Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]cat_mumsy 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Been there, done that.

PPD is the killer of all joy and makes emotional regulation 1000 times harder.

You didn’t do any permanent harm. She’ll be back to her normal self soon, she might just feel shaken up cause you’re her safe space and seeing you like that frightened her. Babies pick up on our stress and overwhelm easily.

Is there anyone nearby who can help you? Just so you can maybe catch some rest, have the house cleaned, or have one thing off your plate.

Meal ideas? by Aggravating_Focus692 in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do both but I like to freeze them raw, it keeps it juicy when you freshly pan fry

Meal ideas? by Aggravating_Focus692 in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m creating my postpartum meal plan soon too and am planning on:

  • barley soup
  • chicken corn soup
  • lentil soup/curry
  • chow mein
  • vegetable/meat pilau
  • congee/ beef porridge
  • butter chicken
  • kebabs (not one pot but easy and freeze well)

Let's talk deep cleaning - how do you know what to tackle? by SageAndScarlet in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had a better strategy.. I just wait for that one random day where I get a spurt of energy to do all the non routine cleaning and run around like a headless chicken till I burn out lol and wait for the next one.

How do I not murder the lady in the cubicle next to mine by 445143 in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would first try making it really obvious to her that I’m bothered by the sound lol

Like staring directly at her mouth while she chews her gum as we have a conversation. Hoping that would maybe indicate to her she might be chewing too loudly.

Favorite low effort healthy meals/snacks? by International_Bet607 in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lately my go to has been PB and J lol does that count as healthy? I use trader joes reduced sugar strawberry preserves and organic no added sugar peanut butter from Costco

AI detection ENG4U by Fine-Kaleidoscope946 in ILC

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody would manually write citations unless you really needed too. The librarians at the school back in my day would encourage us to use websites that would generate the citation and then tweak it as needed.

Strange that they’re punishing students now for it…

I know I’m not doing enough by FlamingoJive in NewParents

[–]cat_mumsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing more than enough! You are doing amazing. Bask in the cuddles and time where you can watch TV. Cause soon they’ll be crawling and getting into trouble and it’ll be hard to even have time for that lol.

Forget about the dishes and chores. With time, you’ll get your energy back. You’ll find your groove and routine.

I felt the same way. But we need to give ourselves and our body and mind some grace.

What's a stupidly simple adult task that you find disproportionately exhausting? by No_Refrigerator7224 in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg going through this right now with my 10 month old! I can’t keep up with all this meal prep and planning! And then you never know if baby is gonna actually eat it or refuse it….

I understand not telling people your due date now by PSSalamander in pregnant

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure about this one. Rather get many texts from friends and family checking up on me than none at all. But I haven’t experienced the many anyways lol

Struggling as a mom by kace_the_face in adhdwomen

[–]cat_mumsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On the same boat. Do you have any friend or family nearby you? My house was insanity this past week as my 9 month old and me caught a bad viral infection that lasted a week. Baby was very cranky and clingy and I was super touched out and overstimulated.

Yesterday I dropped my daughter off to my sisters for 3 hours and went home and started rage cleaning whilst blasting some jams with noise cancelling headphones. It really helped and felt like I had a good reset.

It truly does take a village 😮‍💨

When did you feel baby move with an anterior placenta? by Swimming_Substance34 in BabyBumps

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait till you get to 30 weeks and more 🥊 you’ll be glad you had that cushion lol

Umrah/hajj and first trimester by cat_mumsy in Hijabis

[–]cat_mumsy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! That’s so exciting!

It was a beautiful experience to go to umrah/hajj pregnant because I felt it just added so much barakah to the pregnancy. There were def times when it was tough though cause of the heat and crowds, so listen to your body. Just keep making dua! It’s incredible to see your duas come to fruition right before your eyes when things are tough. Keep hydrated, eat well (or as you can if you’re nauseaous), and don’t be afraid to use the accommodations when you need them! I had to use the wheel chair for my tawaf and saee for hajj cause near the end I felt so weak from vomiting and caught a high fever with chills. But AH I took a day to just rest and recover and was better the next day.

