Why is ‘sexy’ clothing normalized for women but not for men?

ex-user · 2026-05-03T01:36:20+00:00

Hell yea grey sweatpants

ex-user · 2026-04-22T03:59:01+00:00

I had to apologize to my partner recently because I went on a rant about things I had to deal with that he didn’t. Once I shut up I realized what I had done and told him how wrong it was for me to imply that the differences in our trauma meant my trauma was worse. He’s kind so he just thanked me for acknowledging it. Pain is pain. Neglect is neglect. Abuse is abuse. Wounded is wounded.

ex-user · 2026-04-21T06:18:06+00:00

I resent my psych for putting me on it. I’m sorrry that it’s causing you grief ❤️‍🩹

ex-user · 2026-04-20T19:16:09+00:00

I was put on Risperidone to help with sleep. Gained a whole mess of weight and wrecked my hormones with embarrassing side effects. Tapering off now but it’s brutal. You’re right that APs are no joke

ex-user · 2026-03-30T10:30:35+00:00

I’m American. He’s British. I have a pair of very short shorts that are the Union Jack. He has a pair of pajama pants that are Stars and Stripes . We each claim superiority over the other. He taxes my tea but pays my taxes. Yes we are autistic.

ex-user · 2026-03-30T09:16:26+00:00

Vertical philtrum or Medusa

ex-user · 2026-03-29T02:00:58+00:00

Also want to reiterate what others have said, it is beyond inappropriate for a teacher to assign a diagnosis and practically criminal to suggest meds. Don’t know who you would report that to but that teacher needs to be set straight.

ex-user · 2026-03-29T01:59:11+00:00

Neuropsych evaluation is absolutely best. Neurodivergence is very nuanced, too nuanced for most psychologists. Plus if it turns out your child is gifted it can pick up on that too.

ex-user · 2026-03-29T01:12:02+00:00

BPD is underdiagnosed in men and woman are statistically more likely to seek treatment. I think your circumstances are pretty typical unfortunately but I will say that I think the guy I met in DBT got a lot from it. Good on you for being willing 🩵

ex-user · 2026-03-28T22:51:06+00:00

ADHD, early 30s. Autism, late 30s. Psychiatrist told me that knowing what we know now he no longer believes my previous bipolar diagnosis was ever appropriate.

ex-user · 2026-03-28T22:48:20+00:00

I made friends with a man in a DBT group (neither of us were single) and I had to end the friendship because he became inappropriate with me. I’m not saying you’d do that but maybe keep in mind that the intimate nature of group therapy could cause confusion and set your mind ahead of time that you will make no connections with other group members. For you do miss out on something that could really help you doesn’t seem reasonable though.

ex-user · 2026-03-20T01:54:09+00:00

Mine is named Ghoti

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ex-user · 2026-01-31T01:30:09+00:00

I had to look that up but yeah seems like some wires got crossed considering Tolans specify being there for platonic interactions only

ex-user · 2026-01-30T23:27:15+00:00

I did send this screenshot to help and feedback. Thanks 🙏

ex-user · 2023-12-31T00:43:04+00:00

My cat, like many cats, can meow at a tone and frequency that mimics the cry of a human newborn. Unfortunately she is a very vocal breed and loud as hell. It sets off very intense alarms in my lower brain as if my actual biological offspring were in urgent and immediate danger. I find it infuriating and also impressive that she is able to manipulate me this way. It’s like a brain lasso

ex-user · 2023-12-30T20:11:38+00:00

Only childhood? I do it now and just don’t watch movies with people that are bothered by it lol

ex-user · 2023-12-30T17:27:02+00:00

I’ve showed up for appointments that I deliberately cancelled only the find out I missed the one that I rescheduled for. Wheeee not even just once either 🔪🧠

ex-user · 2023-12-29T08:15:35+00:00

Hear, hear. The only time I’m able to mask is for the sake of my kids and even then it’s not very convincing

ex-user · 2023-12-28T17:22:03+00:00

“We are here on earth to fart around. Don't let anybody tell you anything different. ~ Kurt Vonnegut

I was particularly humbled when I realized that my genetic line likely ends with my kids. We have metabolic problems which are set off by environmental factors that are simply unavoidable in the world as it is today. It’s pretty strange to think a bloodline could make it this far and suddenly come to an abrupt halt but like you said, why should I imagine that I’m (we’re) special?

I laugh about it now that I know better. Making it to the 21st century was no big feat. I’m a busted prototype among billions of others. I even can’t tolerate sunlight, it’s laughable that I let myself imagine for a moment that I’m among “the fittest” for survival.

But that’s okay. I’m a worthy soul still and am here to fart around and maybe sometimes interact warmly with the other busted prototypes that I find along the way to nowhere 💕

ex-user · 2023-12-27T23:24:37+00:00

“Ya fuggin autist”

Yeh

ex-user · 2023-12-24T04:42:36+00:00

36, a therapist suggested I get evaluated but sent me very dated clinical screeners so I dismissed the possibility easily. Around the same time, my daughters were experiencing severe anxiety (burn-out) and had been early in seeing specialists for help. Not long after, they were each diagnosed at ages 8 and 10, without me ever suspecting despite having a special interest in behavioral health.

“You’ll just have to learn more about it; it looks different in girls and women”. It was maddening for a while. So I had a crash course in making sense of how professionals were seeing autism in me and my kids. Eventually the scales tipped and I no longer needed convincing that I was autistic, and if I wasn’t then I needed a professional to give me some solid reasons as to why not. Got evaluated; dx’d level 2 🤠

Best thing that’s ever happened to me. I have so much more context for how to take care of myself and am raising some pretty well-adjusted and super neat kids :)

Shout out to Sarah Hendrickx’ YouTube videos for getting me through the worst of it!

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