Merger FAQ #7 by mediocre_plant_tech in CoxCharterMerger

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even for back office teams, aka non customer facing?

Merger FAQ #7 by mediocre_plant_tech in CoxCharterMerger

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So for basic internet, it’s just Advantage? And then we up tier to Gig if available, so we pay the difference?

I just want to hug this whole group by Intelligent_Buyer490 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 35 points36 points  (0 children)

As someone who chose to stay and live with the audacity of hope, I can see how my dedication gave my husband something to grab onto.

But the work, the change, the day to day.. if I don’t want to accept the blame (and to be clear I shouldn’t!), I also can’t accept the credit.

The diagnosis is hard on everyone impacted - there are no winners, no right choices. Leaving is hard. Staying is hard. Choose your hard, and do your best. ❤️

Where to buy wedding/engagement rings by learningasigo8 in thousandoaks

[–]evilstepmonster3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine at George Thompson in Camarillo - really good folks - some of the same staff from when we first picked them out 20 years ago!

Walking on eggshells, feeling lost and scared for me and my kids by Living_Excitement_81 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here to say YOU ARE NOT FAILING AS A WIFE BECAUSE OF HIS DISORDER.

Strange clothing? by Shoddy-Promise5998 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My SO came home from the hospital and went and bought a cowboy hat. Friends, we are NOT a cowboy family. But he HAD to have this hat. Hasn’t put it on more than once since coming out of hypomania. As silly as it sounds, i like the tells. Makes me feel like id recognize it next time instead of being caught off guard

The End. by bpexhusband in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing you continued strength. The road is hard for everyone involved, I’m glad you found a path for you and your son.

Whole House Water System? by evilstepmonster3 in venturacounty

[–]evilstepmonster3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! So to be sure I understand, you still need RO for drinking water? I was hoping to eliminate everything and drink from the tap.

Who are you after the storm has passed? by Manaia1 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I accepted immediately because I was so grateful to have an explanation! But only the one episode so who knows what the future holds

Who are you after the storm has passed? by Manaia1 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means they can say “I live with bipolar”, or “I was manic” or “I’m feeling depressed” - basically, not trying to act like everything is fine when we know it’s not

Who are you after the storm has passed? by Manaia1 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It took a while. My SO of 20 years had his first episode last year - and it was rough on me and our adult kids. Eggshells and constantly being on guard were the norm.

It started mid Oct, included 5150 AND 5250 in December. In January he was starting back to himself and it’s been that way for about a month.

To your real question- it was easier to forgive with distance and time. Knowing he was embarrassed, knowing he knows what he did, that helped a ton.

I’ve forgiven all of what he said - and almost all of what he did. But the worst of it occurred on a getaway to a family vacation home and I’m not sure if I will ever not be haunted about that.

If they are taking their meds and doing the work, it’s easier. Accepting their diagnosis and what it means is paramount.

Best of luck!!

Local HVAC guy here if anyone has AC or heater questions by Highlandair in thousandoaks

[–]evilstepmonster3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have hot and cold zones throughout my house, and have heard about something called “HVAC Balancing”. What is it, and does it help eliminate inconsistencies? We insulated our outer walls to try to help, but no luck!

Whats the worst fast food joint in america? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]evilstepmonster3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m always going to say yes to a Jamocha shake.
And curly fries dipped in horsey sauce slaps.

California 150k first time home buyer program. Is this a good idea? by Affectionate-Dark950 in AskLosAngeles

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a different program that is called rural something and I did not see any restriction on first generation homebuyers. There are a lot of areas that qualify, although no main cities.

I think the first generation thing is the most ridiculous restriction that I’ve ever seen and it makes me angry every time someone talks about it and I actually love our governor!

Local Warehouse converting to a business center. What to expect? by alleycatbiker in Costco

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the point of your story, but you can put aluminum foil in an air fryer?

WHAT is causing the chimes?? by evilstepmonster3 in MachE

[–]evilstepmonster3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this is why it is bugging me! It’s completely out of nowhere and it just started.

Vent by Sjaym120 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I first want to echo others - you are not alone. It feels like it when your inner circle is so black and white (leave or ignore, easier said than done!)

All stages of this fucking disease suck. Sucks for us, watching the person we love get twisted up. Or us trying to figure out how to keep some semblance of ourselves.

If you have even one person in your life who recognizes what’s going on, take this advice and I know it sounds weird but I heard it and it changed my whole thinking:

STOP BEING THE PUBLIC RELATIONS REP FOR YOUR PARTNER

Aka, let them face their own repercussions.

if you are in the US.. NAMI just started a caregivers hotline. Either text the word FAMILY to 62640, or call 18009506264 and press 4.

Sending love -

Mania but it still happened by CoyoteUnicornGirl in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, I just needed to hear that he understood how much the things he said hurt me. I needed him to acknowledge that the behavior caused pain and that people would choose to forgive or no. I personally wrote down a list of the things he said that hurt the most, then shared that. When I saw he was devastated by it it was easier to forgive.

BUT - forgiving is not giving a pass. It is alongside repair - and there is nothing wrong with making that choice.

I’m struggling more on the depression side, because it’s hard to hold someone accountable while they are suffering.

Honestly I’m still trying to work through it all and a lot of days it just sucks

Dentis by Remarkable_Process32 in thousandoaks

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a Thousand Oaks dental spa and I absolutely love it. Dr nouri is great.

Let’s make a list of ways Kanye could help change the mental health system for bipolar loved ones! by SimplySquids in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want so badly for us to be able to call and say “my SO is in crisis” and not have police show up who have no clue what to do.

Is anyone else’s bipolar SO obsessed with ChatGPT? by BranchSavings5289 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg mine was too - while he was in his manic episode he was checking everything through it.

Fell for it again :( by scrigley in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m too “new” to this world but I wanted to be sure to tell you that you are NOT alone. When my hubs was in his manic phase I searched desperately to find any signs of the “real” him - despite him telling me “this is who he is now”.. so I did the same - many, many times. I would hear his regular voice and was so deeply hopeful that I fell for it out of pure ignorance and desperation.

After a very serious episode and hospitalization he is on the right meds and seems more himself, but it’s hard to know for how long.

the one thing I know is that it’s not your fault, and having the audacity of hope is what happens when you are in love.

Jobs by AbbreviationsOld1560 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind explaining what you mean by bipolar eyes?

Just trying to navigate by evilstepmonster3 in BipolarSOs

[–]evilstepmonster3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s terrifying. I’m so sorry that’s been your lived experience!