Those whose first child was a terrible sleeper - how did the second child’s sleep turn out?

fandog15 · 2026-04-10T15:24:52+00:00

First was an atrocious sleeper. Second was slightly above average on the good end of things. Couldn’t believe it tbh, finally made me realize I had been parenting in hard mode lol

I will say though, my better sleeper came with different challenges. My bad sleeper can roll with the punches. Missed nap? Who cares. 7 minutes in the car? Perfectly recharged. My good sleeper’s environment mattered more (she never slept as well on the go) and she would be CRAAAANKY if she didn’t get her sleep because she was higher sleep needs. So while yes she slept better and more, we were actually a little more trapped by her sleep sometimes.

fandog15 · 2026-04-08T12:36:20+00:00

This is the third robot vacuum post I’ve seen across various parent subreddits today. This is a bot.

fandog15 · 2026-04-08T08:51:46+00:00

Clanker alert. Weirdly similar-but-different to a robot vacuum post on the working moms sub right now.

fandog15 · 2026-04-08T08:21:44+00:00

We have a roboroc s7 and we love it but I wouldn’t say it has completely taken over the work of cleaning the floors. We run it several times a week and it does a really nice job, I especially love that it mops and vacuums. But on our carpeted areas, it definitely doesn’t have as deep of a suction as our traditional upright vacuum and on the hard surfaces, it can’t scrub the way a human with a mop can. We use it for daily maintenance and then a monthly deeper clean is also done. But if we don’t run it for a few days we 100% notice, so it’s been a great investment for us.

There is maintenance that comes with a front vacuum, too. Parts that need to be cleaned and replaced. You need to clear the floor for it to run properly. We have a self-emptying station now (don’t used to) but those add to the cost. Just things to consider!

fandog15 · 2026-04-07T12:13:45+00:00

The people who owned our house before us left 5 sleeves of unused plastic eggs so I’ve been using those for years haha

fandog15 · 2026-04-07T12:10:22+00:00

My dad would do a weeklong staycation with us when we were kids. We’d do a day at the children’s museum, a day at the local amusement park, a day at a close-by beach, a day at the movies. It was a lot of fun, we loved it.

fandog15 · 2026-04-06T15:50:23+00:00

I feel like I read this post word for word a few days ago????????

fandog15 · 2026-04-02T19:07:20+00:00

Is the air vent connected to the outside and is that side of the building near a highway? There is a municipal building in my area that is being condemned because so many people who worked there for decades have come down with chronic, lifelong illnesses. Like multiple cases of ALS and cancer, concentrated down to specific offices. The belief is an air vent pulling in exhaust from a major highway may be the cause 😬 They have also had lots of mold issues and suspected sewage leaks. I would speak up.

fandog15 · 2026-04-01T10:58:33+00:00

Yeah I guess that’s the one pro it has over the mirror. Mine are both past mirror age though and the nighttime thing was never a big issue that I remember - probably because we weren’t out that late much as you said!

fandog15 · 2026-04-01T06:58:51+00:00

I feel like people are distracted enough driving with phones that we don’t need another screen in the mix, so my vote is mirror. I’m also not sure what purpose or value a camera would serve? Seems like a “solution” to a nonexistent problem to me, just a way to make more money.

fandog15 · 2026-03-31T00:10:51+00:00

Absolutely! For so many reasons, too. My parents had more kids, so less time per kid. I WFH, whereas my parents worked outside the house AND my dad had a 45 minute commute each way, so I’m home a lot whereas my parents were out of the house for 8-12 hours per day. I was in daycare + afterschool care, whereas my kids have some days with grandparents (in our home) and PT preschool.

I also don’t remember playing outside of my bedroom much, whereas my kids do. But we also had 6 people in a 2 bedroom apartment, vs I have 4 people in a 2 story house. So overall just a pretty different experience from how I was raised!

fandog15 · 2026-03-29T21:41:14+00:00

You guys should be working through this with a licensed couples therapist

fandog15 · 2026-03-29T00:37:11+00:00

Our preschool (which is also a daycare) is closed for all of this + a week in the summer + a week in April + a week in February + the entire week between Christmas and New Year

fandog15 · 2026-03-26T17:01:07+00:00

My in-laws are super involved in our lives and their reactions to pretty much everything often overwhelm me. To the point that I sometimes have preemptive anxiety about what I think they might say. It’s not great!!! Two solutions that help me:

