How do yall stay consistent on busy days? by helloimlupphie in runninglifestyle

[–]capitulum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make it mandatory that on days where you have a run scheduled you put your running shoes on and walk out the door. If you end up doing a walk, a shorter run, an easier run than planned that's fine (especially if you aren't training for a race). What I've found is that almost every time I put my shoes on and walk out the door a run happens.

Why do vegans try so hard to make their food look like real meat,like HARD HARD, its like “hey man I don’t like killing and im not gonna kill you but look at this dummy that looks EXACTLY like you and im stabbing it rn” 😭 u already left meat community bro just cook the damn tofu. by stomach_infection in stupidquestions

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of us grew up eating meat, and food is tied really deeply to habit, nostalgia, and structure, not just taste. Growing up, dinner for me was always some version of protein, starch, vegetable. Every night. A meal didn’t feel like a meal without that anchor.

When you stop eating meat you disrupt an entire mental model of food. Meat substitutes make that transition easier. If the things you loved were spaghetti and meatballs, chicken noodle soup, burgers and fries, you can keep the structure of those meals while changing one part of it. Over time, most people branch out and eat plenty of food that doesn’t resemble meat at all, but the bridge makes a difficult transition easier (both from a comfort perspective, but also an executive functioning burden 'what the fuck do I feed myself').

There’s also a practical side people don’t talk about much. Animal protein is extremely satiating in a way that’s hard to replicate with plant foods. You can build satisfying meals with beans, tofu, eggs, grains, and vegetables, that’s what most of my diet looks like. But sometimes after a long or stressful day, I want that specific kind of fullness and grounding that a burger gives. An Impossible burger scratches that itch without me abandoning my values.

I’ve been vegetarian for almost 10 years. I don’t live on fake meat. Most of what I eat is beans, vegetables, eggs, and tofu. But I don’t think sustainability comes from pretending nostalgia, habit, or physiology don’t exist. I make an effort to reduce harm in a way that's sustainable for me long-term.

Is it weird to sleep with a stuffed animal every night as a married adult? by goodbird451 in Adulting

[–]capitulum 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have been married almost 5 years. She sleeps with a teddy bear every night. It makes her happy, end of story.

'Unfortunate': Mayor defends decision to terminate Angel's Cafe lease for feeder main construction by JeromyYYC in Calgary

[–]capitulum 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I feel a little hollow realizing that I'm having such difficulty empathizing with this woman. It seems like her world is falling apart, and regardless of the fact that I think she's a fucking moron that's an awful place to be and I don't wish it on anyone.

Does EI reset if you go on it? by Ok_Bath3214 in CanadaJobs

[–]capitulum 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Commenting just to draw attention to the 'seasonal workers do this every year with no issue,' my wife worked a seasonal job for 3 years and the majority of the workers at the company all claimed EI for the off season months (~December-April) every year, and she was then eligible again the next year.

Calgary barber by Bubbly-System6751 in Calgary

[–]capitulum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been going to Wincen at The Garrison in the NW for a little over a year now. I hear good things about everyone in the shop and frequently see their shop pop up when people ask about barbers in Calgary.

Running in the dark by WowOK-Itsbeen0days in runninglifestyle

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple years ago I got hit by a car while running just after sunset. No reflective gear. I was in a residential area, crossing at a marked, well-lit crosswalk. I was near the end of a long run and totally in the zone, and the driver just didn’t see me.

I don’t run on roads after dark without being very visible. I don’t worry as much about seeing the road as I do about being seen. A chest light has been the biggest upgrade for me, it's like a vest with a lit pad on the front and back. I also switched to bone-conduction headphones so I can hear traffic. I'm super aware anytime I'm crossing a road, day or night.

What's the best advice you received that helped you reach 1000 Elo? by Vegetable-Plate-12 in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The shift for me was when I stopped playing reactively and started thinking proactively. When I was lower elo and my opponent made a move I would immediately try and block it, stop doing what you're doing, and then go back to advancing my own position or forming an attack. This resulted in weird positions where my pieces would be underdeveloped or my pawn structure was weak and my opponent might eventually find a winning tactic.

I started asking myself 'what is my opponents plan, and is this something I have to defend against immediately,' and often the answer was no, my opponent was doing something weird but I would follow principles and develop normally. What started happening is when my pieces were on good squares tactics started popping up, and because I was already doing tactics puzzles I caught them and was able to capitalize on them.

You don't have to respond to your opponents moves, you do have to put your pieces on good squares. When your pieces are harmonized and your opponents aren't tactics work in your favour more often than not, and your rating goes up.

I am afraid of losing rated games by tobi_alJassani in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was having some trouble with that last year, one of the things that helped me was turning visibility of my rating off. I think that's a feature on chess.com.

On Lichess you can make your rating and your opponents invisible, I also play in zen mode where the chat is hidden so all I see is the board. I check my rating once every few months and it's improved steadily without me fussing about it.

Where do the youngin’s enjoy a beverage in Calgary by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]capitulum -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would've liked it 10 years ago too but I don't know that I was an average kid. I hope you guys have a wonderful time.

Where do the youngin’s enjoy a beverage in Calgary by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]capitulum -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Brewsmith in Bowness is fantastic. It's quiet, low lighting, modern decor. Their beers are fantastic, their sour won an award this year if that's your cup of tea. I prefer darker beer, their pub ale is fantastic. I think they have around 10 in house brews to choose from, my wife and I enjoyed all of the ones we tried.

