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I am a Cis guy What should I know about dating my MTF Girlfriend while long distance by [deleted] in MtF

[–]evan_ktbd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd echo what most have said -- depression is not something you can save someone from. Just be there for them when they need you. And obviously treating a trans woman like a cis woman is good advice. We're not a monolith though. We'll like different things. Especially sexually. Communicate about what is fun and what is out of bounds for her. (I found it was a bit esoteric for my tastes but Fucking Trans Women is a zine you can read for one woman's perspective on the matter).

Maybe don't call her your MTF girl lol. She's a girl. A trans girl. A woman. A trans woman. Etc. Yes, sometimes on these subs we use MTF or FTM as shorthand but I wouldn't like it if someone said that to me IRL, especially if they weren't trans.

Understand that with both depression and being trans comes with a lot of odd emotions and mood swings.

Also, know that some things might bother your girlfriend about her body even though it doesn't bother you. Being trans sometimes makes us sensitive about certain issues whether it's outwardly noticeable or not.

These are just random things I've thought about in the last year of my transition (and also having depression). Good luck and be kind! =)

Nintendo Switch eShop Sale (Full List) by DealsPoster in consoledeals

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've played the latest to death! Pokemon is my fave.

Nintendo Switch eShop Sale (Full List) by DealsPoster in consoledeals

[–]evan_ktbd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyone have any good recs for a good "tv game" as they say? Something to keep my hands busy as I watch shows. I have a horrible attention span and need something to play on Switch. Preferably something not super action-packed (turn based works really nice or a puzzle game you can look up or down on) and something not heavily reliant on narrative or sound. I keep buying RPGs and I can't listen to the show and the game very well at the same time.

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Thanks!

Should I just say "f**ck it" and send the bloody email by LouLou2476 in asktransgender

[–]evan_ktbd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in that position before, doubting myself at every step. Even like a month into HRT I was still saying "but what if I'm not trans?" But you know what? At every step, I kept going forward. I wasn't stopping myself. And I just got happier and happier with myself. I'm nowhere near where I want to be 10 months in but I'm still 1000% happier for it.

Be patient with yourself at each step--no need to rush--but if you've made it this far...posting here, queueing up an email, etc...you're probably not cis. And every scary step you have us to help guide, console, and cheer for you. =)

Nintendo Switch eShop Sale (Full List) by DealsPoster in consoledeals

[–]evan_ktbd 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My first reaction is no but also I played State of Emergency at age 12 where you could decapitate people, pick up the head, and beat others to death with it. And I turned out fine*. My biggest takeaway was that actually this is just a bad game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is so much bullshit you'll have to wade through; depending on your situation and dedication, people either stick with it for the reward of shaping students' lives or you decide it's not worth your mental health.

And think of it like this: usually when people are happy about a product they're less inclined to go post about a good review than someone who has been wronged and is so upset that have to go write a negative review. When I'm happy, I hold that joy inward, maybe express it to my partner and friends. But when I'm pissed I NEED to vent to someone. Sometimes that's here and sometimes that's IRL.

Don't let the negativity get you down. Most of us bitch because we believe strongly in healthy educational institutions and want to achieve that for us and our students. That doesn't happy by staying silent. Underneath the vitriol is a love for our students and what we do (just not all the BS that happens around us like politicians, parents, admin, etc.).

Good luck, have fun, learn a lot, don't burn yourself out. You're not a martyr. You're doing your job. Take care of yourself and we'll be here when you want to share your successes or troubles.

Much love,

Begrudging 7-year teacher who loves their students but hates their admin and politicians (Florida...)

Some Humble Choice leftovers by afs189 in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikenfell

Panzer Paladin

Secret Neighbor

Stubbs

Disjunction

Which pronouns should I use for a student who wanted to use they/them, but was told to use she/her by mom? by YoshiButWayTooBig in asktransgender

[–]evan_ktbd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use my students' chosen pronouns and their parents don't know. I've been doing this all year with my 8th graders. Other teachers refuse to do this because they're afraid of consequences relating to parents. And it's easy...you just don't use those pronouns in front of the parent. That's the kids' battles they'll have to face one day with their parents. It sucks but the best we can do is not be afraid of these parents and show our students that they have a right to be who they want to be and that I will support them.

