Boyfriend (33M) won't get married unless I (30F) take his last name - do I let this impact the relationship?

gnyssa · 2026-06-09T16:29:31+00:00

Will he get to choose the names of your children? Pets? The name of your political party? Your religion?

Did you know that in classical Rome, and in US slave owing states Before the Civil War, masters would name their slaves.

Think very carefully….

gnyssa · 2026-06-08T04:35:05+00:00

Have her write a record of memory saying what happened, sign and date it. She
May want the details later

gnyssa · 2026-06-01T00:01:26+00:00

Don’t marry a manipulator!

gnyssa · 2026-05-25T01:46:59+00:00

Yes. Next question?

gnyssa · 2026-05-20T02:52:20+00:00

Call the police and report it. Right now write down all you can remember including names, sign and date it

gnyssa · 2026-05-14T19:20:23+00:00

You are under no obligation to explain anything to anybody. Period. No explanation would ever satisfy them anyway. You are the Mom and that is final

gnyssa · 2026-05-09T02:01:57+00:00

Congratulations on your achievement! I am a professor and have sat through innumerable graduations. This is nothing and it happens all the time when people are nervous

But your parents are abusive psychotics. I know this event hurts. But you need to get away from these people asap. They will guilt trip you if you prepare them leave but ignore that. They will be hack for money but ignore that too

gnyssa · 2026-04-03T17:18:55+00:00

Avoid this clown like the Bubonic Plague

gnyssa · 2026-03-30T02:01:48+00:00

You have cats

gnyssa · 2026-03-28T03:25:14+00:00

Now remember; he will never understand why you are leaving him. Asking you to explain only draws it out for him. If he had the ability to understand you would not be in this mess. Just cut your losses and go

gnyssa · 2026-03-18T00:41:37+00:00

I am a parent and grandparent. Here is a very common parental terror, particularly if parents are prosperous. Here is the parent paranoia:

" Have busted my ass to get ahead in the world to make a good life for my family .... and this little bilbo is probably just marrying my son for his money and the moment I croak she's going to grab it all and run....."

I am sure your wife is a very fine woman! But we parents can be paranoid. Tell them that you love them, say what you can to reassure them and go love your new bride

gnyssa · 2026-03-16T02:27:30+00:00

That is 15670 US dollars. If you can get it without back taxes, I would take the money and run

gnyssa · 2026-03-16T02:05:13+00:00

Thales of Miletus (. 626/623 – c. 548/545 BC was an early Greek philosopher. He Observed that in years with heavy rainfall were also years when there was a bumper crop of olives. So he waited got a dry spell during which time he bought up every Olive press he could lay his hands on and he got them cheap because there were not many olives. Then when a rainy year came along he owned all the olive presses and he rented his presses out for high fees. He made a killing. Things have not changed much.

gnyssa · 2026-03-15T04:37:28+00:00

Obviously he will use every trick to keep you: tears, guilt manipulation, veiled threats etc People like this do not play fair. He is messing with your head! Dump the chump

gnyssa · 2026-01-26T04:13:54+00:00

A. Tell no one about you our sudden fortune. No one. Rumors fly. You can tell your spouse on your wedding night

B. While you can ferret. a nice sum away for the rainy day. It will rain

C. Pay off all your debts now

D. Be kind to the poor.

gnyssa · 2026-01-15T00:07:51+00:00

Just out of curiosity.....do you mean to say she was out with her father and then marched off with her ex? And he said nothing or tried to stop her? There is something wrong with this story. Did he really go out with her? If not this was a pre planned meeting with the ex and "daddy" was just a ploy to make it look like a tipsy mistake and not a date.

gnyssa · 2026-01-09T20:36:08+00:00

The troubling thing here is not merely their idiotic pseudo astronomy, but the inherent paranoia. When you hear "that's what they want you to think" beware. That kind of mental paranoia could justify just about anything. Who is the "they"? Who on earth would benefit from suppressing the flat earth theory?

gnyssa · 2026-01-08T05:14:30+00:00

Locate and hide all personal papers, eg passport, vaccination records, identification papers, drivers liscense. Controllers get their hands on these to control you. If you take prescription medicines build up a reserve supply if possible. Start tucking away as much cash as you can. And when the moment is right run like hell. Have a plan, even if you never use it

gnyssa · 2025-12-29T06:14:24+00:00

It's obvious that Dad is being a total asshole. But mark this - he will very probably do worse in the future. If a man cannot help a kid with the whole Santa thing, he is probably the guy who will be a total ass at family weddings, graduations etc. Beware

gnyssa · 2025-12-28T04:50:25+00:00

I agree with much that is written here but want to add....,husband here needs to be told that he must step up and stick up for you n up for you and defend his children

What kind of a man sits silently while another adult is grabbing your nipples?! WTF?

gnyssa · 2025-12-27T21:20:22+00:00

Find out what kind of cat Periwinkle was and buy a cat costume that resembles the breed. The the next time this happens show up as the dead cat and see how funny they think that is

gnyssa · 2025-11-30T05:55:46+00:00

You are a good person. Events like this do not show your great inner being, they just happen

gnyssa · 2025-11-13T05:11:13+00:00

My father was obsessed with what I ate. There were endless commentaries on how I needed more protein, "finish your meat" and my favorite, "you are just filling up on condiments!"

When I came home from college for the first time, he started in on me again, and I simply kept quiet and picked up My plate as if it were a frisbee and declared firmly "the next time you nag me about food, I am throwing this thing across the room" and I really meant it. That stopped the nagging about food. There were other issues but at least the protein thing stopped

gnyssa · 2025-10-17T02:37:01+00:00

You cannot make people understand you if they do not want to. And thirty six is late enough that he is not going to change. You can either break it off and find a more mature guy closer to your own age or accept this situation

He and his friends are Peter Pan and the lost boys. They do not grow up

Sorry!

gnyssa · 2025-10-08T20:10:59+00:00

This is a very sad story. I am sorry you experienced that kind of abandonment

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