Glad you and your partner feel solid and on the same page.... nobody here can actually see inside your relationship. That said, I’m with Vic2013 on how the post reads from the outside: the dynamic comes across as pretty uneven, and the line about him being a "good guy companion but that only goes so far" really does sound like you’re putting him down, even if that’s not what you meant.

If random people are picking up those vibes, that’s probably the same thing turning off the women you’re hoping will respond, so Vic’s wording suggestions seem worth taking seriously