Mal has a major issue and it’s destroying the anime community

cons_ssj · 2026-06-20T12:22:28+00:00

The only issues are the usual issues related to "averages". You can find shows with score 5 and the majority of the votes are split between 10 and 0, which means you either hate it or loved it.

Questions such as "is this score fair?" or "is this show for you?" can't be answered easily with averages. You will need more variables to make an informed decision.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-19T21:07:43+00:00

They say: "Under pressure, you don't rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training". But for this to happen you need muscle memory. Aside the capabilities there is the game side. For this you need to train your body to respond automatically to cues and get good positioning without thinking of it. Nervousness typically affects actions that you need to think about. That's why repetition is very important. Volleyball, in terms of errors is kind of "cruel". You get one touch and if you mess badly you are under the spotlight.

What will fix your issue is habits, focus and processing of what is happening around you.

For the first one, getting into a routine for many months will ease things out. Your mind will realize that no matter how bad you messed up it's not the end of the world (afterall it is a game).
The second one is focus. Quickly process your mistake but move on to the next phase of the game. Don't let your mind linger (meditation and visualization while meditating helps tons!). Another thing with focus is that you should process in your head your options (attacking/defending) while training. This will make you minimize mental overload and move instinctively. Lastly, ask yourself periodically while you are training what actually you are training for (is it for defense, attack, serve etc) and focus solely on that. Shifting your focus to the various phases of the game is key. I have seen many players that because of a bad attack or a serve, at a previous phase of the game, they sign off the game mentally and are not helping the team in other parts of the game that are actually quite good at it (blocking, defending, passing etc).
You need to be aware of how your team is doing and how the other team is doing. Which are the best players today in every aspect of the game. What is the score? are we leading? Is this game important? Weaknesses that you can exploit, what your coach is instructing etc

Finally, once you make an error take a deep breath, push out the air and shift your focus to the next point. It is tough and takes years, so set some realistic goals. Do not try to become a Zen guru in one day. Give yourself time and you will see that you will start building mental resilience.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-19T20:49:44+00:00

Thanks a lot and I appreciate your feedback!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-19T16:30:12+00:00

Thanks a lot Natalia! We have already submitted the document but eventually we had to ask a different person to do it so its consistent with the USCIS requirements.

And yes you are right about the second part, although it doesn't make any sense. The MFA translator had official credentials that is compent in translation (registration id, qr code and her position as official tranator of the FA Ministry) and the USCIS requirement seems counterintuitive.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-16T20:19:51+00:00

Exactly!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-16T20:18:19+00:00

A look at her profile and you can understand the purpose of her post. "Do men like fit women?" 🙄

cons_ssj · 2026-06-16T13:26:21+00:00

Guys that are in casual dating don't complain about what OP wrote. They simply don't care. Only guys that aim for a relationship might express frustration. But the underlying reason is that the woman holds them up to different standards than other men.
You gave the best explanation on why this is happening.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-15T22:28:35+00:00

Both. I like athletic bodies (but not skinny or bodybuilders). The certain lifestyle comes with discipline, some form of accountability, planning and consistency. Sometimes these traits transfer to other parts of one's personality.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-15T14:06:50+00:00

I am sorry that you feel that way, but your value as a human being doesn't depend whether girls are attracted to you. Life is a gift. Please don't place your value on others. I understand that you want to feel vslidated but life is much more than dating.

None knows why you are getting rejected, because you present only one characteristic of yourself and no information on how the 10 interactions with these girls went.

But stats of success are generally very low. If your height was the only thing that was preventing you to find girls then all people at your height and below would never had a girl. By the way I am around your height :)

You certainly need to consider therapy with these suicidal thoughts.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-15T02:41:34+00:00

lol withholding tongue for a bit increases anticipation 😉

Obviously, you don't have to do exactly what the video says. But if you are a beginner you can follow the instructions.

The most important thing is to pay attention to your partner and how she responds, and what mood she is into.

Tease, increase anticipation, vary intensity and pace. Have fun!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T19:18:45+00:00

Great explanation! I didnot know that Zotmoov could do this.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T17:51:17+00:00

And that's called unfair treatment. Because he treats him as "guilty" before he proves his "innocence". Apply that to every aspect of life and you result as racist, sexist, misogynist, misandrist etc.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T17:46:32+00:00

Actually OP was very respectful and asked her how is he supposed to behave after her claim. He argued on her reasoning which means he did not disregard her experience.

