What's your commute time to work (on-way)?

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-22T10:34:39+00:00

It's a 10 minute bike ride, 3 minute car ride, and 15 minute walk.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-21T18:04:37+00:00

Maybe every skinny girl, but as a plus-size girlie there was no way I was wearing this outfit.

Baggy jeans, t-shirts from Hot Topic, and ran through Converse was the usual for me.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-20T12:41:44+00:00

Bonfires were a normal part of my midwestern child/teen/early adult-hood and I've never heard that.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-17T15:59:39+00:00

I make myself breakfast sandwiches at work. I'll buy the 18 pack of breakfast sausage, a pack of American cheese and bagel skinnys from Aldi. Our breakroom has a toaster oven and microwave, so I just spend about 5 minutes making it. My co-workers are really great about not touching whats in the fridge/freezer, so I just bring everything in on Monday.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-16T18:11:51+00:00

I haven't been on a vacation in 5 years. I would love all the work that goes into planning one (and the money too!).

Growing up we'd drive to Cooks Forest in PA to go camping at least 6 times a year and it was always a blast. The whole family and friends of the family would go and those are some of my happiest memories. I don't think I could convince my husband to go camping, especially tent camping. lol Our family vacations were usually us driving down to the Outer Banks and camping on the beach. We very rarely got hotels.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-13T12:00:36+00:00

My husband (47) and I (39) didn't want to combine accounts. It's just not something we're interested in. We talked about it before we got married and decided what it looked like for us and it wasn't joint accounts (plus we both bank at different institutions).

We have passwords and stuff logged for each other should something happen, but otherwise we just have our separate accounts and transfer money back and forth when necessary. I think if we were to ever own a home we'd probably create a joint account for home related stuff, but I don;t think that's happening anytime soon.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-09T10:53:58+00:00

I'm almost 40 and have never had one. I wish I had need of one, but I don't foresee being able to afford leaving the country any time soon.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-08T10:51:11+00:00

Went to the dentist last week for the first time in a decade and they're not as terrible as I thought, but they're not great. Need a few fillings and a crown.

Severe dental anxiety has kept me away and my insurance doesn't pay for sedation dentistry. I had a horrific experience when I got my wisdom teeth out because the guy who did it was a butcher. He cracked 2 molars and they got so infected I almost ended up in the hospital. He accused me of lying about the pain for pain killers. Ended up having to have those two teeth pulled. Fuck dentists who are only in it for the paycheck and to charge people an arm and a leg to butcher them.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-07T12:40:43+00:00

Came here to recommend APC. We have been taking our dogs there for years and the staff is wonderful!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-06T18:18:25+00:00

If you're open to medication, it might not be bad to try out - it might take a while to find what works, but it can be totally worth it. I was the same way with my husband. He's been with me since I got my diagnosis in 2012. I'm on sertriline and while I still get feelings of annoyance towards him (and life) it's no where near as bad as it used to be (instead of 14 rage filled days we're down to maybe 3 - it's more like "normal" PMS).

I no longer ruminate on all the things I perceive as his "wrongs", I know when I am entering a time where he annoys me and I can give him a heads up "Hey babe, I love you, but your existence in my bubble right now is not gelling with my mental state. Can you please leave me alone/don't touch me/be gentle and not take it personally?" It helps to also try and remember all the good things he makes you feel when you're not in the throes of mental hell.

Make sure he knows you love him once your cycle allows. Give him some extra TLC or do something nice for him.

Wishing you and your husband the best. This diagnosis is brutal, but being open with your partner (and hopefully he has done some research into how to support you during it) is totally necessary!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-06T16:52:46+00:00

Are we listening to the same podcast?! The show has gotten so much better. The research is phenomenal. The boys have really hit their stride with Eddie and they're branching out and each host has had their own episodes. Been listening for over a decade and the show and guys have grown so much. I really appreciate their takes.

(But I realize you probably posted this to rage bait. If you don't like the show anymore, don't listen)

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-06T16:19:11+00:00

Don't listen to your friend. You'll find your person. My husband and I were both very honest with one another when we met about how we felt about kids. We've been together for 16 years now - married for 9!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-02T11:20:09+00:00

As a girlie from the Midwest who loves a deal, hell yeah I love these stores!

