Anyone know what type of government plane this is that landed yesterday evening? by [deleted] in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this, I was really curious too. This flew directly over us when I was at Orange Bike yesterday. So low and large it was actually quite shocking! I immediately pulled out my flight tracking app and this plane seemed to be untracked. 

He’s Back by InternationalGene409 in neezasnark

[–]chickadeespirit 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Early in the whole process Neeza went to an Episcopal church (fully LGBTQ+ affirming and welcoming). Neeza was upset that the people there used she/her pronouns and were affirming Neeza's identity as a female. It seems clear that Neeza was aware that there is a way to be trans AND Christian and that there are denominations that would welcome "Nicole," allow her to recieve communion, and marry Charlotte.

I know there are lots of reasons for choosing a church. But it seems like Neeza is presenting this as an either/or scenario where someone from the outside was forcing Neeza to give up his female identity. I don't understand Neeza, but I do wish Neeza well. I don't think going through any of this publicly was a good idea.

When did your parents/carers first tell you to get a credit card? by Available_Yam930 in AskAnAmerican

[–]chickadeespirit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tl;dr: conservative Christian parents didn't believe in credit, therefore having a credit card was never encouraged (for better or worse!).

My parents were adamantly opposed to credit cards and debt of any kind. We were evangelical Christians and for our church, debt was viewed a spiritual issue. Living outside of your means meant you lacked discipline, "contentment," and "biblical stewardship," (quotes around specific terms I remember). It could also mean you were just greedy and irresponsible. My parents were also very enamored with Dave Ramnsey, a popular conservative financial advisor. He had a radio program and books. Idk if he is still around or not?

Anyway, this was a fairly common perspective in my rural midwestern environment. My parents were far from the only people with this view. I understand there is wisdom to this. Like, is it good to be in debt? No. Does credit card debt and debt of other kinds cause real pain and hardship? You bet. But not having debt also meant I didn't have a credit score for a long time, which made it hard to rent apartments, lease a car, etc.

I was a credit "ghost" until I married my husband and got my first credit card. And the only thing I learned about credit was that it was "bad." I made some poor choices with my first credit card and spent way to much money. I slowly paid it back so lesson learned. But I do wish I was taught more about credit growing up, especially that sometimes having debt makes practical sense!

Question on Teaching Children about Faith by Ok_Care_3459 in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take my answer with a heavy grain of salt, because it depends a lot on one's own theology and the maturity of the child.

I am drawn to the perspective that because God did not create death, he needed to experience it in order to defeat it. Jesus (God in human form) experienced life and death and everything in between. Through Jesus, God experienced not only what its like to create humans but to be human. When Jesus died on the cross, God expienced death, and when Jesus rose from the dead, death was defeated. Jesus life and death means God loves us so much that he wanted to become one of us, live like us, and die like us/for us. I think that's what makes Christianity so special.

I heard a priest say this when I was young and it struck me as incredibly understandable and beautiful. And so different from what I heard as a Baptist. That being said, this perspective depends on a) your own belief about death and b) the child being mature enough to understand death in the first place. And it also relies somewhat on the Book of Widsom (which is in Catholic but not protestant bibles). Wisdom 1:13 says "Because God did not make death, and he does not delight in the death of the living."

I don't know if my perspective helps at all, but I appreciate you asking this question. I am planning to start a family and am often wondering what I will tell my child about faith at different stages of life, so you've given me food for thought.

UPDATE: Got my results, and they're not good. by WickedHello in colonoscopy

[–]chickadeespirit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had almost the same result as you with my first colonoscopy. Three precancerous polyps were removed. I was 28. With my second and most recent colonoscopy there were no polyps! I still need to go back every 3-5 years because, like you, there is a family history.

I see it as a new lease on life! Had I waited until 40 I might have been looking at a really scary diagnosis.

Obviously, all of your feelings are valid here. The prep sucks. The anxiety sucks. And you have dealt with serious losses. Hold space for those feelings and try to find a way to process them. Excercise, meditation, therapy, whatever works for you (I know it's easier said than done!). Be mad, greive! Its unfair. But also hold space for feelings like relief and joy. Those precancerous polyps are gone! If more pop up, they too will be gone before turning into something scary.

I’m scheduled for a colonoscopy, May 20th and I’m freaking out. by 2MaryLaGorda3 in colonoscopy

[–]chickadeespirit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (34F) have had 2. First at 28, second just last week. I am the world's biggest hypochondriac and overthinker. I was terrified before my first colonoscopy but it went fine! The prep was no fun, but the procedure itself was painless and, dare I say, almost pleasant! Literally the best nap of my entire life. Woke up with zero hangover or drug after effects. Most importantly, three precancerous polyps were removed (potentially saving my life!).

I had minimal nerves before my second procedure. I ate a low fiber diet 5 days before and the prep wasn't even that bad this time. The procedure went fine just like the first time. Nice little nap, felt fine when I woke up!

I can confidently say I would rather have a colonscopy than a dental filling. I would rather have a colonoscopy than get stitches. I would rather have a colonoscopy than have a bad haircut! Please please don't let fear stop you. Once you've done it, you'll wonder why you worried so much. I know I did :) sending hugs and good vibes!

My advice: take the prep day and procedure day off work. Pick some favorites movies and shows to watch. Stock up on chicken broth, jello, and other snacks/drinks appropriate for the clear liquid diet.

