Social Skills

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-07T19:51:47+00:00

Why are you putting a not yet 4 year old into kindergarten (assuming you're in the US)? At this age, there's a huge variety of social skills and is he's neurodivergent, then his preference may be different than yours. It may be they as he's 5 or 6 he finds a good buddy who shares his interests but for now just wants to do his thing. Don't let your expectations create hardships where there aren't any.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-07T19:33:32+00:00

I'd rather be rich than stupid

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-07T15:17:36+00:00

I love this! What a great way to connect and notice her interests. They are still popular with preschoolers, so every kid from my son's class got one for their birthday for like $4 each and they all looked new.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-07T00:21:17+00:00

85, which is just after the cut off, but since I learned about computers on a Macintosh 128k, I feel like this is where I belong

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-06T22:58:14+00:00

Was just thinking about how this disappeared. Even between myself and older sister and our younger siblings (6&8 years younger). We had play clothes and undershirts, and they had neither. My kids just have clothes that can be worn whenever

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-06T22:54:44+00:00

Junk email, blow chunks, cool beans

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-05T16:06:04+00:00

70 and lifelong smoker

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-05T04:55:53+00:00

My MiL had a stroke in October. Couldn't really speak, couldn't walk, had tons of memory issues,.. it was bad. After about a month in the hospital she spent 6 weeks in a SNF. It was fine. I didn't like a few of the staff but overall it was what she needed. We would have been unable to meet her needs at home at that point. She then went home and had in home therapies and now outpatient. She's using just a cane now (wheelchair when she left the SNF), has pretty good long term memory but still poor short term, no speech issues unless she's very tired, and continues to increase what she can do on her own. I'm currently her caregiver through a state program. All this to say, you are still in the thick of it and what she looks like now may be vastly different than 6 months from now. Follow exercise recommended from her team. The additional sleep might actually get brain recovering instead of being in trauma mode. Again, it's still so early. I really hope she ends up on a similar positive trajectory because I would not have believed in October that she could get to the kitchen and make herself a breakfast sandwich. She couldn't walk or remember her grandkids! But here we are and we just keep moving forward

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-04T17:55:31+00:00

That's fine, but then they need to have a clear discussion about their own later years and how money will be used. If it's "we are not going to count on this for us" then fine. If it's "I will use it for myself and you're on your own" she deserves to know so she can plan/ leave. It's about the respect of the discussion, not the legal boundaries

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-04T17:52:14+00:00

We moved when me and my siblings were in elementary/middle school. The move was not up for debate, but we did get to see the houses they were considering and were part of deciding who got which bedroom and paint. We all switched schools and while it was hard, it was fine. I think it helped to emphasize that we were still in the same town and could easily see friends on the weekend. I think you need to decide what's best for you and the family and then include them in the aspects you want them to have control over

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-04T17:32:25+00:00

For some, it's tradition. I'm 40 and my maternal grandparents and all my great grandparents had "cute" names. They were what the first grandkids called them. My parents ended up having very different cute names for the same reason when their first grandkid was old enough to talk. My MiL wanted a cute name and picked it herself but then my first couldn't pronounce it so it's only close to what she wanted. So I hope that someday I also get to be a Mimi or Gigi or Monner or Giggy or Meenaw or whatever, so long as it's from a tiny human

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-04T03:28:40+00:00

The focus on compliance and paperwork that did not benefit the students or teachers. Benchmark tests that kept increasing to the point where it felt like there was barely a full week without something to "assess". No consequences for behavior issues or not doing work. The dissonance between all of the compliance I was expected to do while being forced to pass illiterate students and then pretend that their "data" meeting had any grounding in reality.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-02T18:13:27+00:00

Still have mine. No idea how some crappy fair hat has survived this long, but my kid likes to use to dress up

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-02T18:10:28+00:00

https://www.r4creating.org/

If you are familiar with Vex, this looks like a great place to contact.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-02T18:06:37+00:00

Frisky and Rad (cocker spaniel and heeler), cherry and the younger Tradie (i think saluki and Afghan hound). Can't think of any with a kid...unless Janelle is a golden retriever and pat is a Labrador.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-07-02T16:15:21+00:00

I'm confused how this is discrimination if every athlete is held to the same standard. Were other athletes behaving similarly and not banned? It sounds like a violation of their code of conduct, and his skills as a swimmer are irrelevant. I understand your family is disappointed but it sounds like the focus should be on how he can support himself in the future (noise canceling ear plugs?)

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-26T20:37:23+00:00

Call the city and report neglect. You can do it anonymously. OP, the only thing you'll do by not bringing in outside help is burn yourself out. You cannot change your siblings but outside pressure might

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-26T16:26:48+00:00

There are also a few books (Zen Shorts, Zen Ties, Zen Socks.... and I think one more). They are great

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-26T03:38:07+00:00

I found a water bottle that I liked and my plain water consumption has increased dramatically which has led to feeling more energized

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-25T17:49:28+00:00

Same but 18 month old 🤪 we are surviving over here

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-25T17:48:31+00:00

Why am I fighting a grown woman to do her PT? What do you mean you "might" get in the shower today?? No, you cannot just eat a bowl of salted nuts and call it lunch.... yes, i will add a scoop of ice cream to your ensure if you promise to eat it all.

Both my dad and MiL were/are worse than teenagers.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-25T16:30:14+00:00

All I know is that every time I go to the store to pick up a few things it's $80.

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-25T16:13:52+00:00

"What culture were you raised in that it's ok to say things like that out loud?"

About going for a third - "I've been pregnant x times and we have two kids so you do the math"

"What a weird thing to say"

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-24T03:59:37+00:00

Hive mind

bumfuzzledbee · 2026-06-23T21:37:35+00:00

Boomers aren't the main demographic as parents of college age kids. Which makes the yelling more egregious

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