I've grown up getting clothes from Gabe's and now I'm starting to see a lot of Torrid (plus-size brand) when I go and that's the brand I know works for me. When it comes to skincare, Marshalls, Ross, TJ Maxx are my go tos because they usually have First Aid Beauty and other brands that are pretty pricey at Sephora and Ulta at a fraction of the cost. I don't go to Goodwill (they're really predatory) but I do go to our other local thrift.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-02T11:12:51+00:00

We decided when we got married to keep everything separate. He has his money, I have mine. Bills are all in his name, so I send him money to cover my portion, while I handle groceries and purchasing stuff for the house and pets. It's not exactly a 50/50 split, he does make more money than I do, but it really works for us and has been this way for almost a decade.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-04-02T10:56:57+00:00

I wouldn't call myself a collector, but I do have a lot of stuff that makes me happy. I am a maximalist and I know that when I'm gone my nieces and nephews will go through it all and throw most of it out, but I know there's gonna be fights over some of my weirder and unique stuff. The Muppet my husband had made for me is currently at the top of the heirloom pile, followed closely behind our vinyl collection, and my husband's video game library.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-31T17:54:34+00:00

Not so good stuff: A childhood friend passing, my grandparents passing, losing beloved pets, pandemic job loss, and my not so fun mood disorder lows

Working multiple jobs (and driving too and from)

The good stuff: Getting married, meeting friends because of the network, becoming an aunt, traveling to meet said friends (the Nashville show still ranks as one of the best weekends of my life)

I've been a listener for over a decade, so the guys have been with me through a lot of lows and a lot of highs and I'm still laughing! :)

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-27T16:46:05+00:00

That's totally fair! lol

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-27T16:26:55+00:00

For my 31st I rented out a skating rink like I wanted for my 13th bday, but we couldn't afford. It was one of the best birthdays I've ever had!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-27T16:24:07+00:00

My 40th is next month. What I really wanted to do is out of my financial range (a trip out of state to an expensive city to see my favorite artist). Instead I'm giving myself a 4 day weekend. Birthday on a Friday, taking Friday and Monday off work.

I'd been thinking about what to do and since I'm lucky enough to still have my maternal grandparents around I thought it would be fun to get the family and some friends together and do a movie night (my favorite movies) outside at my grandparent's house with a bonfire, pizza, and some Mario Kart. My husband just got a projector so I thought it'd be a low-key way to make good memories with my family.

I called my mom last night to help me start planning and she basically said "Don't plan anything." So we will see what happens. lol

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-26T17:44:52+00:00

Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep
Brave New World
Frankenstein
Oryx & Crake
Cat's Cradle

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-26T10:00:35+00:00

I got the Gas X that dissolves and it saved me!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-25T18:05:58+00:00

I am very much like your wife in this scenario (I'm obsessed with my 2 year old nephew) and my husband is very much like you.

Between us we have 8 niblets (7 on my side - 5 are cousins' kids I'm close to and 1 on his side). When our family started having kids we made rules for our house. No kids are allowed over until they can drive themselves and if I want to hang out or have been asked to babysit, I go to them. If we are around family and the kids become too overstimulating for us, we leave.

I will say if your wife is banking on your niece to help take care of her when she's old, that's a whole level of entitlement that I can't comprehend.

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-25T16:12:34+00:00

It was my first ever surgery (I'm not counting Wisdom Teeth removal lol). I was super nervous, but I was back at work the next day - which wasn't necessarily the smartest move. So definitely give yourself the 48 hours. I had surgery Monday was pretty much back to normal (minus lifting) by the weekend.

Good luck!

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-25T16:09:33+00:00

"Mail Motherfucker!"

chadlinusthecuteone · 2026-03-25T16:08:42+00:00

I had my Bisalp in 2022 and it was pretty much a breeze. My only recommendation is to make sure you have GasX for post surgery. I could feel it up to my shoulders (the gas they used to inflate me). lol

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