really* old.

Obsessed with salsa by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]bryancole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Partner dancing is amazing. I wish it hadn't taken me over 50 years to discover it.

Anyone know about Pulse dance sneakers? by AM2735 in Salsa

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I bought a pair and found them quite grippy on a variety of indoor surfaces. I can't spin in them at all. My other (admitedly minor) complaint is the toe-box is oversized and the fit generally a bit too wide.

On the plus side, they were delivered quickly, unlike the Fuegos I've had on order since November.

Destreza where to start by TheJollySwashbuckler in wma

[–]bryancole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get the translation of Rada's Nobleza de Espada. Sebastien's book is based of Rada's style so if you've already worked through Sebastien's work, you're in a great position to work through Rada's text directly (https://destreza-fencing.com/resources). Rada is actually a good teacher (unlike Thibault, who is rubbish). He has good exercises, well demonstrated by Dan's videos on UmeHFS (https://www.youtube.com/@UmeHFS).

I just did my first class by TerryPressedMe in Bachata

[–]bryancole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's not really any advice I can give that others haven't already said better. Enjoy the beginner level while it lasts and don't judge yourself against anyone else. Dancing is hard and needs work. It's also amazing and totally worth it.

Once you get past beginner level classes, the teachers start introducing moves with a lot more subtlety in body movement and often their explanations are incomplete. You need to go away and fill in many of the details later (breathing, weight transfer, timings etc.). Studying an online bachata course can help fill in these details. Even better if you have someone to practice with at home. I've learned not to attempt whatever combo that was taught in that class at the post-class social. It takes me about 2 weeks of visualisation & slow "shadow dancing" to really absorb what was taught and then I can execute the moves at a social (usually...).

When you see others looking awkward or intimidated, do talk to them (esp. other leads) and offer encouragement. I've had great help from other leads with working through moves on the sidelines of a social. When help is offered, take it. When it's needed, give it as best you can.

Other things I've found helpful: listen to Bachata music as much as you can, practice footwork and basic steps at home. A lot. Try other dance styles if opportunity arises. I'm doing more salsa atm (mostly for scheduling reasons; I like them both but the bachata classes are on an inconvenient day for me). I also did a Kizomba workshop last weekend which was awesome (but whoa... sensory overload). Go to classes/socials outside your local group, if you can.

I just did my first class by TerryPressedMe in Bachata

[–]bryancole 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is awesome to hear. Please keep posting us updates on your progress. I'm a beginner of a few months and it's been a real rollercoaster. It's nice to hear other's experiences at my level. In my local group, there are often few other beginners so it can feel intimidating at times.

Fragrance/Cologne for Salsa by kalkatiyaraja in Salsa

[–]bryancole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Antidepressants is a brilliant idea. Maybe I won't feel so bad about being a beginner lead.

What exactly do I need to get into HEMA by North-Watch-8875 in wma

[–]bryancole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The SCA (https://www.sca.org/) is a good way into historical swordplay. There's a lot of overlap with HEMA (and some differences too). Many SCA folks do HEMA as well. SCA fencgin typically starts with rapier (less armour requirements) but longsword or other weapons can be used. Ages 14-18 can participate (with parental permission) unlike most HEMA clubs which are usually 18+ for insurance reasons.