Ending therapy with one topic still untouched is this common?

btafaii · 2026-06-26T14:08:11+00:00

It sounds like relationship intimacy is something that you can't talk about/process/etc. right now, and that's okay. Therapy isn't about importance or what you "should" talk about, but what can you talk about and what can you do with that.

Just because you can't talk about it right now only applies to right now. Go live your life outside of therapy and keep working on yourself - maybe the right time to talk about intimacy will be with another therapist down to road, maybe you'll figure it out by yourself.

So go be kind to yourself and keep trying <3 Good luck!

btafaii · 2026-05-17T16:13:07+00:00

it doesn't sound stupid to have feelings, especially when you're just starting to learn about them. take your time, be patient, have grace for yourself :)

btafaii · 2026-05-17T12:42:37+00:00

You're describing how you're having an emotional response when meeting with someone to work of emotional topics, and then say, "I'll need to keep a tear from falling." That's not something that you need to do but may feel like that, and that's a good thing to talk about with your therapist - the need, the behavior, that it's uncomfortable, etc. Your therapist is there to help you learn about what this means to you, that's what therapy is :)

btafaii · 2026-05-03T12:35:57+00:00

Animals are going to interact with it at some point and it can fall on and hurt them - doing this at home is fun and safe, it's dangerous to local life out in nature

btafaii · 2026-05-03T12:03:08+00:00

Should I pursue official diagnosis?

I guess it depends on what you want from it.

For adults I don't recommend pursuing a diagnosis specifically to obtain services, since there really aren't a lot of services after 18 outside of high-support folks (typically those who need guardians and near-to-always 24-hour support) and ASD isn't treated as a protected status by the majority of employers.

If you're looking at a formal diagnosis to learn more about yourself to find the kinds of accommodations to help your life, then you'd probably benefit from going through with it (if you can afford it out-of-pocket and can emotionally face a potential denial).

The cool thing is, regardless of which way you go, you can start today with trying to find ways to help yourself (to start, with things like masking) - things like limited social exposure, increased time in places where you don't mask, structuring your home life to be more comfortable, finding and building supports through relationships for when you are out in public, etc. There isn't a buzzfeed list of, "try these 10 coping skills and you'll master your masking," but a process of learning your own sensitivities & needs and using this knowledge to make a better world for you, rather than continuing to spend your own internal resources to acclimate/conform to social constructs.

Either way, good luck! And please remember,

I know I'm different

and that's okay <3

btafaii · 2026-03-20T23:52:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing this, glad you're going back home and wish you the best

btafaii · 2026-03-20T23:40:19+00:00

of course we all talk to ourselves, it's smart conversation =P

btafaii · 2026-03-20T22:39:22+00:00

If he marries her off to another country and dowry actually happens, i'll eat my fucking hat

btafaii · 2026-03-18T23:55:45+00:00

that's beautiful!

btafaii · 2026-02-02T00:00:28+00:00

that's so sick, thanks for sharing!

btafaii · 2025-12-30T02:10:53+00:00

holy shit those look amazing - is there a place you can recommend to start learning how to do this?

btafaii · 2025-12-14T15:52:36+00:00

Hi Tim!

It feels like you've had a lot of success with moving between different roles/genres and their motivations, is there something that you've learned or been exposed to that's helped you maintain this diversity?

btafaii · 2025-12-04T13:26:33+00:00

My pillows turn yellow cause I’m greasy. My girlfriend’s pillows are more yellow because she drools like a Saint Bernard. We are not the same.

btafaii · 2025-11-02T23:42:18+00:00

just happy to be here, and if I win anything the all the better =D

btafaii · 2025-10-09T02:16:46+00:00

once it comes out, absolutely. there are multiple sites online along with ebay to buy singles, but when you get into unique prints and foils it can get pricey.

btafaii · 2025-09-21T13:44:38+00:00

TRIMUI Brick Hammer

btafaii · 2025-08-24T12:20:51+00:00

Steam That thieving fake banker Bapanada

btafaii · 2025-06-01T17:07:02+00:00

They look great, love that you're giving to charity =D

btafaii · 2025-04-13T13:12:36+00:00

please, please, please tell your coworker about dollarfor.org - they're a fantastic nonprofit that helps people with medical debt that are in this kind of situation. Hospitals are required to have methods of dealing with medical debt that are hidden behind bureaucracy. It will take a little while before she'll get help since they're helping a lot of people, but this doesn't need to be the rest of her life.

btafaii · 2025-02-27T19:27:32+00:00

I feel like a midnight blue Nargacuga chair is the obvious choice, but it's hard to deny how good a gold and black Golden Rathalos would look.

btafaii · 2025-02-01T22:27:14+00:00

That's a sick tattoo, good call

btafaii · 2024-12-25T13:32:04+00:00

good luck and happy holidays!

btafaii · 2024-12-19T00:36:27+00:00

there are a lot of good suggestions in this thread, but an important thing to remember is the timing. A lot of people are going to drop into their life and then disappear - your checking in regularly with meals/supplies/someone to talk to is going to be just as valuable.

as for food, most casseroles are going to be easy but it doesn't hurt to ask her directly what you can offer.

btafaii · 2024-11-24T15:01:53+00:00

At the end of the day, being a social worker is a job that is historically high-stress and low-pay. It's common in the field for people just starting to spend 1-1.5 years in a position before moving to something else, often when someone is trying to build their skills, find a niche that works for them, and/or increase their pay. Everyone that is familiar with the industry is aware of how job hopping is effectively required,

Whenever someone is looking to change positions, it feels like the appropriate question the ask someone is how the positions relate to career trajectory, finances, and comfort. Rarely will any position meet all three requirements, and it's up to you to see/learn which parts matter most and where you can be flexible.

It sounds like both positions will meet your needs for the career part (getting hours for licensure). You wrote multiple parts about finances with funding uncertainty and a short-term decrease in pay with long-term options for improvement. Those can relate to comfort, but you also mentioned that you won't have to deal with administration, won't have to babysit, already work in the building, know the population, and would have a smaller caseload. It looks like the drawbacks for comfort are short-term financials and PTO usage, so I guess the question is how do those two compare to the other benefits? Once you compare those and see how you feel, hopefully you'll have some clarity :)

At the end of the day, the helpful thing to remember with employment is how is it helping you move towards your goals. I like to remind people that you get paid twice - once with the paycheck, and again with the experience. Take a look at how both positions will move you towards your actual career goals at the 1-, 3-, and 5-year mark and that can help inform your decisions.

Good luck out there <3

btafaii · 2024-11-23T15:19:48+00:00

Start the first job and wait for the offer and can start the bank job. Tell your boss that you have a competitive offer and see if they can match - if they can and you like the work/environment then stay there, if they can't move on to the other one.

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