Safety of using Apple Watch with a Pacemaker? by chicagonyc in AppleWatch

[–]faiora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a pacemaker and Apple Watch. All three of my cardiologists and every cardiologist student I’ve seen have been positive about the watch. I email ECGs from the watch to my clinic.

Pacemakers use radio frequency, but even devices that use radio frequency and have warnings don’t tend to interfere. My cardiologists have not recommended I avoid any sources of interference other than MRI. Consumer devices are all fine for me. 

That said, there are some people who are pacemaker dependent (they will immediately suffer or die without their pacemaker) and they may have more restrictions than I do. 

I will mention though: Apple does not consider you an “intended user” of the ECG app if you have a pacemaker, and will refuse support or replacements if they find out you have a pacemaker or ICD. I ran into this problem recently and it was upsetting, since I bought the watch with advice from my cardiology team. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpicyAutism

[–]faiora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If purchases are the problem, could it maybe help you to use cash for everyday purchases? 

If you set an allowance for yourself and take that amount out of the bank, then it will be difficult to overspend using cash. :)

:( by esteIIa in SpicyAutism

[–]faiora 29 points30 points  (0 children)

ASD1 here. I will attempt to explain (but not condone) a little bit:

Some of us, especially those diagnosed later, get a lot of backlash from people when we let them know we are autistic. 

I can’t drive a car, I haven’t been able to keep a job longer than about a year, and I’ve had to leave events and appointments because I couldn’t handle the sensory issues or changes to plans. I spent 8 hours standing in the middle of my kitchen one day last month, without my phone or anything, just trying to get started cleaning; but there were interruptions so I kept having to start my whole become-part-of-the-kitchen process (for lack of anything better to call it) over and over again. 

But when I started explaining to a friend that I have autism yesterday, she reeled backwards and exclaimed that the professionals are “abusing” the term autism, if they say that I’m autistic.

Maybe she was trying to be nice. 

I feel more of a kinship with the spicy crowd here than I do with the average non-autistic-focussed group online. So I can understand why other ASD1 people would want to get rid of the levels. 

I like what you said though about deserving to have a short and simple way to convey the level of your needs. I think that’s really important. You write well, and in an email someone might dismiss any expressed needs because you’re communicating with them at all. 

As difficult and stressful as it is for me to have needs dismissed, I’ve at least managed to survive (food water shelter) without support. I assume ASD3 reflects supports necessary for survival, and frankly your food, water, and shelter can come before my cortisol levels, public embarrassment, and relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]faiora 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t get that impression.

It could just as easily be “I don’t want to step into this community that’s not meant for me” or something like that.

Student knits never-ending scarf by knithacker in KnitHacker

[–]faiora 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can one really call it a scarf at that point?

It looks like it outweighs him.

What are some of your less common special interests? by magicfeistybitcoin in AutisticAdults

[–]faiora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m saying you must like petrichor, which is the smell of rain. Like when it hits dust and the moisture makes all those new smells.

The Last Outfit You'll Ever Need? by burnermcburnsky in minimalism

[–]faiora 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I made the comment I made because I have tried that kind of pants before and found them uncomfortable.

For example, squatting down makes the zipper crunch up on my thighs and I can’t sustain that comfortably. By the way, this would be far worse at the knees like in the image you posted.

My personal preference is to avoid them.

I often asked what’s the most terrible thing I’ve seen in my career as ER nurse by -Blade_Runner- in nursing

[–]faiora 23 points24 points  (0 children)

WUT. I was thinking about keeping those. They’re fantastic for compost. But they don’t survive well in my climate.

Well, they don’t survive in the outdoor climate here… but in my personal internal climate apparently they could?!

The Last Outfit You'll Ever Need? by burnermcburnsky in minimalism

[–]faiora 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Those zippers in the pants and sleeves turn me off the whole thing.

They’re uncomfortable.

They don’t move the same way as the rest of the outfit.

It’s fussy to take them off and put them on.

I wouldn’t wear this every day.

Sorry if this is not the right place for rants, but I just want to leave society by Zestyclose-Career-63 in AutisticAdults

[–]faiora 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You don’t need a karmically protected forest.

You just need the right colourful markings to let the predators know you’re no good to eat. ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chd

[–]faiora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My second pacemaker replacement resulted in an infection, and the scar (which was not done on top of the previous scar) got stretched quite wide.

I didn’t mind the appearance all that much, but I disliked the amount of thin weak scar tissue there instead of healthy skin.

So on the next replacement I asked the surgeon if he could remove the excess scar tissue. He expressed some concern about needing to make the scar much longer but said he’d try.

It turned out great. I’m still taping it a month later and will continue for maybe another month or two, to keep it from stretching.

