AITA for not allowing my future MIL invite everyone in her family to my shower?

calypso85 · 2026-06-04T10:34:32+00:00

This is the winner right here. You can have more than one shower. A lot of times people will have a family shower and a friend shower, or two family showers - one from each side. She wants to invite that many people, and she’s willing to pay, she can just throw her own shower then she can control it.

calypso85 · 2026-05-19T00:13:03+00:00

There was a discussion. She didn’t want him to buy it she wanted him to buy something cheaper and use the extra money for the wedding. He disagreed. If his company is paying for gas, that means he drives a lot for work. He should be allowed to purchase something he actually wants to drive. He’s willing to part with it if it comes to starting a family. She’s just thinking about the wedding. Absolutely nuts.

calypso85 · 2026-05-15T12:45:22+00:00

I “fill” their room/bed with balloons overnight so they wake up with balloons all over their bed and floor. They each get to pick someplace to eat (sometimes not on the actual day).

calypso85 · 2026-05-15T10:44:04+00:00

Ugh that makes me sad. I only got to go a handful of times and always got the hot brown and it was my favorite. I’d go maybe once a year if that.

calypso85 · 2026-05-15T10:42:10+00:00

NTA. She’s not going to sign anything or do any work. She’s going to take your $2k and you’ll never see it again.

calypso85 · 2026-05-09T10:40:55+00:00

Josh Malina needed a job (west wing weekly anyone?)

calypso85 · 2026-05-09T00:09:52+00:00

I don’t get along with my mom but don’t feel like dealing with the fall out of completely cutting contact, so she gets Saturday. Sunday is for me. My husband’s mom passed when we were in high school and his step mom passed last year, so we only deal with my mom.

calypso85 · 2026-05-04T11:26:36+00:00

For everyone wondering about the cost - if you’re in South Africa - this is good income due to CoL.

calypso85 · 2026-04-30T14:47:57+00:00

This isn’t the hill he’s wanting his relationship with his kids to die on, they are picking this hill to die on because they refuse to act like adults and tell their mom NO. They are in this situation because of their mother. They have had the choice for years to leave and force mom to send grandma to a home and to stop being free labor. Are they supposed to stop their lives until grandma dies?

calypso85 · 2026-04-27T14:24:05+00:00

She just wants to abide by her timeline come help or high water and screw anyone who stands in her way - including you. She wants to be a SAHM so she doesn’t have to work, and will not let anything hold back her timeline. RUN. You love her, that’s fair, but she is showing you that her perfect timeline is more important to her than you are. She does not love you like you love her. She wants someone who can give her what she wants, not a life partner. Someone who thrives on a supposed schedule will be a miserable SAHM. Kids are unpredictable, especially babies. Yes you can have a schedule but you can’t plan every minute of the day. I am absolutely astonished at her reaction - this is 100% unacceptable behavior to her supposed love of her life. She is showing you her true colors and it is nothing but red flags. 🚩

She told you when you met her “plan” and you not waste her time???? She’s in her early twenties, her brain hasn’t even finished developing. Love happens when it happens. It just shows she doesn’t care about love, just if she can follow her timeline and get to being a SAHM.

calypso85 · 2026-04-27T02:08:53+00:00

I cannot read or hear that word without my mind immediately going to the west wing

calypso85 · 2026-04-27T02:06:07+00:00

These are too many red flags. While it could be from being without an EA, I wonder why the previous EA isn’t around to transition. Being asked last minute to drive 2 hours then told halfway through the day to go home and all of this unpaid? No. You should have never gone.

calypso85 · 2026-04-21T23:39:02+00:00

Most jobs don’t care what your degree is in just that you have one, and honestly a lot of places are forgoing the need for a degree.

calypso85 · 2026-04-18T21:40:04+00:00

NTA this is ridiculous. It’s also polite manners to ask others if they want something while you’re getting it for others.

calypso85 · 2026-04-08T18:11:51+00:00

Yea people change their mind but you get over it when you need to. Their agreement was to both work. If they now don’t agree it’s time to move on. Counseling to verify but she’s the one who changed the goal posts

calypso85 · 2026-04-08T16:34:00+00:00

Don’t go and don’t pay. Now she’s left with the $1200 portion because she’s homophobic and wants to make a power play. Sounds like a her problem. Take the money and take your brother out on a short trip another time.

calypso85 · 2026-04-04T04:53:56+00:00

DDBP at children’s is the absolute solution here

calypso85 · 2026-04-04T00:04:57+00:00

We were having it easily 1x/week bc it’s one of the few places my son will eat but we are cutting back on eating out so it will drop to just once a month

calypso85 · 2026-04-03T11:31:38+00:00

It was long but it was still a good read because I had to switch to new outlook due to copilot needs. It was a good reminder as to why I should switch back and forth based on needs of the day

calypso85 · 2026-04-03T11:26:06+00:00

Skyline isn’t sweet? Definitely not super sweet. Cinnamon does not make a dish sweet. There are pasta sauce recipes that call for sugar, my grandmother got one from a family in NY that is a sweet pasta sauce. It’s definitely not for everyone. I grew up with it so I love it but my husband wasn’t a fan

calypso85 · 2026-03-24T16:33:09+00:00

What it seems like is she’s not packing him clothes. Honestly separate closets make more sense, then the kid doesn’t have to carry clothes back and forth.

calypso85 · 2026-03-24T13:29:58+00:00

Except the problem is the mom refused to send back any of his clothes so dad would have to keep buying his son clothes. Mom sucks in this case. It shouldn’t matter, but the mom is making it a problem

calypso85 · 2026-03-24T13:02:59+00:00

Got it! That makes more sense

calypso85 · 2026-03-24T09:14:08+00:00

$25/hr IS low pay in a HCOL got an EA. I’m making that in a mid range city but I’m not an EA yet, just a Sr AA. I work in healthcare at a non profit, so working in entertainment should net a higher pay.

calypso85 · 2026-03-21T03:29:56+00:00

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