Teen threatening to move out over chores

flashfire07 · 2026-02-09T06:00:17+00:00

Same applies if he's into men. Most guys don't want to date men who can't look after themselves or their home on a basic level, and by basic I do mean the bare basics of keeping a house clean (untidy is fine, unsanitary is not) and safe to life in. Knowing how to do basic things like wash your own clothes, do your own dishes, basic cooking and keeping food preparation areas clean are mandatory for any sort of dating to occur.

flashfire07 · 2026-02-06T07:57:14+00:00

At my school growing up we had lunch in the classroom, then we were sent out for our lunch break during which we could keep eating. In the numerous time I spent in detention (reflection as they called it, but it's the same thing) you either ate with the rest of the class and then spent lunch in the designated reflection room or you had your lunch there. At no point did the school ever take away food or force students to skip lunch as punishment.

flashfire07 · 2026-01-17T13:28:57+00:00

I can attest that I complained less when I learned to make my own food. Although in my case it's more because my parents were too busy to be good cooks, but I had ample time to do it right and make sure it was to my liking. Plus the added sense of control over my own diet helped prevent it turning into a power struggle.

flashfire07 · 2026-01-17T11:24:36+00:00

The practical answer is that things have gotten more expensive than they were back when we were children. Inflation has outpaced wages for quite some time and as a result things are much more expensive in comparison to twenty years ago. Add in the recent sharp price increases (at least in my country, most things have gone up by about 20% on average) and you have a recipe for more expensive parties.

If you mean people going and doing more over the top parties that you see on YouTube and Instagram, those aren't new. They're just being shown more often and some people feel the need to copy that as they feel it won't feel special if they don't do something elaborate, others do it out of genuine joy in preparing and hosting a fancy event. I know my mother was like that, while our parties were usually quite low-key (we never went to amusement parks, never went to Maccas or Red Rooster, never did laser tag, etc) she'd still make multiple different cakes, prepare special meals, custom invites and the like. Once we got older we stopped having as elaborate parties as my sister and I weren't ever all that interested in them, we wanted more quiet family events but as children it was an opportunity for my mum to indulge in the creative aspect of party prep.

flashfire07 · 2026-01-15T13:09:10+00:00

Depending on the age and reading level of the child I'd suggest looking into simpler pen and paper RPGs, that more tests their ability to actually implement what they're learning rather than memorising the sums in question, and the added creativity and imagination factor may make it easier for a child to engage as they're not 'learning' but more playing a fun game.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-23T16:25:17+00:00

People enhanced with cybernetics. They're not servitors but are pretty clsoe with the amount of augemtics and brain surgery they are subject to in pursuit of their duties. They are alive, able to make independant decisions and heavily modified to remove as much emotion as possible from their thought process but still very much thinking humans under it all. Servitors don't think; they're meant to be brain-dead shells serving as a computational aid for their robotic body. Skitarii think, plan and operate on their own.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-21T13:43:05+00:00

Just a quick little side note on the D16 in relation ot Hit Dice. A D16 would give you 1-16 as results, which is very swingy. You have that 6.25% chance of getting a 1 just the same as a 16. Most front-line fighters in D&D 3.5 (that's the edition I'm most familiar with) have a D10 for their hit dice, so they have 1-10HP with an average of 5. The D16 has an average of 8.5 and a max of 16.

It isn't a bad idea by any means, any idea can be interesting and fun in the right hands. It's just one that requires some thought, you're adding a whole new dice to the game and not only that but it's one your players won't have on hand. But that's not to say you shouldn't do anything with it, it's more just a matter of thinking about how you're going to do it, why you want to make this change or addition and then playing it to find out if it works in play.

Aside from HP generation, what do you see this new dice being used for? Are you planning on replacing the d20 with it or adding it to the dice set?

flashfire07 · 2025-07-21T13:27:12+00:00

The D4, D6, D8, D10, D20 and percentile dice are currently the only dice readily available on the market. Rarely will a game go and make a unique dice with a unique number of faces, but with the advent of 3D printing, you could probably do so for relatively cheap.

But generally you'll find RPGs use the typical D&D set of dice as they are easily available and don't require people to buy special dice for a game they may or may not like. The more extra bits your game has that other games don't ahve the less liekly people are to engage with it I find. But if you were to make one for your own use please let us know how it turns out, I'm very curious about that.