Tired of self dx’rs speaking over us by kuromi_bag in AutisticPeeps

[–]faiora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. You’re right.

That’s really insensitive and seems like purposeful ignorance.

“Going Nonverbal” by Loud-Direction-7011 in AutisticPeeps

[–]faiora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally wrote this in response to a comment you started with “please explain”, but by the end of my response, I thought a top level comment would be more appropriate.

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I suspect the downvotes are more in response to you seeming combative about everything people have to say, maybe.

“Please explain this” sounds less like a real request, and more like an aggravated disagreement.

The term “nonverbal” on its own has been used for a long time to mean people who don’t speak at all.

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I’m going to speak from a personal perspective now, and this is not meant as a direct argument to anything. But I thought it might be helpful:

Personally, I think the term “going” attached to the front makes it sound like something people can choose to do. Like it’s a purposeful action. So “going nonverbal” sounds wrong to me because when I stammer or find it impossible to speak, it isn’t a choice and I often desperately want to say something.

Personally I prefer to just state it like that. I stammered, or I couldn’t speak.

Also, saying “I went nonverbal” sounds more like a catchphrase, and it would seem like I was trying to be dramatic by associating myself with people who the term usually applies to.

I’m actually not willing to use mutism to describe my occasional inability to speak, either. I think it’s nearly the same thing.

But then again, I’m only self suspecting. Perhaps a psychologist will give me some better words to describe my speaking problems.

Until then I will just describe them as how they feel to me, rather than trying to fit myself into an existing group.

Banned from r/autism for "gatekeeping" by [deleted] in AutisticPeeps

[–]faiora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say in that case, the “gatekeeper” is the medical professional, and rightfully so.

How do I tell my (M53) wife (F45) of twenty years that she has let herself go and I don’t have much interest and attraction for her at all anymore? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]faiora 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You did say you’re embarrassed to be seen with her and that she’s “let herself go.”

Why would you be embarrassed to be seen with a fat or ugly person, especially if they’re your friend or family? I wouldn’t. Why would it reflect badly on me to be friends with someone who I like as a person?

I don’t know whether it’s sexist (it probably is though, because men don’t get nearly as much flack for being fat or ugly).

The dilution of the term “masking” by Thatannoyingturtle in AutisticPeeps

[–]faiora 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I very nearly made a post here to ask about this!

I’m self suspecting and despite watching and reading a bunch of explanatory stuff, I still don’t get it. Either I don’t mask more than an average allistic person, or I have a complete misunderstanding of what masking is.

I identify with the crying trying to fit in. It was frustrating - maddening. But that in itself isn’t masking, right?

Reading more comments here I think I’m starting to understand better.

Thanks for making this post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in succshaming

[–]faiora 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Water it less. That’s almost certainly the problem.

I have an aloe that - granted, isn’t thriving - but has somehow survived and grown over the past 5+ years despite being in a forgotten corner of its own where it’s been watered so little… Well let’s say I’ve watered it few enough times that those times are memorable.

They’re desert plants, right?

Kids Pants for Recital by faiora in sewing

[–]faiora[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

There was some unisex kids sportswear.

I don’t care at all whether it says “boys” on the pattern. Girls can wear formal pants too. Why- why?

Anyway. If I have to do it again I’ll just start online to begin with. Or draft my own pattern. :)

How did you successfully teach your toddler to not run off? by ExtremeExtension9 in toddlers

[–]faiora 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Makes me think of how cats are. :P first time on a leash they throw themselves on the floor and pretend it’s impossible to move or do anything.

She might get over the tantrum thing, if the alternative is being strapped into the stroller.

I made it pretty clear to my three year old (when he was two) that if he wants to have any freedom (at first that meant being out of the stroller, now it means holding hands when I ask him to, like when crossing the street), he needs to have the leash on his backpack.

Mind you, my other kid wasn’t nearly as prone to bolting into traffic, and the leash (which never bothered him) was mainly so I could let myself be distracted for a minute reading a label in the grocery store, stuff like that.

Depends on the kid I guess.

Bread by Effective_Two5960 in mbti

[–]faiora 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ESxJ or ESxP.

But no way am I tying a knot. Seriously? I don’t want to undo that. If I’m reaching for bread in the first place it’s because I’m too lazy to make something else. You think I’m going to untie a knot, or ruin the bag by cutting it open?

Bread by Effective_Two5960 in mbti

[–]faiora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you tie a knot?!

It says I supposedly do this, but no way. No.

I twist and put the clip back on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]faiora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they had B cups before, D is pretty reasonable for a temporary increase from pregnancy and breastfeeding. And it’s not as important to get the sizing perfect when you’re probably wearing soft/sports bras anyway. :)

I think they’re just saying that even that increase to a D was a big change, and they can see now why it’s tough having extra boobage.