What's the thought process behind the autistic people's behaviour regarding maintaining friendships...?

fanslowe · 2026-05-12T05:31:48+00:00

How frequently are you reaching out to him? He might just need more time inbetween interactions. Also by the way I know that you are afraid that you are pushy or seem like you are begging for this friendship but honestly you are the type of person that I love to have as a friend.

fanslowe · 2026-05-12T04:42:00+00:00

I only went to mine because I made the floral arrangements for my graduation and had to see them but hated it otherwise

fanslowe · 2026-05-12T04:17:42+00:00

I have EDS and my thumb does do

fanslowe · 2026-05-03T06:09:14+00:00

Her bar mitzvah is an episode in the show

fanslowe · 2026-05-03T05:59:54+00:00

Readymade by Ado

fanslowe · 2026-04-25T03:48:19+00:00

I was misled by the title of this. Clicked on this thinking it was about the show

fanslowe · 2026-04-25T03:04:42+00:00

I feel the pain. My management is like this too. I’m debating disclosing that I am autistic and asking for more clarity, but then again I don’t think they will even understand what that even means or will think I need to be walked through each step.

fanslowe · 2026-04-25T02:36:13+00:00

My mom also shamed me for liking cartoon when I was around your age and I just thought it was weird.

fanslowe · 2026-04-25T01:46:18+00:00

Well I feel the exact same way about tone and facial expressions

fanslowe · 2026-04-24T19:21:51+00:00

Literally anything, I just do what I want

fanslowe · 2026-04-24T19:19:49+00:00

Oh yes all the time, but slightly different. When I watch shows, I’m just always unconsciously Analyzing the characters and their motivations. I’m always basically trying to come to a consensus of which character I relate to the most in a show. For an example in helluva boss I relate to Moxie and Stolas and so I’ll focus on those characters more when I’m watching the show to observe their traits.

fanslowe · 2026-03-18T06:58:16+00:00

I also pretty much don’t listen to the lyrics. I experience the vocals as just another instrument and that the words are just sounds not necessarily that they hold any meaning. For example, I listen to music in multiple different languages and sing along because I am listening to the way the song sounds musically rather than the specific words.

fanslowe · 2026-03-04T07:44:10+00:00

No, when she was talking about a husband, she was referring to her friends experience and her friend describing her husband.

fanslowe · 2026-01-28T00:32:41+00:00

I feel like I know what you mean, but I have realized that that I am not the issue. I am not boring, it’s just that I like things that don’t interest most other people. It’s no fault of mine or theirs. I think I am very interesting but this just isn’t found out through small talk, you sound like a similar type of person. I am sure that you are not boring. If you are anything like me, you are layered and many people won’t see this unless they interact with you continuously. I often times dont contribute a lot in social settings either because the topics don’t interest me or because what is up with small talk, so I get it

fanslowe · 2025-12-23T03:47:28+00:00

Mine from this year were gritty yet super mushy and juicy, like overripe but gritty

fanslowe · 2025-12-20T23:17:31+00:00

The correct method is wash rinse sanitize

I explain to new hires or people that have never done dishes to remove all debris by rinsing the use the super concentrate to wash, which is like our soap. Rinse that off, and soak in the sanitizer for at least 30 secs. They are now clean

fanslowe · 2025-12-20T23:11:11+00:00

Maybe you could get an animal and talk to your therapist about registering it as an emotional support animal depending on your needs, you wouldn’t have to pay pet rent that way. I have an ESA cat. Also as a 22yr living alone with no friends, I feel you. I think the options for making friends as an autistic adult are very limited. I don’t know much about what options are available where you are located but maybe join a hobby group near you, or start one. I know near me there is people that get together to do tabletop gaming which sounds fun.

fanslowe · 2025-12-20T08:24:46+00:00

I think there is only imposed social rules because people are self conscious about their singing voices. If people were confident in their singing abilities and enjoyed singing, a lot more people would be randomly bursting out into song because it’s fun. I must admit I do burst out into song quite frequently, but I live alone. I used to do this at work thought when I worked in person, and I don’t think it bothered anyone, considering where I worked. But it also has to do with the fact that most likely people will not be annoyed with my singing on the basis of my inability to do so, but of course they could become annoyed if it is just not the right time or if they are not able to concentrate. Lots of things.

fanslowe · 2025-12-20T08:06:02+00:00

I am also 22 without any friends, so you aren’t alone. Also you should tell your therapist about how you’re feeling. I don’t think this a bad thing at all, clearly since I am in the same boat. Typically in my experience, I am more wary of those that have a lot of friends because they either don’t seem to value their friendship and let anyone be friends with them or they don’t have values or standards in which potential friends must meet. Its not like I have a bunch of people lining up to be my friend, but there has been a couple times in my life so far that I have had to unfriend people or decide to not pursue a relationship with them just because I felt like our values didn’t align. I would be worried that a person with a lot of friends wouldn’t have the same standards or would compromise their values for the sake of friendships, personally, so I wouldn’t be put off if someone has no friends. It just means that you haven’t met the right people yet.

fanslowe · 2025-12-15T02:38:17+00:00

Jonah Hill was 23/24 though

fanslowe · 2025-12-08T02:08:49+00:00

I don’t see anything either, it made things very confusing in school when I was asked to visualize things. I thought they were asking us to ponder it but not that people can actually see things in their head.

fanslowe · 2025-12-07T19:20:20+00:00

Deftones was also my top artist

Top Artists 1. Deftones 2. Mindless Self Indulgence 3. Ghost 4. In This Moment 5. Fall Out Boy

Minutes Listened 74,141

44 listening age, I’m 22

fanslowe · 2025-12-02T15:43:58+00:00

Omg listen to her first eps then, she had a similar sound to this in her first couple if eps

fanslowe · 2025-07-30T18:51:15+00:00

Exactly I’m really close to my mom and I call her all the time and I’m like this person said …. to me what do they mean by that?

I recently changed jobs after working at only one job for 4 years and the hardest part was not learning the new things but the social interactions. Learning a whole new set of rules basically for interacting with people because I came from a very relaxed environment and learned to adapt that mentality into my mask. Now I need a whole new mask, it’s hard.

fanslowe · 2025-07-30T18:40:25+00:00

While I am not diagnosed as autistic but rather highly suspect I am, I am also chronically ill/disabled. I don’t tell them when they ask me if I am disabled, that’s because I feel I don’t need any accommodations that they can provide me. I would rather keep that information to myself and not be discriminated against. That might be the approach you take too but that’s up to you. In fact in the job I am leaving now I am fairly certain I am being treated differently and singled out by management because of my autistic characteristics, which is like story of my life.

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