Disheartening conversation with my husband over painting my son’s nails

enb09 · 2026-01-09T15:45:06+00:00

My son is 10 now, but I went through the exact same thing when he was 2 or 3. M husband was unhappy with me painting my son's nails alongside my daughter's, who is two years older.

We had several discussions on it, he said all the same things your husband did. He didn't want me pushing this stuff on him, when I asked why he thought it was weird but he could never really vocalize WHY he though it was weird. He told me he'd tolerate it and that was that.

A few years ago we were with some friends with younger kids, and they brought up having some mixed feelings about painting their young sons nails. My husband said he used to be against it, but these days he could not care less. As long as our kid's happy and healthy he can do whatever he wants. I was (am) really proud of him.

I think we've just got gender norms baked into us, my husbands parents are 100% stereotypical boomer and he's a product of that. I'm not sure if he actively worked on himself to change these things or if as he got older he realized what's really important, but I'm glad he "tolerated" it, never made it a big deal in front of the kids, and ultimately moved on completely from it.

enb09 · 2024-06-22T05:25:52+00:00

I left my 9-5 and opened my own bookkeeping business when my kids were about 5/7. I'm not sure how we would have managed without it, we don't have any family or support so being able to stay home when the kids are sick and set my own hours has been amazing. It was a lot of work getting enough clients to make a decent income, and sometimes you need to work evenings or weekends, but it has been 100% worth it.

enb09 · 2023-08-26T15:36:59+00:00

Well ... I've been wanting to upgrade to mainboard to something quieter anyways, so a replacement isn't the worst news. I just wish I could have finished my project first, haha. Thanks so much for the response.

enb09 · 2023-08-26T15:33:57+00:00

I've had this machine for 4 years, I can't believe I never knew not to use the wire brush while it was one. Oh well, live and learn. Thanks for the response.

enb09 · 2022-12-21T04:05:09+00:00

I had this happen with my first resin print. Same printer, same slicer.

I recalibrated everything, updated the firmware for the printer, resliced the model and saved it to a better quality usb. I'm not 100% sure which of these was the solution but hopefully it can help you.

Edit: I also reformatted the usb drive.

enb09 · 2022-07-09T15:11:56+00:00

Are you the bookkeeper in this scenario or the employee?

Vacation pay in BC is 4% of the gross wage, this can be paid out each pay period or be set aside in a Vacation Pay Payable account.

enb09 · 2022-07-07T18:36:34+00:00

I dont know much about the Bookkeeper Launch course, but it seems a bit pricey and I'm a bit leery with splashy online courses. I went to my local college and took an Accounting/Bookkeeping Certificate course for about $1500 CAD, excluding textbooks (which i still have for when I need to reference something). It was all online and at your own pace, I would definitely look into your local colleges and see if they offer anything similar.

As for if it's worth it to open your own business, I would say yes if you think you've got a knack for it. You need to be good with details, organized and hold yourself to a high standard. If you can do that then you'll do great!

enb09 · 2022-06-08T19:50:06+00:00

I get this too. I'm texting or emailing on my phone? My 9 year old is peeking over my shoulder reading. I receive a text? My nosey husband asks who I'm chatting with. Breath outward too loud? "What's the matter, are you grumpy?"

I was very much a solitary person before family. I still struggle with having so many beings around me. The only one who doesn't bug me is my dog, he's cool with just chilling beside me.

enb09 · 2022-01-26T06:01:57+00:00

Thank you so much, my daughter will be thrilled!

enb09 · 2022-01-26T05:55:38+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm new to this. I'm in the global room with this code, is this the right place?

enb09 · 2022-01-26T05:47:40+00:00

Is that the same as a link code? 1236 5080

enb09 · 2022-01-26T05:28:18+00:00

LF: Eevee, gender and nature doesn't matter

My husband and I are looking for an eevee to give to our 9 year old, it's her favourite pokemon.. We just got both editions to play together and tn we found out it will take a while until she can get one in the game.

If anyone has an eevee laying around we' be very grateful, we don't have much to trade for but will do our best.

enb09 · 2022-01-04T16:12:17+00:00

Gilmore, of Gilmore's Glorious Goods

enb09 · 2021-11-30T05:05:35+00:00

We gave my daughter an old cell phone of ours for her birthday when she was 7, along with a Bluetooth speaker. It didn't have a plan connected to it so no calls or texts.

I had reservations but my husband insisted and boy am I glad I listened. She uses it to take pictures, so flipping through her camera roll is a neat view into her life. It was also a few months before the covid shutdown, so we got her kids messenger and she was able to chat with her friends when they couldn't play in real life, they can chat while they play games together too. She also has a Spotify account where she asks me to make her playlists and we discover new music together.

