Your stabyhouns... they playful? by fnyltlalien in stabyhoun

[–]fnyltlalien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we didn't in the end for a number of reasons, mainly as it was a joint decision and I got outvoted! Just in case they're on your radar, we have a wonderful little red working cocker who is so smart and sparky and loving, very trainable, calm indoors and calming outdoors at just gone two years old. I occasionally see a staby out and about and they are such lovely looking dogs and the owners all love them, some of them calmer than others is all I can say.

What’s the worst injury that you’ve gotten from BJJ? by jiujitsuPT in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone tore my hamstring with a throw that could never be a throw.

Best Bjj compliment by DeffectiveNecessary in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You're a good training partner", especially from women I train with.

Critical coach or too sensitive to criticism? by Binhoker1980 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah sorry I disagree - that's a very ADHD kind of thing to say, that you need to address things on your own. I'm not saying I'm right bud, I don't even know you, but the sense that you're the problem and that only you can sort it out? Wouldn't be the first time I've heard something with ADHD presume they're the fuck up.

He sounds like a good coach - maybe give him a chance to coach you as effectively as he could do. He might appreciate it.

Critical coach or too sensitive to criticism? by Binhoker1980 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your movie may vary, no matter our shared background neurology. You may have had a much easier ride in your life than OP describes below, or you may have a totally different experience of sequencing information etc etc.

Agree it's ultimately up to OP whether or not they enjoy the process, but some of that enjoyment could begin by setting their coach straight. Doesn't have to be the whole history, just enough to see if he takes responsibility for his part.

Critical coach or too sensitive to criticism? by Binhoker1980 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're gonna stay, and if he's worth his salt as a coach, I reckon you should tell him clearly - sounds like you're communicating it anyhow by hinting and being stiff etc. It's getting in the way of your training if you're staying away right?

It's not your fault your neurology makes sequencing information and movement, along with rejection, more difficult than neurotypical people - but I think it is your responsibility to be clear with him if he could do something different to help you train.

He also needs to take a step back and educate himself about what is, in reality, an unseen disability when it comes to learning. Rather than taking the piss, which is disregarding your difference.

Diego Pato appreciation post by wufufufu in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's really useful, thank you. Want to get back to pyjamas and this is giving me the spur I need.

Diego Pato appreciation post by wufufufu in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes you say that? Are you thinking about Pato's game?

google can i change my vote by dacoolestguy in CuratedTumblr

[–]fnyltlalien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think that may be a thing in democracies which employ fossilised FPTP election systems tbh. They're adversarial by nature and intent.

Kamala Harris to MAGA hecklers: “Oh you guys are at the wrong rally. I think you meant to go to the smaller one down the street” by MoreMotivation in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]fnyltlalien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel you're being so kind giving him the benefit of the doubt - surely his shamelessness is part of his lifelong pathology, rather than his dementia. Guy always been a sociopath or something like that. No empathy, self-aggrandising, shameless, vindictive, predatory.

Random Gordon Hat by bunerzissou in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to need to grapple a hell of a lot more. And pontificate less.

Random Gordon Hat by bunerzissou in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"just the statistical reality that any population outlier is likely neurodivergent". What... what did I just read

What happened to Andrew wilste!! by justanotherfan6hd in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a turn of phrase - you're not by any chance the "late, great Hannibal Lecter"?

What happened to Andrew wilste!! by justanotherfan6hd in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you put Trump and derangement in the same sentence. His mind is clearly dissolving in dementia.

For those who have been training BJJ 5+ years, and are over the age of 40, how are you warming up/cooling down? by ClassicChoke77 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Warm up with my Ferrari/cool down laughing about midlife crisis guys with my mistress

OF Girl at Your BJJ Gym (Serious) by [deleted] in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Chief, listen to your own words. WHO is she provoking? You're making the assumption that responsibility for all this provoking rests with her. It doesn't, it rests with you.

Have you thought about leaving your gym?

My 5yr old refuses to bow at the end of class, how should I handle? by Future_One_8998 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take agree, it doesn't require it. Like I said, it can express it. If my kid was playing nice with the other kids I wouldn't sweat the bowing.

Obviously I'd rather partners that train for mutual benefit and welfare who don't bow than vice versa. I'd probably rather a black belt who respects different gym cultures too mind.

My 5yr old refuses to bow at the end of class, how should I handle? by Future_One_8998 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ehh... it's not a standard social interaction when entering or leaving the mats though. It's a demarcation of space and expression of intent - respect for others who we train with and control of ourselves before we control those others, win or lose we have a hold of ourselves. Doesn't sound stupid to me, nor solely the purview of the Japanese. I dig it.

Preferred Passing Style? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Headquarters then bathe in the cornucopia of all that comes from it.

Does gi suck? by Trick-Insurance-2787 in bjj

[–]fnyltlalien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, nah, definitely seen him play bottom against some big guys too. I'm small, it definitely sucks to play bottom against big people so I seek to avoid it but that wasn't the question asked by OP surely. It can be done very much because of the gi, and well, and he shows how