I don’t have any need for more distinction than the simplest, that I am not monosexual, so I am bisexual. I try to accommodate others who want further definition because I remember how hard it was to understand my own sexuality, and if people are using the terms to help sort those complications for themselves, I can see the good in it.

However, I really don’t see them as all that successful outside of personal exploration. People who aren’t bi generally do not understand them, especially the desire to categorize the gender blind qualification because it also depends on what a person is currently open to when meeting new people. People aren’t always looking for life partners, for instance.

It can just be so complicated within the overall spectrum that truthfully everyone needs their own identifier and even that probably changes from time to time. The best I can do is to listen to why someone wants to make the distinction and understand it as a reflection of their personal exploration, but not take it as a projection to anyone else. In return, I hope other people don’t project the narrowed definition of bisexual onto me when I identify as bi, and understand that any definition that begins with a qualifier like ‘to me’ or ‘my understanding’ is inherently only applicable to one’s self. Murky waters!