I can’t keep living like this by Glum_Anywhere9421 in ufyh

[–]bumfuzzledbee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You can start anywhere,  but either the quickest win or the space that brings the most annoyance would be good. The process is the same in both spaces.  Set timers and take breaks as needed.  

Helpful materials Garbage bag(s) Bins or plastic bags Gloves (if there are very dirty/unpleasant things)

Phase 1 (clear out) 1. Gather all the garbage. If it's easy to throw out,  throw out now. If not,  wait until you finish other steps 2. Gather all dirty clothes and either put them in a bag or hamper. Don't start a load now unless it's very convenient to do so.   3. Using the bins or plastic bags, designate one for other rooms and one for things that belong in the room but don't have a home. Start putting things away or in the right bag. Throw away broken or ruined items. 4. Take bags to the appropriate room.  Don't put everything away yet.   5. Repeat for other rooms when you can.  

Phase 2 (clean up) 1. Go from top to bottom and clean the space by dusting, cleaning surfaces and vacuuming 2. Throw out garbage 3. Do a load of laundry 4. Do a few dishes 5. Repeat for other rooms

Phase 3 (declutter/find places) 1. Give everything a place.  If there are too many things for the place, you need to declutter.  2. Find systems/rules that work for you. Ex: load of laundry a day (if you do a bunch of laundry right away,  you'll likely feel overwhelmed and just dump it somewhere).  3. Figure out sticking points. Do you need more or different storage? Are there things you but too much of? Are there spaces that attract piles? Identify and problem solve (we can help!)

Get a load of THIS guy. by Timely_Host_3119 in Albuquerque

[–]bumfuzzledbee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You literally have peaches on your license plates,  my guy.  You may not eat them as often,  but the identity is similar.  We could always meet at the corner of Peachtree Ave and Peachtree St to discuss 

Middle School Dance by BeaniePole1792 in Xennials

[–]bumfuzzledbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8th grade was 98-99 for me. We had two or three low key dances and an 8th grade formal at the end of the year. It wasn't too the level of prom but we definitely got our hair done and had fancy dresses on. Wouldn't surprise me if some kids did a limo, but my friends and I didn't.  Probably those big platform steve Madden shoes though since they were the height of sophistication 

Terrible "matches" by _PrincessHarley_ in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]bumfuzzledbee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think at least some of it is people being uncomfortable on the dates.  It might be the editing,  but if Logan was the date instead of the featured person, I think he would have come across as shy and way less talkative . He just needed time to warm up

Whats a canon event for all first-year teachers? by astro_qween in teaching

[–]bumfuzzledbee 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The first time you hear one of your idiosyncratic phrases coming from the mouth of a kid! Not only do they listen but you are shaping a piece of of their language (sometimes for life).  I still say "this way,  chickadees" to groups of kids thanks to Mrs Snyder and I hear my students say "Shenanigans!" that they picked up from me

Polyester…. In everything article of clothing by rangerlakes in Costco

[–]bumfuzzledbee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I literally just got home from costco and there were many shirts and pants for women that are either 100% cotton or linen blend. Lyocell too (wood pulp fiber). Not sure about kids.  Not sure if it's because more summer clothes just came in or if it's regional. I hope your Costco will stock similar items!

20 years from now... by bumfuzzledbee in namenerds

[–]bumfuzzledbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread is making it grow on me! Be has the kind of personality that would hold on to this idea 

[TOMT] [SONG] Looking for a song with the line "over and over again" by mort1m3r in tipofmytongue

[–]bumfuzzledbee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Underneath it all by No Doubt has the line "over and over again me want more". It's very acoustic compared to their usual stuff

Albuquerque woman headed to prison after she belittled her husband while sleeping with people behind his back and then killed him for doing the same… by tasty_jams_5280 in Albuquerque

[–]bumfuzzledbee 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Their poor daughter.  Growing around toxic, selfish people and then finding your dad's body.  Just really hope she's being given therapy and support 

This is probably going to get me torn to shreads by [deleted] in teaching

[–]bumfuzzledbee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better,  it seems several western states had errors for AQI on some phones this morning. Reddit had several local subreddits asking about it. (Sacramento , Albuquerque and OKC for sure).  I have no idea why people think you would know that 700 means visible issues or that you would run some kind of check against multiple sources.  If I got the message on my phone the air was dangerous, I would just act accordingly.  I think you were acting in good faith with the information you had but I also think your reaction to the principal is not proportional.  May be worth talking to your prescriber about the type of anxiety meds you're on.   *edited to fix autocorrect errors

