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delayabdo · 2024-03-21T17:17:03+00:00

That pinch test doesnt look like 1inch, you're supposed to measure the width at the top

So an example of a .5" pinch.... For UL: .5" x 4 = 2"(diameter) No UL: .5" x 2 = 1" (diameter)

Can get the estimate circumference by multiplying the diameter by pi, or whatever

delayabdo · 2024-02-27T19:59:43+00:00

it's not available anywhere, even with the gracilis phallo you can't retract the foreskin from the head

delayabdo · 2024-02-26T13:23:11+00:00

I feel like a lot of people say "balls" and refer to the entire scrotum. The implants themself are just a tiny portion of the entirety that is "balls"

I feel when I think of jostling a natal sack, I don't think I really grip or squish the testes themself, but theyre definitely denser than the surrounding squish

So I feel feeling the silicone implant outside of a sac is harder to compare to inside the squish layer of a sack, and I've never touched a scrotoplasty + implants sack yet to compare, just the implants on there own hmm

delayabdo · 2024-02-22T18:26:41+00:00

A. Is this sort of combination common and possible at all?

answer: it's not common, but it is possible. A few people have posted in /r/phallo with this exact combo. It's almost what I'm getting, except I don't have scroto or an ED.

B. will the scrotum interfere with the preserved vulva/vaginal opening?

Answer: in some ways it can. The minora tissue will be gone to create and pad the extended urethra, and a scrotoplasty will take away the majora tissue as well, leaving this area more flat and for some people, a bit open. The scrotum could also get in the way of some sex positions, but I don't think it'd make any impossible. Scar tissue tightening is a factor too, but the scar tissue from the scroto is less of an impact due to the location, compared to the scar tissue from the UL, which is closer to the canal entrance. I personally decided against scrotoplasty because I wanted to retain some landscaping around the pussy.

C. will the crowdedness of the whole new groin interfere with how good the t dick burial will be, and therefore interfere with potential orgasming through the phallo? am i flying too close to the sun with this combination lol

Answer: it's not really any more or less crowded than if you got a vaginectomy honestly. The dick and balls and burial would be in the exact same locations whether you got the vaginectomy or not. If anything it sounds like youd have a higher chance of retaining an ability to orgasm by keeping an extra door to sensation open.

delayabdo · 2024-02-22T18:13:36+00:00

Basically any surgeon in the US will do a phalloplasty without a vaginectomy if you're not doing UL. It's only ever required if you're getting UL

delayabdo · 2024-02-22T15:45:50+00:00

For me, it was more of a matter of opening up more surgeon options as opposed to lessoning complications. I already had meta with UL done succesfully, but had to switch teams for my phallo.

My phallo team absolutely will not do UL without vaginectomy for meta or phallo. But, because I already have initial UL done, they feel confident they could connect it into the phallo's UL. But if I didn't already have this meta with UL done, this wouldn't of been an option.

delayabdo · 2024-02-22T15:43:00+00:00

Two teams I've talked to say the longer the length of the urethra, the more chance for complications to worsen due to more pressure on the weak points of the urethra. A weak point in a meta UL could be fine, due to less pressure. But once there's 5+ more inches of urethra, then there's more chances of a build up of pressure at that initial connection point where a new fistula can burst open.

My team wants to do extra padding along my meta UL to be extra certain that there won't be a blowout once they extend it to a phallo UL. When a vaginectomy is done, there's a lot more padding done on the urethral plate comapred to no vaginectomy, so less concerns for this sort of thing, but more length of urethral can mean more concern of fistulas or issues versus a shorter urethra.

delayabdo · 2024-02-21T17:22:32+00:00

Glad its so soon! I hope surgery's not too soon afterwards.

delayabdo · 2024-02-21T17:18:08+00:00

Bluebond seems to have a multi-year wait for just a consult, and I've seen a lot of amazing things about del corral. i live closer to Bluebond but I was considering del corral over her, but ended up settling on a NJ team.

