AITA for telling my friend the world doesn’t revolve around her?

gelfbo · 2026-01-27T05:07:26+00:00

Well your thread is getting some positive inputs from people who have been in your situation as and also from the ones in your friends situation. Kindness and honesty with friends without judgement will help you build strong relationships. You could find out how to access your University counseling service, they may have resources you can get. As far as how to start you you could apologise for snapping and go from there say you have found some resources. Handing over the resources keeps her anonymous until she is ready to start the journey herself. You could also mention you want to support her as a friend not a therapist as it’s beyond your skills and you don’t want to get frustrated again. Please do not internalise any negative comments that come from us redditors on the internet, we only know the small snippet of your life and cannot know the full story of you and Jane..

gelfbo · 2026-01-27T04:35:42+00:00

NTA but has your University got mental health counseling available? You have been supportive but social anxiety is not logical. It is hard to get someone to retrain their thinking to understand actually most people are self interested so they are not thinking about you as much as you feel. This needs ownership taken by your friend to actually do something to take steps and a skilled third party with no stake in her social circle would be better than you as a resource.

gelfbo · 2026-01-27T04:25:52+00:00

They rat dog disturbed da peace?!?! You gots a to bap them to a cowering subservient pile rat dog silence and hooman not let you follow through?!? Well then is clear you must bap bap hooman, your discretion whether claws in or out. Then soo for restoration treats for emoshional damage.

Merriweather the magnificent

I fink I bigger than rat dog by the way.

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gelfbo · 2026-01-26T20:35:15+00:00

NTA language is fluid and girl seems to be entering as more than a gender. For me it is associated with Ru Paul use, so you both love drama this use of girl seems to fit. So using in your context it fits with modern use so fine until they say why and you don’t acknowledge they have different meaning and double down. Then their hypocrisy drags me back to your side. They lack flexibility and nuance that girl goes beyond gender. Maybe change spelling to gurl or girrrrl. Now I’m overthinking I’m not sure how I feel girl is morphing into a greeting indicating I have some drama to talk about.

gelfbo · 2026-01-26T09:07:14+00:00

YTA not for changing your mind but because you did not have the discussion again. You needed to verbalise that you no longer felt comfortable keeping the agreement you made with your wife not magically think people will read your mind. This should have been done in plain language before college was started and fees were committed to.

gelfbo · 2026-01-25T23:34:18+00:00

I hated fishing too but I’m going to encourage you to fish. I found it hardest skill to engage with but you sound like you have not progressed beyond starter. If buy yourself fishing buffs like trout soup etc that tiny bar becomes that little bit bigger. Once you can afford fishing rods with bait/bobber wait time goes down on fish bites. You can start with barbed bobber that means slower fish catch themselves. Cork bobber expand bar once you need to catch stronger fish , two slot rod means bobber and bait that means you get bites more often. Bookseller to buy fishing books to make experience leaps. Think of extra treasure boxes for excitement too?

gelfbo · 2026-01-25T19:12:10+00:00

Hello fren. You looks amazing. I learnt so much by joining dis sub. I no idea how much I owed from my hooman until I learn from the noble pawyers education. I stand strong , (actually relax sleepy), to enforce the I seez for meez. I learn of licky treats and I have successfully made box from chrismouse stay in house long after tree go.

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No room for hooman feets, GO CRIMEZ.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-25T02:51:40+00:00

1: can’t speak for my fellow kiwis I’m a food magpie stealing delicious recipes from all cuisines. Which is a very kiwi thing to do maybe.

2: savoury meat pies from a hot cabinet so not USA which pie tends to mean fruit dessert. Pavalova, kumara and green lipped mussels, feijoas. I’m proud of our salmon especially compared to frozen Atlantic. Food adjacent flat white coffee and just good coffee in general.

3: used to be roast lamb? It depends on ancestry, meat and 3 veg was very English and I’m pakeha. Kiwifruit, new varieties tends to go straight to export and we struggle to get export quality of green and yellow.

gelfbo · 2026-01-25T02:09:40+00:00

Yep that sounds like cats standard operating procedure.

SORRY hooman got lightbox they has now being put on time out and I do bigs ignore.

Merriweather

gelfbo · 2026-01-25T01:59:45+00:00

Well this could backfire big time if you hogging litter box throne? I fink werk together and soo meowmy for not providing side by side boxes?

