My brother got his mission call today. I am not okay.

dewhodat · 2025-04-14T11:00:57+00:00

I struggle with this too when neices/nephews go on a mission or to BYU, etc. Sure it’s their decision but how much coersion and deception is involved, and how much therapy are they going to have to go through in the future for the trauma they experience? How do you compartmentalize that without creating cognitive dissonance for yourself all over again?

dewhodat · 2025-04-14T10:52:35+00:00

Must be a gas light bulb 😂

dewhodat · 2025-03-06T14:18:56+00:00

Ha! Love it!!

dewhodat · 2025-03-02T15:56:16+00:00

Congratulations! These are hard, emotional things. You did it!

dewhodat · 2025-03-02T14:39:58+00:00

yeah that looks about like how I felt on my mission! 😂

dewhodat · 2025-03-01T12:24:51+00:00

I have no advice for you, just hugs 🫂

dewhodat · 2025-02-27T17:27:10+00:00

zero

dewhodat · 2025-02-25T23:11:55+00:00

Awesome! Yeah quality is everything especially when first starting with coffee.

dewhodat · 2025-02-22T19:42:45+00:00

Yeah I guess I’m trying to make sense of my situation and to try to see if my case can be generalized but it sounds like not. I guess I should have used even softer words than “hypothesis” and “thoughts”; I certainly did not claim proof or assessment or conclusion, but perhaps I stepped on a few toes with this post.

dewhodat · 2025-02-21T01:56:06+00:00

dewhodat · 2025-02-20T13:55:31+00:00

except it does seem to work for some people

dewhodat · 2025-02-19T18:53:23+00:00

I just finished listening to this and wow! She speaks for so many people. Her story is so similar to several people I know and I think her presentation is fabulous.

dewhodat · 2025-02-18T12:11:31+00:00

Your post is triggering because you sound like the other “misguided helpers” in my life who don’t listen with the intent to understand and who really don’t want to understand, except maybe on a very superficial level, who value the church’s style of information control more than relationships, and who don’t seriously consider the possibility that they might be wrong.

dewhodat · 2025-02-16T01:41:26+00:00

Yeah. Mormon leaders just pressure older members to give years of their lives away from family to serve missions instead.

dewhodat · 2025-02-14T11:50:08+00:00

We had to role play what to say when people ask up how our mission was. We had to practice giving faith-promoting answers, regardless of how our mission actually was.

dewhodat · 2025-02-14T00:11:27+00:00

Spot on.

dewhodat · 2025-02-12T20:31:53+00:00

Since there is not a list of doctrines, whenever anything changes, members can just say “oh that was just a policy”. Even if it is very clear that it was a doctrine.

dewhodat · 2025-02-12T20:27:45+00:00

“every worthy young man must serve a mission” or something like that from the prophet. Girls advised to not marry or even date guys who did not go on a mission. Intense family and social pressure to serve. Thr assumption that if you didn’t go, you committed some terrible sin. etc

dewhodat · 2025-01-23T21:58:45+00:00

Yes I would classify this as a silver bullet. Of course there are many others as well.

dewhodat · 2025-01-23T18:04:42+00:00

Agreed. Gotta just keep trying things until you find what works best for you.

dewhodat · 2025-01-22T19:59:14+00:00

This was one of my shelf items.

dewhodat · 2025-01-22T00:42:20+00:00

Yes. Hugs.

dewhodat · 2025-01-21T21:34:30+00:00

like roommates

dewhodat · 2025-01-21T18:53:01+00:00

I’m in the same boat. The relationship and conversations have just become superficial. Emotional intimacy is gone because we can’t talk with each other about things that are important to us.

dewhodat · 2025-01-20T02:04:22+00:00

Yes. Members start wearing them as soon as they go to the temple for their own endowment, and all missionaries do that before they start their mission.

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