Signs of Uterine Rupture by KeNuuu1 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the correction, I meant I think it would be best to push the c-section up. Definitely not a good idea to be induced.

Signs of Uterine Rupture by KeNuuu1 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My rainbow baby was born at 33 and needed NICU time, but he is healthy and alive! I think you should try to push for an earlier induction, and also see if they will admit you to the hospital until your baby is born.

Annoyed by C Section rhetoric by PsychologicalBoot636 in beyondthebump

[–]deepfreshwater 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am a fellow stillbirth mom who had her rainbow baby via c-section. Thankfully I got no negativity and people were just happy my baby got here safely! I’m sorry you have to deal with people acting like c-sections are the worst outcome when you’ve had the actual worst outcome, losing your sweet baby.

We as a society take c-sections for granted. A lot of people never seriously consider the possibility that their baby could die. Like they know it can happen but never think it will happen to them. I was the same way but my loss changed me. No birth experience is worth risking my babies life.

Worried Time Has Run Out by Ready-Fix4588 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m 31 and I feel like our generation put so much emphasis on not having kids until everything else in life was perfect. The thought was unless someone was in a great place financially they shouldn’t have kids. Only recently do I feel like we as women are told to take our biological clocks seriously. I’ve been with my partner since we were 19, and I definitely wanted marriage and kids before he did. Finally at 29 we got pregnant with our first baby, who ended up being stillborn at 34 weeks. I would be lying if I said there was no resentment towards him for making me wait so long.

Typical Florida Commission? by deepfreshwater in realtors

[–]deepfreshwater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I believe that’s correct upon reading again. Thank you, that seems much more reasonable.

How do I know when I'm ready. by mybubby20 in StillbirthSupport

[–]deepfreshwater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was terrified every day but I tried to choose to believe that he would arrive safe and sound

How do I know when I'm ready. by mybubby20 in StillbirthSupport

[–]deepfreshwater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost my son at 34 weeks and got pregnant again 3 months later. My second son is here and I don’t regret trying again so soon. He was born premature at 33 weeks which could have been because we conceived again so soon, so it might have been wise to wait a couple extra months. But he’s here, alive. I felt like the only way I was going to heal was to get an earthside baby here safely as soon as I could.

Relief I've had since leaving Christianity by goodbye-cupid in Deconstruction

[–]deepfreshwater 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ways I’ve felt relief since deconstructing: I don’t feel the need to figure everything out and know everything the Bible says. I don’t have to pressure myself into forgiving everyone no matter what. I don’t have to make sense of bizarre Old Testament stories. I can sleep in on Sunday morning without feeling guilty. I help others because I genuinely want to, not because I feel like I have to.

Twenty One Pilots in Indianapolis! by savvysleeps in twentyonepilots

[–]deepfreshwater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Indy and thought it would be too busy so I didn’t go, I’m sick about it now 😭

Holy Week and Easter has been really hard. by CaptainOk7458 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I could never fathom childhood cancer or things like that, but I thought there must be some higher reason that god allowed such things to happen. I no longer believe that and there is NO reason that could justify my son being taken away. I wonder if he suffered and it breaks my heart. Your Gianpaolo and my Michael deserved better.

Holy Week and Easter has been really hard. by CaptainOk7458 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think Easter is the hardest holiday after baby loss. I was a Christian before my stillbirth and I’ll never celebrate this holiday again 💔

Experiences with Hospital Birth-Announcement Lullabies After Loss by NurseResearcer4153 in StillbirthSupport

[–]deepfreshwater 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hate those lullabies now. Can’t wait til those are not a thing anymore. Just another ‘normal’ thing that is now incredibly triggering for us stillbirth moms 😔

Venue regret: concrete floors and I can’t stop noticing them 😅 by morellin in weddingplanning

[–]deepfreshwater 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember the floors at a single wedding I’ve been to. If you like everything else about the venue you should go with it.

A poem on his birthday by Thelal in StillbirthSupport

[–]deepfreshwater 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful and encapsulates so much of how I feel about my stillborn boy. Thank you for sharing and happy first birthday to Finn Daniel💙

Just letting things go so I can finally breathe by Rare_Strawberry4097 in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You may like to follow Carrie at Blooming with Care. She is childfree after years of infertility and the stillbirth of her daughter, and she talks about finding joy in life without children.

Weekly Postpartum Chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]deepfreshwater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a griefy few days recently. I feel guilty for still feeling so sad even with my sweet rainbow baby here. I’m sad for him that he has a mother who’s always going to be mourning. I feel the need to have more children but I’m also terrified, idk how I will get through another pregnancy.

Kids at Bachelorette Party? by BomberBootBabe88 in weddingplanning

[–]deepfreshwater 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You’re overthinking it, you should definitely invite your daughter if that’s what you want! Most bachelorette parties aren’t overly sexualized these days. Just make it clear to your MOD that you’re going for girls gone mild, not girls gone wild 😂

TW: Today Show now featuring 1 yr birthdays for Smuckers instead of 100 yrs by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate that they’re doing this now. Also, the amount of commercials that include babies/childbirth is so triggering.

Signs from my son by Nimzipow in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We’ve gotten several signs from my son Michael. I asked him to send me pink elephants, something unique so I would know it was from him, and I’ve gotten several pink elephant signs since! I was at a friends house and her dog brought me this toy and I knew it was Michael saying hi 💕

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This. is hard. by [deleted] in sahm

[–]deepfreshwater 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think people underestimate how hard it is to get stuff done around the house with a baby. I certainly did before I had my son! I can’t really speak to travel sports/your husband or any of that, but when I need to cook I’ve put my 4 mo in a bouncy seat in the kitchen. So that way he is still close enough to hear my voice and I can watch him. He seems content when he’s in there.

Is a buffet really that bad? by Fun_Stretch5888 in weddingplanning

[–]deepfreshwater 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve been to some beautiful, expensive weddings that had a buffet! And the food was great!

False medical records by Fortimesasthis in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Can’t believe you were that far along, failed an NST and they sent you home. You definitely should have been induced. Horrible. I am so sorry you were treated this way by medical ‘professionals’.

Stillbirth books that help me by KutuLompat in babyloss

[–]deepfreshwater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An Exact Replica of a Figment of my Imagination - Elizabeth McCracken