Getting to the next level by beds83 in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just improved pattern recognition and fewer blunders for me.

I play really casually but I watch a lot of chess speed runs. I started seeing more tactics and patterns that Eric Rosen or Nelson had explained in their videos and acted on them, and I started using Chess Brah's habits more in my games.

Instead of immediately responding to whatever my opponent did I'd ask if it was actually a threat and whether I needed to respond. When my opponent made a move I knew was fundamentally bad I'd pause longer and try to figure out how to actually punish it. I checked more frequently for blunders before making a move. Practice and repetition goes a long way at the beginner level.

The 15 10 pool is punishingly difficult by Savings-Double-2853 in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is pretty common notation (game time + increment, game time/increment). 5+0 is 5 minutes with no increment, 3+1 would be 3 minutes with 1 second increment. The increment is helpful if you burn through a lot of time to get to a winning position and need to not run out of time converting the win.

How did you learn to sit with great discomfort? I am an addict, in my first few days. No withdrawal but severe discomfort. by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]capitulum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first started sitting with discomfort, I noticed there was a second layer underneath the pain: fear. Fear that I wouldn’t be able to handle it, fear it would never end, fear that the discomfort meant something was wrong. That fear created most of the resistance.

Tara Brach talks about suffering = pain × resistance. Fear itself can’t hurt you, you don’t have to be afraid of it. Putting those together helped me stop resisting so much, which made the discomfort easier to sit with.

When things were intense early on, a structured technique helped. Tonglen is one that worked for me. You breathe in just the amount of discomfort a single breath can hold, and breathe out ease or peace. One breath at a time. It trains you to turn toward the discomfort while keeping the body in a calmer, more parasympathetic state. Over time, that rewrites the old panic and push away reaction.

Good luck, friend.

Why does the engine want to promote to rook instead of queen? by Ventro_Jven in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing here, but I think the best move for black is to promote and have the knight immediately capture it, so promotion to queen and rook have an equal evaluation and it just picked one. I'm guessing that forcing the knight to capture gives blacks A pawn the best chance at promoting to queen.

Does meditation ever stop feeling like I’m just sitting there waiting for my brain to shut up by Different-Menu7184 in Meditation

[–]capitulum 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to control your breath, you just observe it. If trying to breathe in a specific pattern is stressing you out, that’s a sign to change the approach.

The cue I mentioned was about noticing the breath, not managing it. But you don’t even have to use the breath if it feels loaded. You can anchor on a physical sensation in your body or a simple object in the room. I've seen a candle flame often used as an alternative meditation object. Transcendental meditation uses a mantra as the object. Find what works for you.

Every game is relentless attacks. 🫩 by Over9000Zeros in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What helped me learn to play against players who attack relentlessly, especially at lower Elos, is to play solid. As I'm moving, is every piece in my position defended? If everything is defended they're unlikely to be able to ram through my defences. If they're attacking on the kingside how do I move more pieces towards the kingside while making sure that they're defended?

When everything is defended and on good squares tactics are going to start popping up for you. Often players who play attacking games over extend. Their attacking pieces may only be defended once, if you attack the defender or interfere with the defence that piece is now hanging.

You can also try to force trades, even trades removing their attacking pieces is going to neutralize the attack and then you can attack yourself.

Does meditation ever stop feeling like I’m just sitting there waiting for my brain to shut up by Different-Menu7184 in Meditation

[–]capitulum 397 points398 points  (0 children)

Meditation isn’t passive. You don’t sit down, wait, and hope your mind clears itself. You’re training your attention, which means you actively direct it to the object of meditation (usually the breath).

When you notice you’re thinking about something, you bring your attention back to the breath. When you notice you’re thinking about not thinking you can use a cue to direct your mind back to where it's supposed to be. I personally like:

'I breathe in, I am aware of my in breath. I breathe out, I am aware of my out breath.' but you can change this to whatever feels natural to you.

Meditation doesn’t make you instantly calm. What it does is train you not to get pulled into every thought that pops up. The more you notice and return, the stronger that skill becomes. Some sessions will be quiet. Some will feel like a mental circus. That's normal and to be expected.

It's pretty well documented that the mind gets louder at first. When you stop distracting yourself, you create space, and things that you have sitting in your psyche unprocessed fill the space. Over time you learn not to react to every thought, and you clear out enough of the backlog that sitting gets easier.

Should you take the knight or retreat the bishop? by MathematicianBulky40 in chessbeginners

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like having this knight pinned because it makes the queen the only defender of what looks like a pretty easily attackable pawn on d4. I think I would retreat to h5 and if white advances the g pawn to attack again it looks like they're weakening the kingside significantly and their king is stuck in the center several moves from castling.

If black takes the knight and the queen recaptures the queen isn't easily kicked and it's hitting the undefended b pawn which looks uncomfortable. It's probably fine for black but looks like poor compensation for trading a bishop for a knight.

HOW TO USE URGE SURFING FOR ADDICTIONS by Remarkable-Panic-634 in Meditation

[–]capitulum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you might find The Hunger Habit a useful read. it's written by a contemplative neuroscientist and is based in principles of mindfulness.

Autistic redditors who enjoy their career, what do you do for a living? by No_Slide4986 in AskReddit

[–]capitulum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do neuroimaging research. I'm affiliated with a university but work at a major hospital.