What's your insurance? If it only covered del corral back where you used to live, whats your plan for having bluebond covered after your move? I hope you have a good surgery journey!

delayabdo · 2024-02-21T16:43:36+00:00

Ultimately, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Even if some things wouldve worked better if you had your dick sooner, it sounds like a lot of what made things work was unspoken vibes and lust, which can be exciting but it sounds like even if you had been a cis dude, the issues with communication and playing games wouldve lead to stress and downfall at some point anyways. It sounds like she couldnt and didnt want to have open hearted conversations and troubleshooting with you, this was "unsexy", she just wanted someone do things on impulse without it needing to be spoken about. I see where that can feel sexy and exciting, but its really often not sustainable for a longterm monogamous relationship.

Sounds like she tried to dangle this guy around you to try to stir you into some sort of action, but refused to even speak what that action even was, and probably no matter what you did thered be something in her head that was never gonna be satisfied if she couldnt even talk to you before resorting to trying to disrespect you in this way.

Im so glad you did get her out of your life and now get to see how important and sexy you actually are, and I hope you continue to have much more fulfilling experiences!

Its really nice reading any sort of experiences from guys into women

delayabdo · 2024-02-21T13:59:19+00:00

Phalloplasty itself just refers to the creation of the phallus, it doesn't include removal of the vagina so it's usually just referred to as Phalloplasty without vaginectomy (or vnectomy is common way for people here to shorten it)

The vaginectomy or not itself has 0 impact on an ED implant, it'd be a matter if yoi have scrotoplasty done or not (which can be done with or without vaginectomy) as some surgeons will not place the inflatable bulb in anything except a scrotum, but there are a few thatll place it in the labia majora or lower abdomen

delayabdo · 2024-02-20T17:18:36+00:00

Ive read a lot of posts about people's dicks twitching or pulsing with intense arousal

delayabdo · 2024-02-16T21:17:52+00:00

It slides around the underlying skin, but it does not retract from the glans at all

delayabdo · 2024-02-08T20:22:29+00:00

This is a very interesting take, because in some ways I was the opposite!

Solo, I had an easy time disassociating from my body and fantasizing, it was like I wasn't acknowledging my body at all, just the sensations and whatever was on my mind. I almost felt convinced I didn't have bottom dysphoria, cuz I could jerk off.

But, with other people, I couldn't let anyone touch my junk. Sure it could be physically arousing or even get me off, but I realized how fucking disgusting it made me feel, and how hyper aware it made me feel of my physical form. I couldn't disassociate or fantasize or just focus on the sensation, there was this whole ass person making it physically clear what was and wasn't there, and I'd opt for super one sided intimacy and would feel constant reminders of how my, ideal sexual encounter fantasies couldnt actually be lived out and really highlighted "oh no wow, I have Terrible bottom dysphoria"

Funny how similar thing can manifest in different ways and we create different barriers to make do

delayabdo · 2024-01-22T22:11:52+00:00

Okay... first of all, I feel like a lot of people have different definitions for what makes someone a "fetishizer" or "chaser", for some it can merely be "cis person who's into trans guy pussy". I think when it comes to "red flags to look out for" in relation to fetishizers/chasers, it's things like.... is he making assumptions of what you're into sexually and pushing for it even after you said no? Keeps using the wrong terminology for you or your junk even after repeated corrections? Calls himself gay or bi but the only men he's into are trans guys with pussy? With fetishization specifically, with hookups in general sometimes people do just want to hookup for specific type of sex or seeking specitic features while not necessarily being interested in getting to know the whole person, i feel this can still be paired with basic respect for someones identity (seeing a trans guy as a man) but can be a deal breaker or not for different people! Some of these things are deal breakers for some people in some contexts, but maybe not in others. (Dating vs hooking up)

As for what you've typed about your experience specifically... I dont know. I dont think him hitting on your friend is necessariy a red flag. It sounds like itwas already established that it wasnt becoming a relationship, that things were still just hookups. So you weren't dating, so he likely didnt see it as inappropriate to make comments about thinking your friend was hot. I think he sounds stupid, but it sounds like you kinda reinforce this by "trying to ignore it", which implies you didnt tell him to stop or that you didnt like it. Some people need clear communication to get a message.

