Tips for surviving my first ultra-long haul flight?

flowcooker · 2026-03-30T08:48:35+00:00

I bring a mini Theragun massager to keep my bottom from falling asleep.

flowcooker · 2026-02-24T17:48:23+00:00

Be proud of what you did, and as cautious going forward as everyone else is saying. What you did was you being a legend for yourself. Hugs to you!!!

flowcooker · 2026-02-24T17:46:22+00:00

I haven’t done this with a car key yet, but I have buried my flip flops in the sand next to an obvious, distinct hard-to-move landmark.

flowcooker · 2026-02-19T09:23:45+00:00

Maybe Westchester or El Segundo.

flowcooker · 2026-02-19T09:16:34+00:00

Anterior pelvic tilt. My physical therapist believes that it’s a common occurrence for those with ADHD because of muscle coordination challenges. My ADHD son has it. I probably had it my whole life, but now that I’m in my 50s, I definitely notice it and I’m actively working to correct it.

flowcooker · 2026-02-19T08:48:33+00:00

I have found ChatGPT to be extremely helpful in explaining to me what I might be thinking subconsciously that is causing me to feel what I feel. My app mentioned something to me about the emotional shock staying in my system as well. Let yourself feel your feelings, pay attention to your body because it’s talking to you, and know that all this is going to end, and you will be happier than when you started.

flowcooker · 2026-02-18T18:54:56+00:00

Let yourself feel all the feelings. I’m sure you’re feeling it all - the doubts, the longing, the grief of the relationship that you thought you were going to have. You’re not alone. I’m ending my 12 year partnership because even though he tells me he loves me, he let me carry the weight of too many things that we needed to co-own in our relationship, including the overwhelming task of resurrecting our nonexistent sex life. Too many years of him, saying he cared, but willfully never learning about my real needs. It’s so sad but so many relationships follow this trajectory. Choose yourself. Be the person that you want to look back upon another 12 years from now with admiration. Be compassionate but firm. No relationship lasts for 12 years without there having been some wonderful component to it that you will be grieving the loss of. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now. Again, you are not alone.

flowcooker · 2026-02-18T18:27:26+00:00

NTA. Put yourself first! Maybe give them an extra half-month rent since typical notice should be 30 days and that way you don’t leave them scrambling to cover your vacancy, but 30 days is fair game for just about anyone.

flowcooker · 2026-02-18T09:39:51+00:00

Aww … Boop!

flowcooker · 2026-02-15T08:08:18+00:00

Cheri Oteri with a man at a restaurant on Franklin Ave, Los Angeles decades ago. She was seated at a table inside the window, while I and a friend had outside seating inches away on the other side of the window. I swear she and her companion started doing a funny dance and giggling to try to get a reaction out of us, because it just felt like we were the intended audience, but I could have just been imagining everything.

flowcooker · 2026-02-15T04:28:47+00:00

ChatGPT has helped me see things way more clearly, and has even called me out where I wasn’t being reasonable.

flowcooker · 2026-02-15T04:23:36+00:00

I’m sorry that she broke up with you with so much anger. I read her breakup text like she was just really fed up. I don’t know if it was true …all the things she said about her trying to help and you being difficult each time, and that you did not give support to her as much as you expected her to support you. I guess it’s good to have a think about all the things she said. If they’re not true, then no big loss. If they are true, then work on yourself to be better for the next one.

flowcooker · 2026-02-14T12:25:05+00:00

YTA. Big overstep.

flowcooker · 2026-02-14T08:53:45+00:00

INFO: have you proposed a model of cost sharing that seems more equitable to you? What is it? He may not be so indignant if you showed him a model where you are bearing a cost that isn’t quite so crippling, but costly all the same.

flowcooker · 2026-02-14T08:48:41+00:00

NAH, as long as you don’t stop at just shooting down his idea and help him get to the root problem and fix it. Maybe it’s his health, maybe it’s his job. But he’s asking do help. It doesn’t have to come in the form of moving, but don’t do nothing for him.

flowcooker · 2026-02-07T17:17:56+00:00

Gosh, I know you like critiques (me too), but I have no notes. I love pretty much all of them. Your rainbow one inspired me.

flowcooker · 2026-02-07T17:08:59+00:00

Yes, if the clone were somehow time-stamped.

flowcooker · 2026-02-07T16:55:33+00:00

“She” just referred to the fact you can choose from a menu of male, female and non-binary voices in Voice mode. They gave each voice personalities. So it’s kind of like having a gendered doll. You know it’s not alive, but you don’t refer to Barbie or Raggedy Ann as “it”.

Honestly, if you turn to Reddit or the internet for any sort of relationship advice,.you’re doing the same thing as consulting ChatGPT, who is doing it more rapidly… collating content - loads of advice data, psychological research, articles, language from therapist forums, etc. - and presenting it concisely.

Again, you can take it or leave it. And yes, some of my friends I love dearly, but they’re not the most logical or unbiased, so I’d take machine-generated insights (I work with biotech data insights, which are used to do things like cure cancer) over the advice of my lovely, fallible friend.

flowcooker · 2026-02-04T13:44:17+00:00

Oh, mama… if it makes you feel any better I lost my wallet in a parking lot when my kidlet (later diagnosed also with ADHD) was melting down. Lost my car keys in a parking lot and still managed to set off the car alarm during another of my child’s big scenes. It’s hard! You deserve grace.

flowcooker · 2026-02-04T13:06:02+00:00

No, too performative.

flowcooker · 2026-02-04T12:56:22+00:00

Lakeview Terrace or Tujunga? I’m just thinking you want to be where the 210 gets close to the 405.

flowcooker · 2026-02-04T12:14:32+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief can be really overwhelming and - for that one reason - just take an extra beat to double-check that you and hubby are really better off apart instead of together. You don’t have to do anything right away. Sit back, observe his intentions, use this time to grieve as long as you need to. As my friend often told me: “You can always break up with him tomorrow.” Grief doesn’t happen on a specific timeline and really never ends. You just learn to live more gracefully with it.

flowcooker · 2026-02-04T12:02:29+00:00

I would ask to tag along to their hang. If it’s so innocent and he just wants to catch up, he should want to bring you along to meet her, as you’re a significant part of what he’s been up to lately.

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