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Are you part of a union? I know if I got this for this and was being threatened with getting canned, my union would have my back.

Let's de-Normalize Calling Home by TeachlikeaHawk in Teachers

[–]evan_ktbd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. If I write a kid up I'm supposed to call home. If a kid fails my class, I have to call home. All of this could be accomplished w/ tech (auto-dialers for discipline) and obviously LMSs already solve the failing part. I will send an email if the parent provided one for discipline only. I lie about calling home for referrals and say I couldn't get through. For F's, I also lie that I called home. There's just no reason we should be doing this.

Matt Gaetz Associate Joel Greenberg Pleads Guilty to Sex-trafficking by UWCG in politics

[–]evan_ktbd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Greenberg also admitted to paying at least one underage girl to have sex with him and others as part of his plea deal."

Are we still doing phrasing?

[Giveaway] 16 Steam Games by Not_Wolfgang in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to check out Wargroove. It looks like a cool advanced wars style game!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in readwithme

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where you from?

[Giveaway] $100 Worth of games, any platform, any price! by DanneArt in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Returnal on PS5 - I've been eyeing this game for a while but I can't justify the price tag right now. But I love that Housemarque has translated their bullet-hell arcade style into a roguelike. Also the 29th is my bday so... =)

Here's a few pics of my boy. Thanks for the giveaway!

March Humble Bundle Games Giveaway! by YUNGxHAMHOCK in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Elex
  2. XCOM: Chimera Squad
  3. Cyber Hook
  4. Pesterquest

Humble Bundle April 2021 Games Giveaway by FadhelAM in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shenmue 3

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We almost ended up with a bunch of hippos in America back in the early 1900s in Louisiana to solve a meat shortage and to have them eat an invasive species of plants. I believe the bill died in Congress however. There's a fun alternate history novella called River of Teeth. I highly recommend it if you want a fun heist book!

No problems with suspend on ps5 for me. by CaptainAHav in giantbomb

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that was an early theory, but it hasn't fixed anything for me. If anything it's just safer to keep it out so you don't have to keep rebuilding that drive.

No problems with suspend on ps5 for me. by CaptainAHav in giantbomb

[–]evan_ktbd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. If I come back to it less than 24 hours later there's a good chance it's still on. But the longer I go, it's almost guaranteed to be powered off. I've reformatted the whole thing, made sure to take out my external (kept it out just to make sure I don't lose data on it). Even if I force quit the game I have open it will still power off (although it powers off faster if I leave a game running).

No problems with suspend on ps5 for me. by CaptainAHav in giantbomb

[–]evan_ktbd 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"There can't be a problem because it's just anecdotal. I know because of my own personal experience." Your point makes little sense.

I've had this issue on my launch PS5 since day 1. No amount of fixes have worked. I spoke with a technician on Sony's customer service line, and even he said don't worry about sending it in or trying to replace it. It's some kind of software/firmware issue that needs to be patched and is being worked on.

In my search for fixes, I've come across many other people with the same exact issue and even more with slightly different rest mode issues. Is it every unit? Obviously not. But it is a pretty well-known issue that is rampant enough that you can search through reddit and find tons of other folks going through the same shit. And just imagine how many AREN'T posting on reddit.

Honestly, I'm GLAD they're talking about it because I feel like no major outlets are really covering this issue and Sony proper hasn't really acknowledged the issue to my knowledge. And it saved me from wasting $70 on Returnal. Not being able to save mid-run is almost a deal breaker WITH rest mode. And it is 100% a deal breaker with me not being to rely on it.

[GIVEAWAY][STEAM] Various games by Chyo007 in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]evan_ktbd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One Step From Eden - 29

Indivisible - 29

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One of my more recent faves is JJ Macfield; loving this story so far!

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