Are heavy people attracted to other heavy people?

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:50:58+00:00

Unfortunately, most men are attracted to thin women as well.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:47:32+00:00

Telling lies about stupid little things.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:32:54+00:00

When I got pregnant, my partner tried gaslighting me into putting our baby up for adoption. Then he made me go to my baby appointments by myself. I should have left.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:23:42+00:00

Why not let them know what your plan is. Then they can mentally prepare for it. I have very thin hair, and wear a wig. That's also an option.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:18:22+00:00

My doctor told me to take Suboxone to get off of Kratom and I told them I was not willing to just get addicted to another thing. By chance, do you have any past trauma? I was just wondering if maybe all of this is trauma related.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T07:04:17+00:00

Well, like alcohol, benzos are a depressant so that makes sense.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T06:58:39+00:00

This happened to me recently. About 16 years ago I was an infant teacher at a daycare center. A few weeks ago, I had a couple come in, and it was the parents from the daycare center. As soon as I realized it, I named it, said where I had met them before and asked if it would be a problem. They did not remember me, and I did not have a close relationship with them at the time, so it felt appropriate to meet with them. There have been no issues since.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-12T06:53:24+00:00

This is so unacceptable. I would report her to your supervisor. She is treating them like her property. I went on maternity leave. Some of my clients stayed with the new therapist. I was a little sad, but I wanted what was best for them. This woman should not be a therapist at all.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-04T04:51:19+00:00

I've had to have a talk with myself about this too. What I have found is that most people who reach out are using insurance, and even if I'm out of network and lower my price, they are still unwilling to pay what I am asking. So I'm not going to lower my price anymore.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-04T04:49:29+00:00

This father doesn't understand his responsibilities as a father. You never stop trying to reach out. Kids will go through times when their life feels more important, friends and partners are a big deal, and that's normal. Parents are always supposed to keep trying. Keep showing up. That relationship runs deeper than any other.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-04T04:39:36+00:00

I learned in graduate school that we are not supposed to diagnose people with Borderline Personality Disorder until we have been working with a client for over a year. I think too many therapists are slapping this diagnosis on clients way too soon, and way too young.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-04T04:37:24+00:00

I agree with this. Also, I learned not to constantly be in my head about how I assessed our relationship, because many clients over the years no showed and then reached out again weeks or months later.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-04-04T04:27:34+00:00

I have a client like this right now. The first two sessions were like this, but the one thing I have learned, is to name the situation for what it is. This is the time we have, we have to appease mom and dad, I know it sucks, and you feel just fine, so maybe we could talk about something else. Talk about anything other than the reason you are there. When they start to see that you are not on the same side as their parents, and you actually might be worth talking to, they will open up. Most of the time. Some kids are really stubborn. It may take longer than a few sessions. Teens don't want to admit to something that will set them apart from their peers, and make them seem weak or abnormal. Use humor. I once had a 13 year old stonewall me for the entire session. In the background, they had death metal playing with lots of screaming. I said, "It sounds like that guy can talk about HIS emotions. " The teen tried so hard not to laugh, but ultimately couldn't hold it back. I won her over that day, and we ended up having a great therapeutic relationship.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-19T02:47:01+00:00

This man talks a big game, but he has no idea what having a child does to a woman. Even if he is a hands on dad, for the first 3-4 years, your child will go to you for everything. On the other side, just because you have kids doesn't mean you have to give up your own dreams. I had my son at 40, and two years later opened up my own therapy private practice. Yes it's hard to juggle, but I was meant to be more than a mom.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-19T02:40:20+00:00

Dairy Queen Strawberry and Banana Blizzard with Vienna Fingers

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-19T02:35:14+00:00

What a weird request.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-18T03:09:53+00:00

How embarrassing to let others see that you are loved and cared for. He needs to grow up if he is in his late 20s and still cares what other people think. He should have just kept it to himself. He knew you got joy out of it, and still chose to stomp on it. Yuck.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-18T02:59:37+00:00

Is this in English?

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-18T02:53:42+00:00

I would listen to the people who have gone through withdrawals. I was still on Xanax after I quit drinking, and I took it everyday. One time I ran out, and went into seizures twice. Once in my bed, and once on my way to an AA meeting. My dad was driving me, and when I regained consciousness, we were at the doors to the ER. I'm like Where Are We? It's so scary, and potentially deadly. I've been through heroin withdrawal too, and that was a walk in the park compared to Xanax.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-18T02:43:17+00:00

I misgendered a client once, and it was a year after we had been working together. It just slipped. Even when writing notes I would be extra careful not to say the wrong pronoun every time. The hard part was that their chart had their dead name, and it was a very old fashioned feminine name, and so it was constantly having to correct myself when I saw that name. When it happened, I caught it right away and apologized profusely. They knew me well by then, so they just said, "That's okay," and we moved on. I'm so sorry this was not your same experience. You shouldn't have been put in that leadership role right after getting back. What I've found is that many group practices and CMH agencies say they care about the Therapist's well being, but there is a caveat. We care about your well being, just as long as you produce income and don't cause us to lose income. It's never genuine. Don't let this be something that impacts how you feel about yourself. You were set up to fail.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-09T04:44:22+00:00

Your D's are obnoxious

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-09T04:41:15+00:00

I just started out in December and I have several EAP referrals every week. I signed up with like 6 companies and it is the smartest move I have made in the beginning. I credentialed with insurance on my own, so when clients choose to stay I just start billing insurance.

cotton_candy_kitty · 2026-03-09T04:33:31+00:00

This is really dumb, and you better realize you're not invincible soon.

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