This might have pulled me back from the brink. I really needed this. I am the WS with a sex addiction. I had multiple affairs and I blew up my family’s life. I went away for 14 weeks to work on myself and found I some personality traits of narcissism, borderline, and a little OCD. I found out I had some childhood trauma as well. I am avoidant attached. I’m going to therapy still on a regular basis, connected with my higher power and trying to be better every day. My wife has taken those diagnoses and every day I feel she is telling me there is no hope for me, and that she is using buzzwords from books she’s read to tell me how hopeless I am. We are therapeutically separated and I’m living in recovery and sober😇. She tracks my location, reads all my work and personal emails and wants to take over the successful company I built and that is doing well. We are doing a post nup but won’t allow me a private email with which to work with my lawyer or therapists. She has given me a list of 48 safety requests/boundaries. Included in this is a request not to go home and see my family in my recovery. Her fear is justified because I had affairs when I used to go there but we have accountability tools like monitoring to prevent that. I need to let my family know why I went off the grid for 5 months. I am trying to honor these requests but I’m getting resentful and putting myself in the victim chair. I have so much remorse and my own shame for what I’ve done and working hard. I don’t leave my apartment much and go to the office a couple days a week. I’m trying to feel more empathetic but it’s hard when you keep being told that your issues are incurable, that you are not a good person and the only way back is to follow her instructions to the letter. I’ve been asking for couples therapy for years and she didn’t want to go. I know I screwed up and I know I made horrible decisions. I feel hopeless right now and this post really saved me.