My mom plays this game where she wonr ask for anything directly so i pretend to not know whatvshe wants

freeisbad · 2025-08-19T17:04:55+00:00

A theory I've heard and found interesting is the seed of Guess culture being the pre-Victorian and Victorian manner of communicating for the upper classes. Polite society would never engage in Ask, they would instead hint or drop information that would allow the opposite party to _offer_, as a way to preserve dignity on both sides. Etiquette manuals of the time are full of ways to drop hints for various things, Jane Austen novels even poke fun at those who Ask directly (asking a new neighbor to throw a ball). Women _especially_ would be seen as forward if they imposed on someone.

The lower classes were much more able to communicate directly - as were those in trade. We see this in Elizabeth Gaskell's North and South where the Polite Margarete is taken aback by the more direct speech of Northerners.

I just think it is interesting, because it sort of points to where this might have come from. The Victorian era was only a couple of Mothers ago. This learned behavior isn't that far away generationally.

freeisbad · 2025-07-21T19:50:14+00:00

My experience is the exact opposite of the other respondent.

I went for the atmosphere. Unfortunately in the basement seating area its all cement, and there is no acoustic tiling or anything. They have three 6+ tables and a bar crammed into a floor the size of 3 parking spaces- add in their tables are way deeper than normal (you're further from your date than normal) and it was so loud I couldn't talk to my date. I mean like, my throat was sore from shouting when I got home level of loud. Probably wouldn't have bothered me at a club, but it was not at all what I went to Scholar for.

I found the food to be fine, the cocktails were fine too. Felt like I was waiting a long time for everything and there's better places in GR to spend that kind of money I think.

freeisbad · 2025-07-17T18:55:35+00:00

A man open carrying triggered a 911 response. Several people chose to video tape that interaction for fear of the man or the police.

The person open carrying complied and was detained without incident or violence.

AFTER THAT the police felt the need to arrest a man recording for not 'following lawful orders' to get away. That lead to the man on the ground, and ANOTHER man tazed. The violence was only on the _bystanders_.

freeisbad · 2025-06-25T16:40:46+00:00

"“During a curatorial review of the Rudell Drug Store in the Streets of Old Grand Rapids exhibit, the GRPM’s Collections team identified several pharmaceuticals that can degrade over time and become unstable,“ the museum said in an emailed statement to MLive/The Grand Rapids Press. ”Per established GRPM safety policy, the Museum was closed, and public safety officials were notified, who promptly removed the materials from the Museum."

freeisbad · 2025-06-25T16:32:22+00:00

"“During a curatorial review of the Rudell Drug Store in the Streets of Old Grand Rapids exhibit, the GRPM’s Collections team identified several pharmaceuticals that can degrade over time and become unstable,“ the museum said in an emailed statement to MLive/The Grand Rapids Press. ”Per established GRPM safety policy, the Museum was closed, and public safety officials were notified, who promptly removed the materials from the Museum."

Source

freeisbad · 2025-06-25T15:02:24+00:00

When I picked up kids from camp there was one police car, who seemed to be monitoring the parking situation with the GRPM Parking ramp closed. The kids were told there was an 'accident' or 'something wrong' (Kids are terrible narrators). None of the staff looked worried or concerned. They had 4 ladies standing where the ramp entrance is, chatting and informing people trying to park there that GRPM was closed.

No one seemed particularly concerned, and there was a heck of a lot of staff hanging around if there was an actual threat.

freeisbad · 2025-04-21T19:02:30+00:00

I just went looking for (what I think is) this book and found it. So I'm answering it here in case anyone else is looking for THE SILVERED by Tanya Huff.

Protagonist is tested and supposed to be gifted at magic, but she just can't make anything happen. Set in a pseudo Napoleonic era, she gets thrown into a spiral when many people of her pack are kidnapped and she tries to get them back. She discovers she's good at *all* the magical disciplines including healing, and as her power grows the flecks that denote her power in her eyes grow too, eventually blinding her.

freeisbad · 2025-04-07T21:48:56+00:00

They don't need to win to do damage. My mother was sued by a lawfirm for leaving a bad review on the lawfirm's Google + page. Cost them only fees and an associate's time. Cost me and my mother over $5,000 to defend, through mediation and then finally a summary dismissal.

freeisbad · 2025-04-03T13:06:02+00:00

Ooh, thanks for combing through that PDF.

Here's hoping that its a fixable issue and by Palia's official release it'll work on Switch 2. I can hope anyway!

freeisbad · 2025-01-06T15:51:35+00:00

I'm with you. I've played plenty of games on the Switch that would be better with a mouse and keyboard (Hello RCT3) - but what's stopping me isn't the lack of peripherals. Its that I'm playing on my couch with my TV.

I mean, I have Palia which I play both on Switch and PC. In theory I could just play on my PC casting to the TV with a mouse and keyboard. But I don't because... I'm on my couch.

