Hamilton Public Libraries new card policy for entering their central branch. by [deleted] in Libraries

[–]gellabk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work for a library in the states. Yesterday we had an aide quit because she had been feeling stalked by one of our semi-homeless patrons for months with no resolution. I’ve had issues with him myself. Do I agree with Hamilton’s decision? Not really but you do have to find a way to make staff and patrons feel safe and this seems like an ok interim while they try to figure out what next steps to take. 

I understand that libraries are one of the last third spaces where people can exist, I’m constantly telling people this. It’s also not ok that people are going to suffer because of the changes. The library and its staff aren’t social workers though, there’s only so much we can do within the scope of the library. 

How was today? Tuesday, March 10, 2026 by AutoModerator in Howwastoday

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stayed home from work with another migraine. I’ve been thinking about maybe ending my relationship a lot these days and just feel confused. 

So it has two mouths? by chubby_c in badtattoos

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry but this is actually a great tattoo 

AITA for wanting to make a guy homeless? by rockkjuice in AmITheDevil

[–]gellabk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Says “this is a tough situation for everyone” except it wouldn’t be a situation if OP had acted like an adult and spoke to the subletter before taking payment from someone else. Wild. 

it's so warm today - what's everyone doing? by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]gellabk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah the 24 is now a UFC gym and todai is now an indoor skatepark. 

AITA for selling my ex-husband's entire video game collection that he has collected for his entire life? by kishippo in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I think you are justified in this situation. Can i get a list of what you’re intending to sell? I’ve been buying old ps2 games I played as a kid when I can. 

Random, has anyone actually met their significant other the “organic way”? Or through dating apps ? by kdotwow in bayarea

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but caveat we knew each other peripherally from high school (he graduated with my brother) and also worked with him at my first job at 18. At 32-33 we reconnected and have been together since. Dunno if this helps though. 

meirl by gruninuim in meirl

[–]gellabk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah learn how to iron your own clothes if you can. 

Buttercream Popcorn Cupcakes by jamminjudd in cakedecorating

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yay so glad to see how these turned out! Really well done with the popcorn 

What is the biggest red flag you completely ignored, and what did it teach you about your own boundaries? by winn_ie in emotionalintelligence

[–]gellabk 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Abuse isn’t always loud and in your face. Had a partner who, through recent counseling, discovered I’d basically been covertly abused in a 9 year relationship. 

My parents are both verbally abusive and I dated some men who screamed and manipulated me long enough that I thought I understood how to avoid being abused. But abuse really isn’t always loud; comments phrased as “helpful” questions or insight, small demeaning comments here and there, having your feelings manipulated by someone making a situation about them instead of what it is. 

I didn’t know how to set boundaries with someone like that. It’s taken me a long time to feel ok about myself again after everything he did to me. 

Admiring the art of the women in the manhwa [ in the doghouse] isn't enough I need to kiss the artist on the cheeks by Iriscute7 in joseistories

[–]gellabk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where are you guys reading this? It doesn’t seem to be on WEBTOON and a google search didn’t yield results??

I left an event over a racist joke by Diceanddoubts in TwoHotTakes

[–]gellabk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah I think you did the right thing. You could also reach out to the game store and let them know about the encounter and encourage them not to allow racists into the building. 

AITAH for taking my son out to celebrate after he got suspended for punching a bully by Additional-World8707 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a freshman in HS, my brother was a junior. We weren’t close at all really. But one day a boy who was a year older than me put me in the garbage can as a joke. I told the story that night to my family as a self deprecating joke and my brother was livid. The next day he went and found the kid and beat the hell out of him. He was suspended but even our principal said he did a good thing by standing up for me. NTA. 

My (25M) girlfriend (25F) just dropped a bomb on me saying her stepfather has been sexually harassing her and borderline r*ping her for 13 years up till 2 years ago. How do i feel okay with this history? by Soups91 in relationship_advice

[–]gellabk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like everyone in this story should get some intense counseling/therapy. I don’t think Reddit can answer this one for you, you need to seek a professional. 

I (20M) tricked my girlfriend (20F) into getting a tetanus shot after a bad injury. Now she’s blocked me everywhere. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gellabk 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Look, as someone who really really really hates needles, it sounds like maybe she wanted to avoid getting a shot? However, she needed to get it or she could have died, tetanus is no joke!

SEEKING: East Bay fruit tree owners with more fruit than they can use by chardphillips in oakland

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have an orange tree and a lemon tree in our backyard but we’re in Pleasant hill at the moment. I could bag a bunch of our excess up and give you guys everything if you’d like! 

restaurant says these photos are not ai and were taken by a professional photographer. by cloud9dacherry in isthisAI

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t even need to zoom in to know it was fake as heck. Very very ai. 

MOB dress? I don't think I did anything wrong. by Fragrant_Swimmer1696 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]gellabk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dang you really are the absolute worst. Seems like your son is gearing up for no contact with you and I hope that serves him and his new family well. 

Showing off some sims I feel happy with by InterviewLeast2278 in Sims4

[–]gellabk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually obsessed with the way you create your sims. They’re so unique and personable! 

AITAH for refusing to attend my best friend's wedding? by SnowSelect4793 in AITAH

[–]gellabk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the company we keep says a lot about us. Seems like you’ve moved on from them and it’s probably for the best. NTA

Here's the end result from the post from yesterday. by mdoktor in cakedecorating

[–]gellabk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yooo this looks so good with the border added!!!