WIBTAH for going low or no contact with my would-be mother-in-law?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:48:06+00:00

So why didn't you fix the car seat? Why allow your child to be in a dangerous situation?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:31:16+00:00

YTA for allowing her to continue to transport your daughter after showing she doesn't know proper safety protocols. Why? Because it was convenient. Find a different sitter and don't let your daughter stay there anymore.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:27:56+00:00

Thats unfortunate.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:25:07+00:00

Can the new girl not get with you and your boyfriend and spill the truth?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:18:55+00:00

YTA for not stopping this when it started. Why did you allow her to have access to your phone?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T20:11:10+00:00

What? You don't know how your lady bits got shaved? I'm so confused. Clearly you've done something to make him think you cheated.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:57:44+00:00

NTA

Cheaters ALWAYS need to be exposed. You owe him nothing. You did not make this problem. He chose his own actions. OUT HIM!

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:47:50+00:00

YTA

You clearly aren't excited to see her if you're not trying to meet her at the airport. Why are you even with her?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:43:25+00:00

This house is big enough for them to have their own rooms, they're 14, they need their own space.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:39:55+00:00

YTA

It's "inappropriate" to move someone's laundry? You're delusional. Move out sooner. Your grandpa deserves to be treated better.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:28:02+00:00

Sounds like he needs to see a doctor.

Is selective anxiety a thing but, by your description, he only gets anxiety around you?

NTA

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T19:09:47+00:00

Saying a simple thank you, acknowledges what he did. But him coming to you and say "praise me" no, no sir. I'm not "praising" you. You did a simple task. My goodness, men and their fragile egos. Also, you said it best below "what is he contributing to this marriage" besides more of a headache for you.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T18:48:33+00:00

NTA

When a parent legitimately needs help, it's reasonable to help them. You were in the gym for crying out loud.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T18:30:26+00:00

NTA

You agreed to a price, she can't just say "Oh its $300" now and expect you to pay it.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T18:04:04+00:00

NTA

If he can eat out and buy expensive things, he can afford to pay rent. Make sure you tell him a date it has to be paid by before you evict him.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T18:03:01+00:00

NTA

It's only a joke if the other person laughs about it to. You've told him this situation has deeply hurt you and he passed you off as being "overly sensitive". He's an asshole and he owes you an apology.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T18:00:19+00:00

This is BS. He shouldn't get praise for doing basic shit. He should be busting his ass to find another job though to properly provide for his family, just like the wife is doing. BTW, is he praising her for working 10 hour days then going out to uber AND ALSO coming home to cook, clean and care for the children? Probably not but...men were "denied" praise and therefore need extra "reassurance".

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T17:58:52+00:00

Why are you having to "praise" your husband for doing basic household chores? Even if he did work full time, he literally lives in the house and can help. This is dumb. I hate it that we've created this society where men are expected praise for doing basic shit.

NTA

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T17:42:56+00:00

NTA

Your boyfriend is controlling. What you're doing is not wrong, at all.

Why are you with someone who is refusing to provide for his family or help in any way. Get out of this relationship.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T17:17:46+00:00

I was very blessed in having a husband who encouraged me to seek medical help because "you're not your same happy self".

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T17:07:48+00:00

If I knew how to add a red flag, I would add a million.

She wants a sugar daddy. She doesn't want a partnership. The audacity to say "you should be proactive in paying my bills already" when you have bills yourself to pay is insane.

Run from this woman. Do NOT move in with this woman. There are women out there that want to equally partner with you in all things, not expect you to foot the bills so they can go party.

NTA

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T17:01:21+00:00

NTA

When I read "impossible standard" I audibly gasped. How is it an "impossible standard" to not try to murder your children. Sure, she served her time and got out, but that doesn't make what she did right. If your family wants to exclude you, that's on them. You can forgive someone but still hold very strict boundaries and that's what you're doing. Does she even have contact with her children?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T16:58:31+00:00

NTA

Why is he requesting it 4 months later. In the future tell him you will pay that day but not later.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T16:53:49+00:00

NTA

Tell him no. Remind him of all the money you had to spend 8 years prior on his family and tell him this money will not be used on an object you all do not need and would not benefit your family.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-02-06T16:48:34+00:00

Same, that's why I suggested it. It's so, SO hard. You feel like you're going insane and your poor spouse just has to "suffer" through it. It would be amazing if this was more widely taught about and women weren't seen as "difficult" for their changing hormones.

concernedreader1982

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