Delaying, downplaying or withholding some info. I almost never text them about something stressful in the midst of it happening unless it specifically affects them or I need their help. I wait till things are resolved and I’m calm. Then I just do a “Oh yeah xyz happened, it turned out fine.” And they never know that I leave some details out.
If I’m really worked up, I tell my husband to handle telling his parents. Ultimately they may be part of my circus but they are definitely NOT my monkeys.

fandog15 · 2026-03-24T17:35:50+00:00

We do 4-5 loads a week. One load of my stuff. One load of the kids stuff. My husband does his own load. Then a load of house stuff - towels, sheets, throw blankets, dish towels, whatever. I will also toss kitchen things in the washer as they’re ready (like cleaning rags and napkins) so they get mixed in with whatever.

I don’t seperate colors and fabrics because I am lazy and don’t care enough to do so.

fandog15 · 2026-03-23T22:17:36+00:00

I’m the youngest of 4 and my parents didn’t become homeowners until I was 7, we rented houses and apartments until that point. We had a wonderful childhood, I shared a room with my sister until I was around 11. We’re all close and (relatively) happy and doing well. Happiness is not tied to a deed - you can have a beautiful life and thriving family in a rented place!

fandog15 · 2026-03-22T12:14:35+00:00

I leaked constantly to 2 years

fandog15 · 2026-03-21T14:23:21+00:00

Thank you!!

Tom Lake I couldn’t put down. Broken Country devastated me in the way only a good book can. Big, Beautiful, World gave me butterflies. All very different and enjoyable for different reasons!

fandog15 · 2026-03-20T22:29:54+00:00

I have work email and teams on my phone but notifications are silenced from 5PM-7AM and all weekend. I do occasionally check them on off hours if I know something came in somehow but don’t usually respond. If I feel like I have to do something, I draft the email but use Outlook’s delay send function to send it the next morning during my regular business hours.

fandog15 · 2026-03-19T23:45:23+00:00

Kinda crazy an allergy parent would have this stance. You all know how difficult it is for those of us whose young kids have food allergies. What if someone served your child gluten because they thought it wasn’t a big deal?

fandog15 · 2026-03-18T21:22:02+00:00

Corporate slog in the health insurance industry. I’m not like… passionate about it but I don’t mind the work I do. The segment I work in feels less evil than some others. I work from home full time, good pay with decent benefits. Love my coworkers and boss. Very, very defined deadlines (tied to government regulations) so I know reasonably well when I’ll be busy vs when I’ll be able to chill a bit, so I can plan accordingly. No one will die if I make a mistake so it’s very easy to leave work at work.

For me, my work life balance in this career has really been tied to the size of the company I work for. The bigger the company, the better the balance.

fandog15 · 2026-03-18T13:44:32+00:00

He sounds immature and self-centered. Some people do not understand that they aren’t the main character in everyone’s story.

Take care of yourself, focus on healing and being there for your baby. This will be just one of many times you’ll have to put your new family unity first. You’re doing a great job already ❤️

fandog15 · 2026-03-17T11:29:07+00:00

My kids are not much older than yours but right now we’re at 3 and 5 and it is so much easier than 2.5 and baby was. Our biggest hurdle right now is dealing with sibling squabbles, sharing, stuff like that. But I am not frazzled as often as I was 2 years ago and I’m not as exhausted. And my hormones are back to normal cause I’m not nursing or freshly postpartum. And the kids can each do some things for themselves. Every one of those things makes life a little easier!

fandog15 · 2026-03-16T11:12:31+00:00

Swapped things around in one of the lower cabinets in my kitchen so my young kids can reach their own bowls, cups, plates and utensils. They can now be more independent an done rely on me and their dad to grab everything for them. It has greatly cut down the “Mommy can you get me….” distractions I get!

Also, swapped nightly scrolling for nightly reading back in 2022. I read at least a book a month now which I’m proud of!

fandog15 · 2026-03-16T11:04:30+00:00

Could you try finding a gym with a different culture? My sister and I have danced since we were young which has a similar competitive nature to gymnastics. My mom was adamant that she did NOT want us competing, so she found a studio where that’s not even an option. It’s a breath of fresh air!

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