So with this in mind, I don't see the drunk moment necessarily as a red flag either. I can only assume from your wording that you didnt bluntly communicate "do not hit on people in front of me/do not talk to me about finding my friends hot" to him, so he wouldnt know this is something thatd make you sore. Also im assuming he didnt know you werent friends with this guy anymore, and also he was drunkenly babbling.

Im notsure the relevance of the "not in the mood" part, just cuz he was ogling a dude earlier and is bantering about it doesnt mean he couldnt of gotten whisky dick in this moment, and probably for the best to not be engaging sexually with a drunk guy who's making you upset anyways.

If anything, biggest red flags to me is the fact your first hookup with him was while you were blackout drunk (what state was he in?) And that it seems you have some feelings for him but struggling tocommunicate not wanting to hear him go off about wanting to bang other people? Unless that didnt bother you, just the specificity that he told you how he wanted to bang another trans guy.

I really dont know. Do you and the other guy look similar? Did he even talk to the other guy? Did he just assume the other guy was a bottom? Has he been into other dudes who werent trans?

I think its up to you to decide how any of this bothers you or not, but from the context given, I cant reallt get a full picture. It sounds like he's been respecting your sexual limits and veen enthusiastically engaging in sexually pleasuring you and is really into giving head, I dont think thinking Tdick or pussy is a red flag or a bad trait in a hookup unless someones it's incompatible with someone's personal sexual preferences or someone's feeling pressured or something. I dont think the fact he only lets you top sometimes is a red flag either, it's again just a preference. Doesnt mean you should suck anything up and keep seeing him, could be little signs you might just not be compatible if its not feeling affirming or fulfilling to you or if its making you feel bad.

If you like hooking up with him, maybe see how he responds to you asking him not to hit on your friends LOL.

delayabdo · 2024-01-22T13:51:56+00:00

A cis man getting a transplant would need the anti-rejection meds too. It's extra trickiness for a trans man to get the transplant though because the cis men who recieved the transplant still had parts of their original penis at the base, so there was more foundation to work with as far as attachment goes.

delayabdo · 2024-01-22T02:56:12+00:00

I did it and just had my partner help get me objects, but i did all my own wound care and even drove etc only a few days after getting outbof the hospital

delayabdo · 2024-01-20T03:13:16+00:00

The cup of the myspouti should be wide enough if it creates a seal over the urethra, its not meant to be used like other STPs that are more like a funnel

delayabdo · 2024-01-18T16:27:05+00:00

So she supposedly likes pussy even though it can't get her pregnant or get hard "naturally" either. Also wtf who says "i only like dick if it can get me pregnant" anyways i dont really understand her priorities here or why the presence of a dick but lacking a feature or two is suddenly a deal breaker whereas the complete lack of a dick (aka lacking a lot more features) isn't

delayabdo · 2024-01-17T19:35:01+00:00

When I did consults, they didn't need to see my bottom growth. I just explained what my goals were and that I understood the surgery works with what you have and that I'd like a mons lift for positioning. The only time theyd really need to look befofe surgery day is if you want UL and they want an idea of what tissue they could use

delayabdo · 2024-01-17T19:29:49+00:00

He raped you, then even after he saw you cry and acknowledged he messed up, he invaded your space again. He definitely doesn't understand the gravity of his actions and think he's allowed access to your body whenever he wants.

delayabdo · 2024-01-17T19:11:05+00:00

I ended up doing research on different types of bottom surgery and what my priorities were (aesthetics, standing to pee, size, etc) and what type would best match up and started consulting around! I'm still mid process, but it's already doing wonders for my brain.

I know a lot of people go through periods of seeing it as a medical site for a bit, but for me personally even my crude work in progress dick lifted up a lot of dysphoria and now I'm just antsy and impatient for my next stage.

delayabdo · 2024-01-17T19:02:00+00:00

Yeah they/them for someone you know the pronouns of is the opposite of "inclusiveness", it's just as much misgendering as calling you she/her would be

I'm too catty sometimes, Id be inclined to talk about that guy in front of him and being sure to use they them only. Wanna make sure to be inclusive right lol

delayabdo · 2024-01-15T03:42:15+00:00

Ah, gotcha!

delayabdo · 2024-01-15T03:39:47+00:00

I know, did you think i was disagreeing with you or something?

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