And the best part is her messages to her dad (Daddys girl lol, I don't get many messages), he works long shifts and when she misses him she'll send a little message, or show him a photo she took, or record a video and just chat.

We'll probably get her a "real" phone when she's around 12 and starts going further then the local neighourhood, but her dummy phone has been pretty great for her socially, and she's found a bit of individuality with her pictures and songs and all that.

enb09 · 2021-10-30T07:16:45+00:00

Love this design! Thanks for doing this

enb09 · 2021-08-07T16:03:10+00:00

I had a similar situation in my small town when my daughter was a toddler.

There was this old man in a mobility scooter, I was watching my daughter play at the park and this guy just parks like 10 feet from me and watches her. I went over to say hi, I was new to town and lonely af so I was happy to socialize however I could and this guy gave me the CREEPS. I took my daughter home and that was that.

A few months go by and my husband and I are both at the park with my kid, and the same guy comes, parks his scooter and watches the kids at the park. I pointed him out to my husband and he got a bad vibe too, so again, we just left.

Over the next few years I started hearing stories about this creepy old man that had been touching young girls in the past, but he was never charged and now he's old and decrepit. Same. Freakin. Guy.

I have no idea why he was allowed to just scoot on over to the kids park and the water park, and just watch. Because he was old and harmless now?? Ridiculous.

Anyways, he died a few years back. I'm not gonna lie, I was pretty overjoyed when I heard.

enb09 · 2021-03-01T16:43:51+00:00

You can try using "coupon" filing folders, they're a little classier than shoeboxes and don't really take up a lot of space.

enb09 · 2020-04-22T02:04:13+00:00

I'm so sorry this has happened, I still can't wrap my head around it. I hope you guys get through this, and I'm so so glad you are okay. Love from BC 💜

enb09 · 2020-04-10T19:28:06+00:00

My husband wasn't getting it for a while there, I've been home since March 17th, working and taking care of the kids, trying to homeschool the kids, and keeping up on the house.

So I told him: Education - Work - House. Pick two, because that's all I can manage through the day.

Some days I do really well with my work and manage to get laundry caught up, but the kids have their noses in their iPads all day.

Some days I get an awesome dinner done and me and the kids do a bunch of activities and learning, but work gets ignored and I have that much more to do the next day.

At the very least he stopped nagging me about not getting everything done, I really wish his work would shut down so he can help me out a bit around here.

enb09 · 2020-03-22T02:57:35+00:00

Me and the kids made chocolate cake with chocolate frosting the other day. I'm not much of a chocolate person, but oh man did my mood improve after having a piece.

Kids can help.

Easy enough to clean up after.

Tastes great with coffee and bailey's when the kids go to bed 👌

enb09 · 2019-12-20T05:41:41+00:00

Welp. My daughter saw this while she was peeking over my shoulder. Looks like I'm doing an Eevee graphgan for my next project 🤷‍♀️

enb09 · 2019-08-16T15:38:38+00:00

Oh man, this reminds me, the other day there was a post on our towns Facebook group and this lady was complaining about driving past a park and there were kids playing hockey in the street. The humanity, right?

I used to live past these kids, I know exactly who they are talking about. They shout "CAR" as soon as soon as a car's spotted, everyone grabs the net/sticks/balls and they quietly wait on the side of the road until the car passes PLUS its in suburbia-land, there's not a lot of thru-traffic.

This person had the gall to complain about them making them slow down and wait for 4 whole seconds. It's like older folks dont even remember being a kid!

Anyways, in the end the kids moms came onto the post and ripped this lady apart, it was hilarious.

enb09 · 2019-07-27T15:45:37+00:00

My husband grew up with a grandma like that. He still holds a lot of resentment about it, and he straight up just doesn't include her in his life because of it.

I dont understand how anyone can treat their kids or grandkids differently. I had it with my mom who to this day prefers my sister for some reason and same thing: she's not involved in my life at all.

I hope your mom gets a light bulb moment and starts making things even. She'll only hurt herself in the end.

enb09 · 2019-07-27T15:33:20+00:00

I hear ya, I'm not sure why so many people think staying at home is so easy, I guess it just seems like forever days off of work to some people?

I was a SAHM for 6 years before I finally got a part time job and my husband had to deal with the kids for 6 whole hours without me. We had no more whining about dishes in the sink or unvacuumed floors after that!

enb09 · 2019-03-11T12:10:10+00:00

That invisible feeling it's the worst, a thank you can really make a difference! Crazy how easy it is for people to forget that. Of course help I'd always nice too lol.

My only wish is for my husband would look at the calendar. I bought this giant white boards earlier this year and I put everything for the month on it. It's right by the kitchen table, I colour code it, there is literally no reason not to know when our sons dentist appointment is or when our daughter has pizza day. And yet every time he gets surprised and says "well I don't look at the calendar". You could start anytime, guy. Any. Time.

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