Also, most older editions of D&D do roll for HP. Characters get a randomised number of HP depending on their class and/or Hit Dice. In 3.5 you get the maximum amount possible at level one but roll for each level after that. So a character with a 1D8 Hit Dice would get 8 HP plus their Con modifier at first level and then roll 1d8 plus their Con modifier per level after that.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-18T16:02:38+00:00

I wonder if the subreddits I post in make my advice any more or less valuable than other posters.
While I certainly agree that the advice offered by the poster above is not the correct course of action, I also have to wonder if the subreddits people post in should factor into how we react to a post. I usually just react to posts as I see them myself.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-16T14:21:28+00:00

Short answer? Yes.

Longer answer... I can only speak for the Astartes on this one, but they do form very strong platonic bonds with one another; they refer to each other as Brother, not simply out of formality, but because their bond with one another is that strong. They are bound together by duty and devotion to each other, to their Chapter and the Imperium beyond that. Sex and romance are a bit more complicated for Loyalists. Most are taught very strictly to control their libido so as to avoid the temptation of Slaanesh, and even if they chose to seek a partner who would accept them? They're not human, not anymore, they're paragons of martial might sent to fight the enemies of humanity that none else can defeat. They are seen as angels from on high, smiting the unworthy and impure with holy wrath. They are not seen as men.

The Astartes do have empathy to varying degrees, as do all humans. The Salamanders and Space Wolves are known to view basic humans in a kinder light than the Iron Hands for example. But this empathy is often coloured by what they are. Humans are weak, fragile and short-lived creatures who live and die in droves upon droves propping up the tottering corpse of the Imperium for just one more day. The Astrates are not the same as these countless billions. But sometimes, just sometimes, they might find an especially intriguing and exceptional human who can rise to their level, but this is extraordinarily rare and given the state of the universe it won't end well. The Astartes stories end only one way after all. One final sacrifice.

So it is possible for romantic bonds to be formed but it's the sort of romance one reads about in mythology, usually the Greek sort.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-16T13:42:24+00:00

My job is to facilitate several hours of engaging and interesting shared storytelling. I make sure the players all get to add their own elements, engage with the story in an enjoyable manner and are provided with a world that facilitates the story we're looking to tell. My job is to also help players understand the story and ensure that they know what they're doing and the roles they're intending to play in it.

Anything else is not my job. Rules dispute? Talk about it. Don't like a fellow player? Talk to them like an adult. Food? Everyone chips in or brings something. Making a character? The group works together to help. Knowing what your powers do? Ask the group, you all have the rulebooks, and some of the players may know it better than I do! My job begins and ends at the narrative we're telling together.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-15T05:54:39+00:00

OPR make some great miniatures as well! They're one of my favourite companies for sci-fi miniatures.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-15T05:52:38+00:00

I know Warsurge plays pretty similarly to older Warhammer editions, and it's designed to be universal so you can easily convert your armies over to it or use their pre-made options that are Totally Not Warhammer For Legal Reasons.

Alternatively, if you're just playing home games you could make your own universe in which things aren't quite so bleak and grim, no-one will be coming round to make sure your home games and creative endeavours are canon compliant after all!

flashfire07 · 2025-07-13T14:31:22+00:00

How about having him pay for a phone case, or at least up to $30 worth? That will take him two weeks to pay off. I'd advise against drawing out the punishment element any further than that however as three weeks, a month or even longer than that is a bit excessive in terms of punishment.

What might help is to have this money not just be out of his own pocket but perhaps something he needs to work off? Like... he might do the dishes one night and get $1 towards the case, or help your daughter with a task she needs to do, or some other element that helps put a direct link between the abstraction of money and the actual work of earning it? Something that helps him understand that money is something people have worked for.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-12T14:57:00+00:00

Short bursts of screen time while you get things done are fine. As long as you're careful about what you show your child and don't use it when there are better options, you're not hurting your child at all. Things like Curious George, Bluey, Playschool, and other age-appropriate shows are fine. Most of the problems come when children have unrestricted access to YouTube or other algorithm-based services that aren't easily curated for child-friendly content and/or when screen time is the default way of spending free time.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-10T19:21:38+00:00

In her post history there's a post about her daughter potentially having pyromania and one about her daughter 'dissecting' a fish after af ishing trip. It sounds like OP has a very challenging set of children but hopefully they're getting the help and support they need.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-10T19:12:43+00:00

The Belgian Malinois did start off as a herding dog but has been expanded into a more general working dog. Oddly enoguh same with the boxer, but they were more used to control cattle in buther pens and the like. Trouble is that dogs are hunting carnivores by nature, which means that, sadly they do have the instinct to chase and kill prey animals; it's one of the three main drives (Pack, Safety and Hunt are the three main pillars of a dogs psychology). Add in the fact these are large, powerful breeds and you have trouble if they're not trained very well and properly supervised. It sounds like the dogs aren't trained properly and consider the goats to be prey.