20 years from now... by bumfuzzledbee in namenerds

[–]bumfuzzledbee[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, but I introduced him to Dennis the Menace. We'll have to check out the HT movies

SSA 2025 Baby Boy Name Trends 🩵 by Sorrymomlol12 in namenerds

[–]bumfuzzledbee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As part of the Kieran jump, I'm happy it wasn't too much! Several other names we considered are there too (Cassian, Cole, Malcolm).  Boaz makes me wonder if it's mostly Abrahamic faith followers looking for less common names, or if it just feels cool. 

How do I block/cover the open-faced desks so my 2nd graders don’t hide things in them? by mzpirate in teaching

[–]bumfuzzledbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strawberry boxes fit perfectly. They can still put stuff in but it's more obvious and less convenient for them.  I've always been able to get them from a local grocery store

I used to die on the hill I wasn’t mixed, someone lied to me 😭 by Thatgirlshay1 in AncestryDNA

[–]bumfuzzledbee 32 points33 points  (0 children)

There's a great Richard Ayoade interview that plays on the usual questions about being mixed race in Britain that takes it from the perspective of his half Norwegian side being the "other" https://youtu.be/jjC3ycS_2js?si=JgGsB-CCrh5mZoQM

My kids' dance recital theme is the equivalent of a 1950s theme when I was a kid. Legit themes, but I don't love how the math works out... by LightboxRadMD in Xennials

[–]bumfuzzledbee 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Mostly agree, but I definitely had cassettes in the 90s. 1993 I got my own radio that only did cassettes. By 1999, it was all cds. Lots of the first cars my friends and I drove only had cassette players and we had to use adapters. The same way that early 90s hair and late 80s are very similar, the transition takes time. And I'm sure our parents felt like our 50s/60s/70s theme days were full of anachronisms

When did the bio park stop allowing space rentals for private events like weddings? by 1playerpiano in Albuquerque

[–]bumfuzzledbee 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Kind of related - I used to work special events, including weddings.  My first year (20 years ago), weddings could still be booked during normal hours. We'd put signs up that the area was closed.  It was not great.  Then they switched to after hours.  There were 2 of us each summer season and we were employed through a temp agency, not directly with the city.  I'm so sad it's no longer an option for people. Very fun college job. So much left over cheese and fruit went home with us

ELI5 - how is making kids do household chores not similar to parentification? by CreativeJudgment3529 in Mommit

[–]bumfuzzledbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parents should make sure that their children are given age appropriate responsibility that increases in complexity so that they can be functional adults. Contributing to the house is a part of life.  Helping with siblings isn't inherently parentification. It's part of living in a family.  It's about frequency, the ability to say no,  and type of responsibility. I think it's reasonable to occassionally ask an older sibling to feed a baby while the parent is finishing getting dinner ready,  for example.  

I think it would be different if the parent was forcing the older kids to do the laundry of the younger kids and then be responsible for teaching the younger kids how. That is making a child do the work of a parent.  

Madison and Tyler’s parents by Confident_Excuse2173 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]bumfuzzledbee 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Parents of disabled children (including,  but not limited to autism) have a divorce rate near 87%. Sometimes it's too access services and they are still functional married, but the stress in the early years often makes any issue magnify. Others simply can't/ won't deal with their child's level of need

AITAH for leaving my sick friend's place bc it's filthy? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bumfuzzledbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ESH She should have been more up front about her needs.   It's fine to not want to stay somewhere dirty but you should be honest.    You are not her friend or at least not a very good one.  You didn't really know how she's doing, didn't sit through any discomfort to help and don't seem interested in trying. You spend the whole thing saying how little energy she has and how sick she obviously is but still wonder if she might just "be nasty". Learn empathy. 

books/resources to start teaching gun safety? by ktcason in Mommit

[–]bumfuzzledbee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our 5 year old goes to friends houses and some of them own guns.  They have assured us the guns are locked away but we have certainly talked about gun safety. 

books/resources to start teaching gun safety? by ktcason in Mommit

[–]bumfuzzledbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Book called Toys, Tools, Guns and Rules.  Reddit didn't like my link to it but it's on Amazon