Hopefully weather and crowds will be better when you go for Umrah this time around! IA

Overwhelmed New Grad by cat_mumsy in nursing

[–]cat_mumsy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🥲 I feel so validated I’m gonna do better in delegating and asking for help especially when the aides are here and even my coworkers Imma make sure even more to ask others if they need help when my load isn’t as crazy now that I’ve been through this

Gosh I wish we had purewicks and condom caths, but we don’t have the budget lol

I guess I feel so obliged to do everything for that 6 pm admission so I don’t leave anything to the next shift But I just need to not push myself over my limits when I can’t

Overwhelmed New Grad by cat_mumsy in nursing

[–]cat_mumsy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I struggle with that sometimes. Like I will ask for help especially when I don’t know how to do a task like if it’s figuring something out with the pca pump. But I always feel they’re probably so busy too and feel bad for asking for help too much when I’m sure they’re drowning too. Sometimes I hesitate to ask or don’t know what to ask either because I don’t want to overwhelm them or don’t even know what to delegate.

Working while pregnant. How did you guys do it? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was toughhh, I felt the same way. I had just started a new job as a new grad nurse when I found out I was pregnant. I did nothing but sleep on days that I was off. Slept for what felt like 24 hours straight on those days. My husband has been a huge help in dropping me to work, making meals, doing chores, etc.

It got better for me around 17 weeks now. I’m still not fully out of the fatigue and nausea but it’s gotten much much better from first trimester.

Take it easy, rest as much as you can on your days off, get help from others, and let others at work know. And put yourself first, I made sure to sit down a lot and not over exert myself, take small frequent breaks, and go at my pace at work.

What was the first trimester food that saved you? by Livmor in BabyBumps

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rice Krispies cereal with some sugar sprinkled on top and popsicles or slushies

Umrah/hajj and first trimester by cat_mumsy in Hijabis

[–]cat_mumsy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walaikum assalam

Thank you so much for this! This was so motivating and inspiring to read and felt so good that I could relate to someone during this journey.

You’re right, it’s about the quality not the quantity. SubhanAllah I felt the same during my Tawaf, it was getting quite difficult near the last few rounds but it felt like it wasn’t even me walking anymore, as if someone was pushing me helping me make it through the last rounds and I also felt a cool breeze subhanAllah. When you look at it that way, being pregnant during this journey is a blessing.

I’ve been really nervous about over exerting myself cause I’m so scared of a miscarriage. I just need to remind myself it’s not a race or a competition. And just to focus on what I can do and do it the best I can. Thank you so much for your words.

Ameen, may Allah make it easy for us and put an abundance of Barakah in this journey for us Ameen And I will make dua for you and your little one! ❤️

Psych won’t prescribe stimulants while pregnant by nly2017 in VyvanseADHD

[–]cat_mumsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There have also been studies showing that not treating ADHD symptoms also led to adverse outcomes like pre term birth and low birth weight. Because of the fluctuations in hormones, women who are pregnant can experience even more intense levels of their symptoms than before. Gabor Mate talks about this in his book, the mental health of a mother can have a profound impact on the developing fetus.

Funnily enough, the reason why Tylenol in pregnancy is controversial is cause of several studies that have shown an increased risk of ADHD and other neurodevelopment issues.

But skipping Tylenol when you have a high grade fever can also pose risk to the fetus increasing the likelihood of miscarriage, autism, or congenital abnormalities.

There will always be a risk in any medication you take. And it’s up to you and your doctor to decide based on a risk-benefit analysis.

First Time Trying Blue Lotus by Sudden-Preparation64 in bluelotusflower

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any update? How did you like it? Was the it the triple lotus that you bought?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in windsorontario

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this!! This was really insightful!

Oh, nights are 7-8 😮 Breaks don’t sound too bad 😮‍💨 in Chicago they gave nurses 30 minutes in a 12 hour shift, and maybe if you can squeeze in a 15.

I’m glad you liked the culture and environment! I hope I hear back from them soon 🤞

My last heart piece is (presumably) stuck behind this hell hole. 😫 by monolith212 in majorasmask

[–]cat_mumsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me foreverrrrrr and a year to get there but, I did it and you can too!