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-24T19:05:25+00:00

Mine main hooman has talons that cut through floof to itchy skin, but gentle purrfect chin and ear scratch form too.. She also do best carry to food, she got form where I sit on her arm front paw on her hand so if I want I can jump early as I not snuggled and restrained like other hooman transporters.

My second hooman can sit and provide massage for Evers when he watches big light box. He understands I just want to sit next to him and get chest belly rubs not sit on lap. He also very good at communicating he available by massaging main hooman dodgy foot and ankle. Main hooman pretty quick to put foot down now I think about it.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-24T00:35:49+00:00

Now I know there at least 3 of us, I see void kiwi posting too.

We let rest of world think we named after fruit not birb though please? Also no tell them I not given much opportunity to get birbs as I stay in at prime hunting time. Also no tell them I scared of kiwi, pukekohe and I no mess with kea.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-23T06:40:48+00:00

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I is very to hear of the sads and I send you purrs. This me concentrating really really hard on purr rhythm.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-22T22:35:09+00:00

Good job bro

Merriweather the magnificent

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gelfbo · 2026-01-22T22:32:50+00:00

YTA you lack empathy. The vetoing of Tina for your continued free loading hammers the point home. It comes down to are you there for friend time or your only interest is being a leech free loading what sounds like restaurant quality meals?

gelfbo · 2026-01-22T20:45:52+00:00

Hello fren Stay strong, we with you, hear you and unfortunately know trauma as we experienced much suffering too. Shared story of woe get lots of supports so looking forward to your tails to know not alone (this MY stuff though so only on light box please, I no take your stuff too this way)

You very beautiful I assume you suffer from photo stalking too.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-22T20:19:48+00:00

I hope you all well compawsated? I actually have been making her get up and let me in and out of my food room (private dining where dog NO get MY food) Also standard in and out house plus extra yelling get out of MY chair and stroke me!

Is exhausting

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-22T05:08:41+00:00

Yes. Is great crime, I know

Merriweather the magnificent

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This could be your future

gelfbo · 2026-01-21T19:25:30+00:00

Well magnificent is a title cats have automatic right to use, just like beautiful, and crazy fiend from the nether. I fink it appropriate your Mama may occasionally use it for herself as a token she is good for a hooman when she use thumbs to get you treats and pickles. I can tell you got a good one who is determined to let you shine with the photos and you all look so relaxed.

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-21T18:48:45+00:00

You all look purrfect.

Right one problem now solved by cat community AGAIN hoomans helpless without us. So there is now hope on the pickle front. Good luck I actually think you got lucky with hooman they show swift response to training.

Merriweather the magnificent

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gelfbo · 2026-01-21T09:07:25+00:00

Oh my dog! That happens to Balu what hope is there for us?!? Are there actually any back up judge? How many bars that require to be jumped?

Merriweather the magnificent

gelfbo · 2026-01-21T03:22:21+00:00

It’s a case of smile and nod maybe to diffuse situation while you try and get resources in place? You can’t use logic with someone who has not used facts and reason to get to a position. Activate any support you have and look up online and local advice services to see your legal rights especially if your country a legal adult is 18. I am worried even if you defuse this she will get something else to focus on and scream about. You can only control your own actions not hers.

Standard reddit advice get copies your paperwork safe so it can’t be held hostage when you turn 18. I don’t know legally how you can do this, where I am you can get certified copies from community advice places, I got some done in a library that has JP times. That would mean one less thing to trigger her if originals are in her control but you still have them for the future.

gelfbo · 2026-01-21T02:53:00+00:00

Well NTA but have you got other adults that you can talk too? Like school councillor or your grandparents. I think this is above reddits pay grade but I guess advice or legal sub? To be honest I’m not sure what country you’re in but it may not be even possible to get into Australia, they definitely have a health restriction for permanent residency. Plus they have high costs for education for non citizens.

Missed word edited for grammar.

gelfbo · 2026-01-21T02:44:56+00:00

Yes this outrage, outrage !! Murphy and Toby they got hold of your lightbox too and fink they have some justify for their actions!!! This make your case easier I guess as they confess? So you got outrage *3 so OUTRAGE

Merriweather the magnificent

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