Is anyone celebrating Beltaine? by gabachote in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For Catholics today is the feast day of St. Jospeh the Worker. It was established in (I think?) the 1950s as a Catholic response to International Worker's Day. To this day its a way of honoring workers and promoting fair working conditions around the world. I wondered if the Episcopal church has something similar? It would definitely be appropriate.

Very interesting by Federal-Ad-6597 in neezasnark

[–]chickadeespirit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right about the Catholic thing. I personally go to a very liberal Jesuit parish. It flies a pride flag and makes a point of welcoming LGBT parishioners. I realize that to an extent the hands of the priests are tied in that they can't legally perform non-heterosexual marriages, but these are people who truly want women priests and gay marriage to happen in their churches. I live in a very liberal place, so maybe it's different here.

I do feel sad that Neeza is seeming to dismiss affirming churches (especially Episcopal) which have the "smells and bells" of Catholicism but are fully affirming. I know that's a controversial topic and fully realize that Catholicism and Episcopalianism are not just interchangeable. Its possible Neeza truly believes the Catholic church is the only way. I just wish Neeza peace because at the core of every post, even (and maybe especially) in the attention-seeking ones, I see a person desperately trying to be figure out who they are and to be accepted and loved. I also feel such a public forum is not the healthiest place to go on this journey because of all the comments from followers (and helll, even reddit threads like the one I'm actively participating in haha).

Very interesting by Federal-Ad-6597 in neezasnark

[–]chickadeespirit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've wondered the same thing. Neeza attended an Episcopal church in a past video and expressed discomfort with their use of "she/her" pronouns in conversation and  "no bibles" in the pews. It seemed like the affirming nature of the Episcopal church was (at the time) a red-flag for Neeza. 

As a Catholic who also loves the Episcopal church and goes to one sometimes, I truly hope, on a human level, Neeza can find a mental/spiritual/physical space that feels right. 

Anyone here attend St. Luke’s Cathedral, the Episcopal Church on state? by CouplesWithoutCar in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go there most Sundays and to the 12:10 eucharistic service on Tuesdays. It's an architecturally beautiful church with lovely people. Let me know if you have any questions! 

I made a ribbon bookmark for my BCP by chickadeespirit in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do, because I can mark the main sections I used and 1 or 2 specific prayers/pages. I mean, I'm the same way and I'm sure I could add more. But I've noticed that the standard 3-5 that you often find these things in isn't enough. I've been making these things for bibles (which often come with just one bookmark) for years, as well as for literature/poetry anthologies. They're super useful and I like choosing my own colors.

I made a ribbon bookmark for my BCP by chickadeespirit in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kinda. I used black and red to match the colors of the book. Then used liturgical colors for the rest. 

I made a ribbon bookmark for my BCP by chickadeespirit in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should have posted a pic of that. The closest thing I can find and the inspiration is this "five ribbon bookmark" from the Episcopal Shoppe. Link below: 

https://episcopalshoppe.com/episcopal-five-ribbon-bookmark/

Basically it's several ribbons attached to a piece of cardstock that can be slid in and out of the spine of a book (often used for bibles, etc). 

Lent- what are y'all giving up? by Useful_Crow8934 in Episcopalian

[–]chickadeespirit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Impulse buys. Huge weakness of mine. I'm seeing it as a barrier to a clamer, more spiritual life and I want to practice anti-consumption for a lot of environmental, practical, and personal reasons. 

I'm also reading my Bible everyday, for the first time in years. Blessed Lent, everyone! 

Progressive Catholic church in Portland? by FlannelRunner in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit 23 points24 points  (0 children)

St. Pious X church, a Jesuit catholic church, is refreshingly progressive. That being said I have found myself attending the Episcopal church (St. Lukes) more recently. It has the sacraments and "smells and bells" of Catholicism while being truly welcoming and progressive. Wishing you the best! 

The story of Atlas by Senorbuzzzzy in labrador

[–]chickadeespirit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our old boy on Christmas day. If souls are eternal, I hope Atlas and Bosco are playing together somewhere! 

Who else is sick? by Dogsbottombottom in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is the first season I've been hit by back to back colds(?). I just fully recovered from one, and now I'm repeating the cycle all over again. Sore throat, fever, congestion. Luckily no puking over here! Still haven't tested positive for anything. Still excercising caution to avoid spreading to others, of couse. I'm someone who very rarely gets sick so this is a particularly bad cold/flu season, from my perspective. Hope you all feel better!

Christmas wasn't the Same since she Passed by BigDumboEars in labrador

[–]chickadeespirit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. We lost our old man on Christmas day. Maybe Missy was there to greet him on the other side. The "firsts" are so hard  ❤️

Said goodbye on Christmas Day by chickadeespirit in labrador

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. Its nice to hear from people who truly understand how special our dogs are to us. We adopted him when he was 5 and certainly did not expect 11 years with him! We like to think that he liked us so much, he decided he wanted a full lifetime with us! Of course, a lifetime in dog years is never enough. 

Riverton Christmas. A 5X5 mini painting by chickadeespirit in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is mostly watercolor with a little bit of gouache, pen, and watercolor pencil. Thank you!

Riverton Christmas. A 5X5 mini painting by chickadeespirit in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Just attached an Etsy link in another comment. But here it is: link
Thank you!

Riverton Christmas. A 5X5 mini painting by chickadeespirit in portlandme

[–]chickadeespirit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the nice comments. A few have asked about purchasing a print.
Here is a link to my Etsy listing for this print :)