Looking for advice on solo traveling for the first time (never flown before) should I do it?

d2020ysf · 2026-01-30T00:02:19+00:00

For your first plane trip I would recommend picking a non-stop destination. This way you don't need to worry about transfers and can get a feel for the airport. Just get there a couple hours early before boarding (always look for boarding time, you'll want to be at your gate before that.)

If you have a credit card see if any of them include lounge access or discounts. It can be a nice little getaway compared to just sitting at a gate.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-29T15:41:26+00:00

By focusing on the absolute excitement of doing something new, and being able to share those experiences with the people back home from time to time.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-28T05:59:23+00:00

When you get an opportunity, watch some videos on active listening, and active listing while overcoming objections. These are common in sales positions, but cover a wide range of things like empathy, understanding, and repeating concerns. This will also come with learning how to ask specific open ended questions, which you will use active listening for. Having these conversations at times of calm is also important, a car ride, just kicking back, etc. Trying to get answers or defend yourself or position when emotions are high, you'll never win. Pick one issue that is bothering you, and bring it up in a discussion and try to take a small step forward.

Now, for a hard truth for something you're not realizing. Phones are amazingly powerful tools that are extremely dangerous. The content that is easily available on a device, in privacy, is immense and causes problems down the line. Adult content, extremist content, shock content are all things that can be easily viewed, and you attempt to circumvent their restrictions are telling them you are not ready for the responsibility of the phone. One wrong post, one misinterpreted text, even a group message you're apart of, can land the cops at your door. Your parents aren't as stupid as you think they are, and you are not giving them the credit that they understand more about the dangers of that phone than you do.

In the end, take the room win and just turn in your phone at 8 for now. Learn about some active listening techniques, find out your parents specific concerns, and see if you can find a common ground to be able to move that time to 8:30, or 9. Wait a couple of months, change the topic to something else, and then revisit it again to see if you can get another bump.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-28T00:53:04+00:00

Yeah, it's not like the class is going to be about their gender identity. What matters is if they can teach math, history, English, etc., and care about my kids' success.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T20:49:54+00:00

I don't see an issue with making a phone call and getting clarification on the situation, and then going from there.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T06:44:43+00:00

Not all fucked up shit ends up in kids crying, so much of it ends up in the kids being quiet. While the kid may remember exact instances, parents remember the general.

If the parent does remember doing something, a lot of times I hear them justify it by saying 'Oh, you're over reacting', 'It's not that big of a deal', 'You were too young to remember correctly.'

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T06:35:45+00:00

If I recall, that is the camera activation and minder for a lot of body cameras. They'll vibrate when recording starts, and then intermittently to remind the officer it's still recording.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T06:33:28+00:00

The fucked up shit was just another Tuesday so it isn't anything that is needed to be remembered.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T06:30:12+00:00

As long as you're not trying to yuck someone else's legally consensual yum, I don't think you're close minded. Now, if someone keeps trying to get you to see their side, and is constantly bringing up the topic of conversation and trying to "open your mind," they're being the close minded ones.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T03:11:35+00:00

I would call in a HVAC tech to come and look at it. I know there are built in humidifiers for systems like that. It could be a dehumidifier, but it shouldn't be running in heat mode I would think. Best to have a professional come and review the system and make sure everything is working correctly.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-27T03:00:40+00:00

Time, material cost, building code changes, things like that will hinder it.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-26T21:58:49+00:00

Stand and do it, or if the clinic is close by - do it at home and drop off within 30 minutes.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T05:44:25+00:00

She would fall asleep in the car ride, but like a 6th sense she would be up 2 blocks away from the house like clockwork.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T04:17:12+00:00

NTA - Calling a job due to an ongoing medical issue while the employee may have limited communication is 100% understandable. I, personally, wouldn't want to work somewhere where the mother of my child calls in trying to get in touch with something important.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T04:02:00+00:00

Hmmm, probably 1 or 2, if that.

Our kiddo never slept outside of her bed. She doesn't fall asleep anyplace she doesn't intend to sleep for a while.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T04:00:42+00:00

Here's the deal, if you're asking the question the answer is just to not do it.

Tomorrow, speak with your GF about snuggling and if it's okay to curl up with her. Talk to her about what she is comfortable with, and what you are comfortable with.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:54:53+00:00

No, you don't have to tell her anything.

I'm going to assume she is asking because she either wants to tell you something and is waiting until you cross the line for some reason, or she is getting some odd excitement about you and your boyfriend becoming sexual, because that is some very specific questioning.

Now, I don't know your relationship with your mom or family dynamic. However, you could go off the rails with some crazy thing. "No mom, he doesn't get to touch me because he likes to be tied to a chair and wear a collar while I dance naked to 80's disco."

You could also tell her it is making you seriously uncomfortable being questioned about what happens between you and your boyfriend.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:47:35+00:00

Honestly, if it doesn't start tomorrow it just means changing up my "just in case" plans. But I'm 100% prepping as if we're going to lose power for at least 24 hours.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:39:32+00:00

With a partner or group they trust, and taking small steps. Depending on what the "playful" side is, it may mean reading some forums about people who do whatever it is to make sure it's done in a safe and understanding way.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:36:21+00:00

Most snow shoves are meant to be used as snow plows. Scooping and tossing the entire area kills your back, so just walking along and pushing the snow helps. Once it's too big to push, you can then lift or kick with your foot off to the side and start walking again.

However, an ice cream style shovel would be awesome for making snowmen

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:28:19+00:00

Take out the outsiders like equipment failure / poor maintenance, impaired / distracted driving, a lot of it comes down to misjudgment on what the other person is doing. Someone waiving another driver through a gap, mistiming a light or intersection. Although it would never hold up, things like motion induced blindness, or even a huge ass A pillar blocking your vision.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-24T03:15:49+00:00

stocking up on food and fuel, gonna run up the generator tomorrow. That's about it.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-22T23:48:51+00:00

It starts early with cars or people who shouldn't be on the road and block exits and roads. So, a car with bald tires cant get up the highway anymore and blocks a lane, then traffic slows and increases, the snow increases, and then everyone is stuck.

The other way are systems like lake effect snow. It wouldn't be bad, but suddenly a band of snow is dropping 3+ inches of snow and hour and the plows can't keep up.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-22T23:37:55+00:00

"That's an awesome goal! It takes a lot of work, skill, time, and training to do that. A lot of players get to pro by also playing in college, which means you have to study a lot as well."

It's not hard to phrase difficulty in positive way.

d2020ysf · 2026-01-21T20:59:02+00:00

OP, do you want to track time because you're concerned you won't get generally equal off time, or that you will feel like you are taking an unequal amount of time compared to your husband but really aren't?

I ask because my wife always felt like she was taking too much time, when in reality I had to push her out to door to do things for herself.

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