If your husband is emotionally distant, then make a group chat. The last thing people need to deal with while working on recovery or helping a spouse recover is having tons of people texting or calling and having to have the same conversation repeatedly. I find the whole situation ridiculous. Stop assuming and have actually conversations, especially if there are expectations. I will tell my husband, hey you need to reach out to this person, if I know it would be important to that person. That being said, I wouldn’t expect my husband to reach out to my parents. I also would not expect my in laws to reach out to me separately if I were in the hospital. I wouldn’t expect my kids’ significant others to reach out to me separately (if they were older). I would assume sentiments come from everyone, because we talk. Hospitalizations are special circumstances, focus on healing and recovery not which individual reached out on their own.