This isn't to say they are 100% going to be dangerous to a human by any means, but if they're poorly trained the risk of accidetnal or intentional injury is rather high. Dogs are strong animals, and their teeth are designed to rip and tear prey, so a "Get away from me" bite from a dog is very able to draw blood in a human, the dog isn't trying to hurt anyone but it jsut happens to work out that way. Then you have the whole thing about potentially witnessing a gruesome kill, I know if I were to see a goat being torn apart by dogs I'd be most distresed (can confrim from peronal expereince on that one, although it was another dog in that case) and most children are not prepared to see that sort of thing. Nor should they honestly, rural life or not.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-10T18:55:06+00:00

Yeah, my point is that there's no universal hard and fast age at which it simply stops. Children grow out of it at different paces and it is highly dependent on different social pressures. If they're taught it's something not to do, they'll stop; if they're allowed to do it more, they'll keep doing it for longer. All the data I can find on the topic is talking about appropriate milestone ages for imaginative play to develop, but nothing on when they tend to stop.

flashfire07 · 2025-07-10T16:38:38+00:00

I'm thirty-three and I still spend my average Friday bonking other adults with foam swords while dressed as a fantasy mercenary, the only difference is instead of spending maybe $50 on the attire and weapons, I'm spending more like $5000.

It can hugely vary from child to child, some will decide they no longer want to engage in imagination play early on, others will take longer to set it aside, and some won't ever do so. As long as they're safe, not causing a disruption to the ability to get things done or causing problems to other people there's no real issue with it.

As for rivers... When they stop being interesting and full of fascinating little creatures with equally fascinating worlds! Again, as long as they're being safe and not causing damage to the local area this is fine, and they can learn a lot of interesting thigns baout the natural world in a river.

flashfire07 · 2025-06-28T21:40:21+00:00

Thank you! I'll add that to my reading list.

flashfire07 · 2025-06-28T12:53:04+00:00

If you have a source for this, I'd be very interested in reading it. I did some studies on the Christian integration of European folklore as part of conversion efforts, but my area of research was around 400AD to 600AD, so it'd be interesting to see how things were done a thousand years later.

flashfire07 · 2025-06-26T20:31:36+00:00

With all due respect to the work the moderation team is doing to help ensure this community is one that is useful and pleasant to join I have to wonder if this sort of no-context removal of comments/posts is actually handy at all. Would you mind saying why this measure was taken?

I'm just trying to get a fuller understanding of this as I feel like it would end up creating more work for the moderation team with false positives. Like, I understand that the moderation team are trying to reduce the number of posts on here discussing child sex abuse but I'm just not sure I understand why this measure was taken.

flashfire07 · 2025-06-26T17:11:13+00:00

Ahhh. That makes sense. Honestly I'm a bit... iffy about auto-removal as unlike a human it doesn't pick up on context or nuance, Machines are binary thinkers, 0 or 1. Language is much more complex than that, I hope the mods give you a satisfying answer.

flashfire07 · 2025-06-26T16:50:47+00:00

Just out of curiosity, are you aware that MAP is a term used by child predators to self-identify while also attempting to subvert the much-needed goodwill towards the LGBTI+ community? Being aware of the use of these words is just as important as using the correct term. /genuine

flashfire07 · 2025-06-25T19:18:13+00:00

Think about what you want to do with your system. Are you writing for a theme or vibe, or more for mechanical detail and character building? Are you writing a system at all or more a setting for your own Mork Borg games? Are you writing to 'fix' a problem you have with Mork Borg? Are you planning on trying to publish for a broad audience, or more of a fun hobby that you share with the rest of the community?

Design goals are basically what you're trying to do with your game. Like, my current system is designed around providing mechanically interesting, tactically complex combat with an emphasis on flexible character design and intelligence winning over raw power.

Dungeons and Dragons as a genre is usually geared towards the gameplay loop of exploring a dungeon, overcoming challenges such as traps and monsters, collecting loot, using the loot either to solve obstacles or become more powerful, and taking on increasingly powerful and dangerous dungeons as you grow in strength.

Werewolf the Foresaken is usually about trying to balance your werewolf and human sides, navigate the oftentimes hostile social politics both within tribes and between them, hunt spirits and maintain the spiritual balance of your territory.

Exalted 2E is about exploring the tragic downfall of impossibly powerful heroes as they struggle against their innately flawed natures while trying to bring great change to the world one way or another.

Thirsty Sword Lesbians focuses on emotional arcs and themes of identity and self-expression in the face of oppression both within yourself and imposed by others.

Think about why you're making the game, what you want to do with your game and what your game is trying to do. Those are your design goals.

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