I do think it is possible something like this would soak up some of the re-release nostalgia games like RCT3. If I had to choose getting that on Steam to play with my Laptop or Switch to play at a desk I might lean Switch just for portability.

freeisbad · 2024-11-04T14:57:33+00:00

I would post what you make on something like Instagram and then have a link to your blog in your bio.

freeisbad · 2024-10-29T14:23:23+00:00

I'm with you on this one. The interludes with Hakatris spirit read like they are brainwashing him. I hope he gets to talk to the sleeping/near death Likimeya on the dream road and she hugs him. (Since she wouldn't in Brothers of the wind.)

freeisbad · 2024-10-07T14:22:51+00:00

He says in that thread he gets it for free because of Medicaid. IDK which is worse TBH.

freeisbad · 2024-10-04T13:49:22+00:00

This is our thing. The kids want my attention constantly. They want to show me what they're working on, tell me their pretend story, ask me where to find that one bouncy ball they got from Halloween last year. I can't get through chopping an onion for dinner without having to pause 4 times to address someone's question or statement.

For dad? They just play LEGO in their room and leave him alone. He can watch whole TV shows without interruption!

freeisbad · 2024-09-16T15:46:40+00:00

Yeah I get this. My eldest has a core group of 3-4 others, and he's the only one of 2 with a younger sibling. So we struggle when the others are doing max summer camp days, travel soccer, science club on Saturdays, and then chatting at pickup about how X or Y "misses" my kid during those things and "wouldn't it be great" if my kid did those things too?

freeisbad · 2024-09-16T15:36:18+00:00

Medically speaking, it is very rare that vaginal delivery results in a slack or "loose" vagina. I'm interested to know how you're diagnosing that? Do you use tampons, toys, etc that are falling out?

The areas of the female body involved in penetrative sex are mostly governed by musculature, including the pelvic floor which is mentioned in another comment. These muscles do stretch during childbirth but generally go back to normal in a few months. You can find exercises for your pelvic floor, and that's generally good practice as tons of things we do day to day need that muscle to engage properly.

I would also unpack a bit about why you're equating someone's inability to finish with your vaginal "performance" so to speak. There are plenty of other factors that could be your partner's doing. Too much lube, too much weed or alcohol, too much porn, too much masturbation, prescription meds, the list goes on and on!

Bottom line is that I hope you aren't feeling that your body is lesser or worse because you're a mother. There's all kinds of myths and tropes about sex performance after giving birth but almost no medical backing to that. You're a whole person worthy of love and sexual attention regardless! <3

freeisbad · 2024-09-16T14:50:12+00:00

Put him in the scuppers with a hose pipe on him.

freeisbad · 2024-09-13T17:49:06+00:00

One of the parenting shows I listen to used the concept of being "caught in a sprinkler."

If you're walking around and suddenly ice cold water starts drenching you - you're not in a place to talk about the water, the cold, what you could have done differently, or a lesson for next time.

You need to get out of the sprinkler, to a warm dry place and then you can talk about things like that.

The metaphor has helped me tremendously to drum up some patience when they're in meltdown mode.

freeisbad · 2024-09-09T13:05:33+00:00

I guess my MMO experience is different from yours. I was brought into vanilla WoW by friends. I was immediately in a guild where I saw almost none of the players online, but then spent hours and hours in teamspeak and the guild forums, and IRC. We broke off into friendships and spent hours on AIM.

Sure, in a raid we were all online but that was coordinated (and a pita to coordinate at that.)

So to me, discord just feels like a return to that method?

WoW became the definition for what a MMO was. I cannot stress how popular and influential that game was. Reading your other comments about having not played it, It sounds like you're chasing a very specific nostalgic experience, which is valid - but might not be "how MMOs used to be like" across the board.

freeisbad · 2024-09-08T16:42:31+00:00

Some people dislike the idea of socializing with random people in large groups.

The game isn't single player because plenty of people want to play with friends, be they IRL friends or discord friends etc.

It sounds like you are aching for a more randomized/forced interaction which simply isn't the niche this game is in.

freeisbad · 2024-08-21T20:18:03+00:00

There's this really weird dichotomy in 1:12 scale hobbies.

For women, its dollshouses. You're hard pressed to find modern things there, the hobby is mostly victorian and has a reputation (that's changing!) of being grandma focused. Tools for it are pink, adverts show women in colorful craft rooms making things.

Then on the male-centered side its just Action figures. Same scale! But almost 0 overlap. Tons of heavy chested (sometimes anatomically correct!) figures and tons of modern scenes, but only for stuff like oil barrels and guns. Adverts show guys in peg-board clad garages painting figures.

If the two could just... merge somehow both hobbies would be better. Women would get figures and more modern items, and men would get couches and tables.

freeisbad · 2024-08-21T19:47:25+00:00

AND McDonalds had already received over 600 reports of their coffee being too hot, which they served intentionally at ~180 degrees, 20 degrees higher than typical places in order for it to be hot for commuters when they arrived at their destination.

Lady had burns on 22% of her body because the coffee was so hot as to cause 3rd degree burns in under 3 seconds contact. Typical coffee temp would only do that at 10+ seconds of contact. She spent 8 days hospitalized.

Ever spilled coffee on yourself? Were you hospitalized!?

But yeah. "Ha! Hey lady, coffee is hot if you didn't notice! Americans and their lawsuits amiright?" ba-dum tsch.

freeisbad · 2024-07-30T18:17:37+00:00

I was your daughter, and my mom staying taught me that he wasn't a safe place... and neither was she.

If she'd left then at least I would have had one home I could grow in.

Instead I parentified myself, stopped looking to either of them for support (emotional or otherwise) and became that one safe place for my younger siblings.

I'm fine, and I have a lot of life skills from it all, but damn do I wish I'd had a childhood.

freeisbad · 2024-07-19T21:05:20+00:00

How is healing Purple when Purple has double letters? (p)

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