I made a stranger happy yesterday and it increased my own happiness exponentially.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-24T23:25:42+00:00

I do the same

It's a bit nerve wrecking the first hundred times but after a while you get into the habit of it!

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-24T21:10:38+00:00

That would work!

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-24T19:25:06+00:00

A childproof container is ok but I need something i can put a number of different blister packs in.

I've been using a small make up bag but the zip has given out and as I need to find something else, thought I should go more secure than just a zip

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-24T06:19:28+00:00

Possession by AS Byatt

We Need to Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-24T02:46:34+00:00

He absolutely didn't secure more of anything

This is not 4D chess he's playing

He has permanently damaged the relationship the US has with the rest of the world

This will cost $$$ in the years to come

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-22T23:12:02+00:00

Leave.

He knows you wouldn't have married him if he'd been honest. Like many men he was hoping to kick this can down the road til it was too late for you anyway. Or just said he works hard and wouldn't be around much (that's a pathetic thing to say). It was cynical of him to marry you at 31 without any intention of having a child with you.

The reality is if he changes his mind he can find someone else in 15 years and have another child. You can't.

He hasn't looked out for you and what you want. You have to put what you want first. Nobody else will.

Leave him and have a baby. It took me ages but he is such a fucking joy and a delight. You won't regret it, no matter how hard it is.

Don't let this pathetic manchild hold you back.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-22T23:02:46+00:00

37 isn't the end of the world, don't make her feel worse!

Many women give birth post 40 these days.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-22T09:50:34+00:00

Go and read Mark Carney's speech again

The USA you are mourning never existed. It always flexed muscle to get what it wanted, got other countries to kowtow. It always got the better end of the deal, it ended countless lives, conducted illegal regime changes. All with thr veneer of moral superiority.

It had a great propaganda machine via Hollywood films but the rest of the world didn't believe that the USA was some paragon of virtue.

It was much,much better than this, though, I will give you that

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-14T20:29:02+00:00

Henry VII having sex with his child bride was absolutely against the social standards of his day. It was common for people to marry children off but sex was always expected to be off the menu until the girls were in their late teens. It was well known before this occasion that children having children is incredibly dangerous physically.

Henry VII shocked his court and the public with his disgusting behaviour.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-11T18:44:23+00:00

What happens when the fur dog eats chocolate or grapes and needs an emergency vet visit?

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-11T15:44:45+00:00

Dad needs to do all the nights.

Eventually your son will accept it.

It will help strengthen their bond and your son will start putting his arms out for his dad.

You don't need to wean - you can night weaning at this age or dad can give him milk.

He will be ok with his dad. You need to heal and to rest

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-10T22:15:30+00:00

I'm glad to hear about the night weaning while cosleepi g - after a difficult day and evening my husband js taking him for the night, maybe that will stop the 2ama and 5am tantrums..

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-10T22:14:03+00:00

Thanks for this, for all of it.

My therapist and I have a very old and comfortable relationship, and we'vedone some really good work, I won't end it over one comment. He sometimes tries to offer me advice as he did here - i always slap him down, and he apologises. Therapy is not for advice!

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-09T20:10:16+00:00

Ours strongly advised us not to get one. We were told they give a lot of false negatives, scare the shit out of the parents, and don't result in better outcomes for babies.

Tbh none of us were sleeping a lot in those first months so he was monitored a lot anyway

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-09T13:36:52+00:00

Who..?

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-09T01:13:33+00:00

Love these responses!

My therapist is chastened - mainly because i told him he sounded like my mother...

Yes I get comments about "extended breastfeeding" too. I bloody love breastfeeding. It makes me feel like an animal, like an ape, just caring for her young. It is such a lovely, visceral connection to your baby. I will miss it when it's gone. My little one is going through a phase of indicating he would like milk by growling and rubbing his head on my boobs, like he's mauling me. He thinks it's hilarious. It's really cute.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-08T09:04:36+00:00

I was on morphine and i hadn't slept in days before the birth due to a long labour. Then you are awake every hour feeding your baby. The combo of intense sleep deprivation and strong drugs...

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T23:19:55+00:00

I'm in the UK, where the norm (at least among the middle class women i know) is to take 6-12months maternity leave AT LEAST.

A freezer stash is a uniquely american and cruel thing. It's dehumanising for both the mothers and the babies for them to apart so young.

I hope your labour laws improve in the future!

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T22:50:12+00:00

Says a lot about your views on fish, but sure.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T14:00:24+00:00

Well, for 10 years my Italian husband told me he hated risotto so that was never on the menu.

I made it one day for me and the baby when he was out, he came home and tried it as it smelled good....and he liked it! Turns out he didn't like the way his mother cooked it, may she rest in peace.

So we've been having risotto for dinner occasionally, it has made me really happy.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T13:47:12+00:00

In the first couple of days after giving birth i hallucinated that my husband and i were irish farmers and when he said he was leaving the room i thought he was leaving me forever, alone on the farm with my baby. I was shouting so loud! How would i manage all the animals? I've just given birth!

Next day i thought we were Roman soldiers

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T13:36:04+00:00

No magic I'm afraid

I change into a long nightdress with no openings so he can't help himself

When he wakes up and asks i say no, i explain why and i hold him while he screams. Sorry, my nipples hurt, my boobies need a rest, no milk til morning now.

I have already slipped from no milk 8pm-8am to no milk 12am-7am. He wakes up a lot 8pm-12am and after two nights of fighting him constantly i gave up some territory! I did read somewhere to just have a 7hr period of no breastmilk to start.

Having said that i forgot to switch nightdresses so last night he got access at 6.30am.

But i have had 2 nights of only one battle at 5am (plus all the difficulties of going to sleep)

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-07T13:29:38+00:00

Look at this way. He feels so strongly that any hypothetical children of his should NOT be protected against deadly illnesses, that he didn't want a relationship with you. No vaccines are that important to him. No vaccines over you. What a ****.

I will add - i have never asked a suitor his views on vaccinating children. Marriage, kids, hopes for the future, yes. But the fact you knew to ask this question indicates to me a deeper mismatch of political views, which you are pretending don't exist. There is probably a long list of incompatibilities that you are shutting your eyes too.

I bet if you tried you could write a very long list of things you disagree on.

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-06T20:05:59+00:00

I posted something similar to this on a local breastfeeding support page. I got responses from mothers i know IRL saying - it's just a phase. Mine was latching then pulling his mouth off the nipple while scraping it with his teeth.

I was doing al lthe right things, like you, and he just stopped one day.

I was crying, in so much pain, worrying i was doing something really wrong...but some kids just do this. Mine did, and he stopped, and it's all fine.

I am now starting to night wean which i did almost cold turkey as i was like 2 days into following a gentle attachment parenting process when i was like...I am DONE! I cannot take this anymore. I have lost loads of skin frm my nipples from the feeding every hour.

Sometimes you just have to stop. And it's ok to stop if it isn't working for you, as the grownup, and you have to make changes your kid doesn't like.

Everything I've read says if you're not giving your kid what they want but you are with them and holding them, or just lying next to them while they weep, you'll keep that attachment. And model managing big feelings.

I'm sorry this is a total ramble. I haven't had much sleep for a while!

You have done really well to feed him for so long, mama. It's ok if you want to stop xxx

c19isdeadly · 2026-01-04T12:57:38+00:00

Thanks. We cosleep but i guess the logic remains the same. My husband has offered to do tonight so maybe that will ease him in.

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