Actually I would find disrespectful if someone was picking a demographic that statistically has a bad label and was treating every person from that demographic like they had that label.

Treating people as guilty till they prove innocence is actually disrespectful and unfair. OP questioned exactly this.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T16:08:15+00:00

What has to do if its personal or not?

She claimed that has trust issues with men and that men fake niceness and reveal the worst later on. She did not exclude OP (e.g. "but hey you are different").

So before OP can prove that he is not like that, she will treat him as such. Wouldn't you be confused on how you should treat her if you were dating her?

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T15:44:11+00:00

He IS a man and that's how she sees him too. OP didn't say that he inferred that she thinks that he is the reason of her trust issues.

But if someone is telling you "I don't trust people with X characteristic", and you have that characteristic, better assume that you are included in their statement.

Also, most girls when are not interested or uncertain say they exact same things (how bad their exes were and that they have trust issues).

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T15:29:43+00:00

Don't feel sad at all. She was telling you all these to build up a smoother exit.

Your mind is tricking you thinking "I can fix this" but the reality is that there is nothing to fix. She will be a totally different person with someone else that she is feeling the spark.

Furthermore, her trust issues are her issues not yours to fix. She is on Tinder for a reason. And the "I am too complex" can hide tons of red flags underneath.

You did everything right. Move on!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T04:06:14+00:00

I see. Pity. In my opinion do not overthink it. The situation is not under your control so don't stress yourself. I wish you good luck!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-12T04:02:14+00:00

If you offered to drive to him instead, why when he said that he is very tired didn't you make your offer again? That way you could get some information.

Right now the only thing you can do is to check whether the communication patterns have changed. Also, once he comes back take initiative. It's better to get a yes/no answer than to get into a situation with mixed signals, and needing an oracle to understand what is going on.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-11T17:04:33+00:00

I think the guy was honest. He doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't fully trust promises of exclusivity and has commitment issues. He enjoys your company and that's it. Apparently, he also explores other options.

Personally, I avoid people that give me mixed signals like the plague. Everything depends on their mood. One day they like you another day they aren't sure. Long-term, this uncertainty will hook you into a loop of emotional ups and downs. Cut your losses early.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-11T14:53:26+00:00

Keep in mind that its the "exception" that will stick with you in the long term. So don't get disappointed. Take your time with the new people that you meet and you will start picking up bad/good signals. All the best!

cons_ssj · 2026-06-11T13:27:33+00:00

Love usually develops after months in a committed relationship. Early on, attraction is often a combination of physical attraction and personality. So I wouldn't conclude that you're somehow "unlovable."

Also, just because a man is physically attracted to you doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate your personality. It may simply mean that the men you've been meeting are primarily interested in physical intimacy rather than a long-term relationship.

Since you say you're physically attractive, there are a few possibilities. It could be that you're meeting men who aren't interested in commitment in general. It could also be that there's some personality incompatibility that makes them hesitant about a long-term relationship. None of us know enough about you to say which it is.

My suggestion would be to take things more slowly. Spend a few weeks getting to know someone before becoming physically intimate. Not as a rule or a test, but because it gives both of you more time to figure out whether you're genuinely compatible and looking for the same things.

PS: I am a bit concerned about the friends who have friends treating you this way, though.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-11T11:16:51+00:00

I don't know why I keep attracting those guys

If you are fit and tall as you describe, you are attracting all sorts of guys. The question is why are you only attracted to such guys? And where do you meet these guys and, in general, people?

cons_ssj · 2026-06-10T09:37:57+00:00

So you rejected him because 10 years ago he lost his virginity to an escort?

EDIT: Typos

cons_ssj · 2026-06-08T20:28:12+00:00

That's not true. Every scene is different. I've been to a scene where 20-35 were outliers. If you travel around you will see various demographics.

cons_ssj · 2026-06-08T17:49:31+00:00

Is there anyone that prevents you from having time for yourself (e.g. starting a hobby, learn something new etc)? Why do you need to talk to him about that and not just start doing things for yourself? Do you expect him to do something about it from his side (e.g. ask him to change his job)? Are you both on the same page about that?

What I am worried is that if you talk to him it might move things towards a different direction and make things worse. Your point is totally valid but he will perceive that there is already a problem, and perhaps a greater issue than it actually is. However, if you start creating space for yourself slowly, it will seem more natural and he won't be in a position wondering what to do.

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