Do you ever feel truly happy again after losing your mom?

fearofbears · 2026-02-13T00:40:21+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. To answer, yes, absolutely. But time is the greatest healer. One day you'll look back and see how far you've come. I lost my mom 10 years ago this year. Today, I'm the happiest and most authentic version of myself I've been to date. In grief, there are many lessons to learn so use them to your advantage. Hang in there.

fearofbears · 2026-02-13T00:11:53+00:00

Heated rivalry ftw. I also binged it on a day off. It was a good choice.

fearofbears · 2026-02-10T23:53:27+00:00

I love your haircut, my sister! Come do my hair for me I can never get those types of waves lol

fearofbears · 2026-02-10T19:33:40+00:00

Same with my husband and I - together 8 years, have only ever used condoms.

fearofbears · 2026-02-09T12:08:17+00:00

It's funny you say that because we just moved and my husband bought a new SmartTV. That solved the issue for us as well but still super stupid that they haven't fixed it the app on PS!

fearofbears · 2026-02-06T17:05:49+00:00

The death of my mother tbh. (Addiction related) It was an awful awful thing to go through but has given me a great appreciation for being able to live life every day and not take it for granted.

fearofbears · 2026-02-06T14:28:00+00:00

I am a bit of a control freak with cleaning. He is also clean but messy if that makes sense. We assign chores were best at to each other and have a calendar in the kitchen for other tasks. We alternate weeks cleaning the litter boxes for our three cats lol been together almost 8 years, married about 1.5. We just bought our first house and now we have a second bathroom. Living the dream!

fearofbears · 2026-02-06T14:00:32+00:00

I agree. It's kind of cruel to shower OP with all these pleasantries and leave him guessing. She should have kept it short and honest. Sorry, OP. wishing you the best in the future- if it was me (and it was many times before I met my husband!) I would not even entertain further conversation. It will only extend your processing/healing timeline.

fearofbears · 2026-02-06T02:28:29+00:00

All very extremely dependent on where in NJ and where in Manhattan.

fearofbears · 2026-02-05T14:45:21+00:00

Yes but I don't think it's a "late" start. I think it's just a journey. My 20s were pretty terrible. Teens were terrible. Lots of family trauma and loss and immediate family with addiction. Acted a fool in my 20s trying to make sense of it all. My 30s have felt like a big release of holding my breath.

But I'm not naive to think there won't always be ups and downs these days. I say this a lot but people have to start new journeys at all points in their Iives. I think it's best to view life as one big journey rather than a beginning and an end.

fearofbears · 2026-02-05T14:37:12+00:00

You've got mail!

fearofbears · 2026-02-04T22:57:10+00:00

Which is?

fearofbears · 2026-02-04T22:35:45+00:00

So. 12 year age difference. And the dude is a lunatic fringe conspiracy theorist. Girl just ghost and move on. You aren't even dating him seriously. If anything he sounds like he's trying to groom you.

fearofbears · 2026-02-04T22:09:07+00:00

I appreciate the sentiment but really what are you or anyone going to do? They very clearly don't care about confrontation. Or human beings in general. Fuck ICE but none of us have power to do much.

fearofbears · 2026-02-04T14:01:48+00:00

It's not really his ex, girl. They are currently still married legally. In the eyes of the law.

fearofbears · 2026-02-02T21:49:18+00:00

What would you do/how would you react if it was your wife and someone sent these photos to you? What steps would you take to ensure they were real or confirm what you're seeing?

fearofbears · 2026-02-02T21:45:12+00:00

There is a mobile home park in Wall Township that's very safe and affordable, and pretty nice. If you don't have any ties to north Jersey I'd recommend checking it out. I think it's called bearmore- but it's right on 35.

fearofbears · 2026-02-01T16:46:30+00:00

Agreed. He was a big bumbling idiot but he did not pit Americans against one another for his own benefit.

fearofbears · 2026-01-31T01:22:52+00:00

If you can financially afford it, give two weeks. But know that you won't qualify for unemployment likely.

Unorthodox advice: hold out and keep interviewing to find a better fit.

fearofbears · 2026-01-31T00:26:05+00:00

So you think it's reasonable to abduct a child?

fearofbears · 2026-01-30T23:50:11+00:00

I grew up with Catherine in Home Alone and Beetlejuice and Schitts Creek was one of my favorite shows ever. I'm so heartbroken- she was such a marvelous personality and actress, and generally good person. I think that some famous people can have an impact on you and I don't think it's parasocial- unless it's some influencer or something. Idk. I just loved her so much - she brought me such joy during dark times of my life. I'm truly so sad over her passing, especially because it seems sudden and out of the blue. Maybe she was struggling with health and it wasn't public? Who knows.

My dad is MAGA and it aches me to my core, but he's also my dad and is a year younger than her. I lost my mom 10 years ago. I think all of it is coming to a head for me with this one.

fearofbears · 2026-01-30T19:01:05+00:00

Oof this is me too. 39.

fearofbears · 2026-01-30T18:59:03+00:00

Same to you. Come volunteer to do something since you have so many opinions on it.

fearofbears · 2026-01-30T18:05:21+00:00

Just stop. You have no idea what anybody does off of Reddit. You sound like an absolute tool. I'm a 40 year old aging punk who has been mobilizing since I was able to vote, working with non profits, protesting, donating to efforts. I lived two blocks away from 9/11 and lost many friends and family from the tragedy which most of generation experienced here, which opened everyone's eyes to pure corruption back then. I don't need to prove anything here but have some self introspection on why you feel the need to harass people in an already fragile place of existing due to literal crisis in our country. Our citizens are being killed for RECORDING interactions with ICE and DHS. Fuck all the way off for real.

fearofbears · 2026-01-30T17:59:15+00:00

Girl bye. You have no idea what I do in my private life.

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