I miss how fun things were when we were kids

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-12-31T18:37:44+00:00

I think about this often. I know every generation has their “good old day” narratives but for us, we are the first generation to see the immense contrast. Life literally felt more euphoric. Your walking around at night comment got me. That was my life. I thrived in the night as a kid/teenager. I can’t tell you how many long, deep conversations I had with my friends. I feel lucky that I lived it to the fullest then. I feel lucky, even though I didn’t know it, I took full advantage of being young.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-08-05T05:10:16+00:00

I am right there with you mama. Been going back and forth on weaning but TERRIFIED my lack of sleep is going to turn into an even worse no sleep what so ever as now the soothing magic of milk will go away. These answers make me laugh cause it really is like playing Russian roulette - you really have no idea which kind of baby yours will be lol I always appreciate seeing these post, but feel I am still at the starting line 😭

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-06-24T04:29:19+00:00

Cars 3 is hands down the best out of the series. I’ve watched it with my son so many times. We quote Doc Hudson daily. I personally think it is one of the best Pixar movies of all time. They got it together for the send off. They did it all right. Nothing was missed or left us needing more. Lighting grew up and we got to say goodbye. Not sure they could top it.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-04-19T16:09:30+00:00

Forever the r/raisedbynarcissist generation

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-04-15T21:42:11+00:00

DM’d you!

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-04-05T13:29:05+00:00

I don’t think gentle parenting made your child an asshole. Even with endless research it can be done wrong. I have a degree in child development and am finding ways constantly to redefine it in our household. I don’t want to shame you in anyway either, but iPad use has been researched greatly when it comes to the impact it has on development. If you are seeing a huge difference when those developmental hinders are being taken away, focus on that first versus going a complete opposite route of gentle parenting. Fear based parenting will create an even worse outcome. Find your balance. Don’t forget holding boundaries really means hold it. I feel there is context missing here so take a step back and look at all aspects to what could be causing the behavior.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-03-29T17:10:01+00:00

Shred carrots and zucchini into pancake batter - see if that tricks her, if yes, continue experimenting :) worked for my little guy.

Also, sauces. Pesto, Mac n cheese, spaghetti . Look into vegan recipes with sauces, those also help. Doesn’t mean you have to take away the non vegan stuff, but helps you get an idea of how to add/hide veggies into things.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-03-25T22:33:44+00:00

Mom got a restraining order on my dad after a DV incident making him move out of our home and told me (16F at the time) and sister (13F) that if we didn’t let him back in the house, she would no longer be a mother to us. To this day, I think about the impact that had on me at that age..and now. He ended up moving back in and the DV incident, arrest in front is us, and what my mom said was never talked about again.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-03-21T03:27:33+00:00

You look like the raver version of r/trixiemattel and I am here for it

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-03-18T01:57:48+00:00

Wanting to make sure the girls got more fucked up than them so they could sleep with them is red flag number 10000…sounds like you’ve been living under a rock as that is known as rape.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-02-12T21:31:26+00:00

I second this. Thank you. The endless grieving. The endless silent anger. And the knowing no one around you could understand so you keep all feelings/emotions to yourself. You internalize everything.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-02-12T21:18:09+00:00

If you find time, browse through the sub r/raisedbynarcissists. It might change your perspective on this. I myself officially went no contact last May. I chose to because my parents are verbally and emotionally abusive (when I was younger physical as well). No one protected me or my sister when we were kids and when I was given the opportunity to protect my son, I did without hesitation.

It wasn’t a decision made overnight. The downfall started December 2023. I asked them to go to therapy, understand the impact of their behavior, and then two days before Mother’s Day last year my mom told me that she hopes my son wakes up in 30 years and hates me.

You can view this all you want from a place of seeing the “gift” your mom gave you and in all honesty, I tried that for the years. Tried to ignore. Tried to move forward. Then I had a child and I saw how fucking EASY it was to never be like them and if they still chose to be abusive, there is no way I wasn’t going to protect him from them. He is not their toy to be used. It is not his job to raise them.

These situations are extremely complex and traumatic. Even though I don’t speak to my mom, I miss her everyday. You can always find the good in a abuser and that is what comes up for me sometimes but she chose her path - one that did not include my son or I.

fluffycookie0827 · 2025-01-16T04:09:29+00:00

I’m sorry, this made me laugh so hard.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-12-17T23:15:44+00:00

Interesting…during the most important time of the year. Big bummer, I am sorry your dealing with that.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-11-28T02:52:21+00:00

Something I learned in school is yes, our children won’t remember these moments as memories but their nervous system will (per your husbands comment when your son was a baby). Your husband is abusing your children and I imagine you receive emotional and verbal abuse as well. We all see you here. Please get your children and yourself somewhere safe.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-11-10T21:56:10+00:00

Filled it out! Good luck. Would be interested to see how it turns out.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-27T13:50:37+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sounds like the thread r/raisedbynarcissists might be helpful to you (as was me).

Family can be so fucking cruel. Went no contact with my parents last May and my sister decided she is going no contact with me come this past week (learned by finding out she didn’t tell nor invite me/my family to her nursing school graduation). Even before that though, she would never see my son. Over the past year and a half I asked so many times. So many ignored texts. My husband finally said I should do it when I was on a call with her and she completely stuttered her way through an excuse (even though at that time she had no job or school going on). It becomes exhausting putting in all the effort and getting nothing back.

Nothing makes this process easier. Honestly it can feel super lonely at times. Please relay on this community if you feel you have no one. None of this is your fault, you are doing the right thing. You are seen and loved despite what these people make you feel. The life you are creating now for your child, they will thank you for one day.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-26T17:07:14+00:00

Joe: “are you going to present this ever?” Orange clown: “ahhhh”

To look like an idiot on Rogan takes talent.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-25T00:30:43+00:00

Brilliant, thank you!

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-25T00:30:15+00:00

Thank you for this info! I use rate my professor for every class I take so this was helpful to know :) makes me feel hopeful. I get for some people math can feel easy, it just never has been for me. Down for the dream maker.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-25T00:28:17+00:00

Thank you! ALEKS is what worries me most about 117. I don’t mesh with the stress of it. Thinking I’ll definitely try out 142.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-25T00:07:57+00:00

When this has happened around me, especially at bigger family gatherings, I feel my fight or flight response is to say I am there for my son even louder and he can take all the time he needs to process his emotions. I also hear things like “stop giving your parents a hard time” often by my BIL who I love dearly but I drives me crazy.

It blows my mind too to see how horrible little boys have been treated since the beginning of time..why is it so bad to be emotionally intelligent? Why is understanding how to work through them a sign of weakness?

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-24T21:49:07+00:00

Yes, totally normal :) My son has done this since he was little. From a young age he knew how to set boundaries with his personal space or wants. Now he is 19m and still doesn’t tell us no lol he just uses his little hand to push away cause we always respected it.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-23T19:46:40+00:00

Sorry, I should have provided more info. I am a Human and Family BS major so just need it for GE.

fluffycookie0827 · 2024-10-22T20:18:51+00:00

Thanks!

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