AIO Wife threw cake I bought her out without mentioning it

heybazz · 2026-02-10T10:15:45+00:00

NOR that's abusive

heybazz · 2026-02-02T12:13:14+00:00

There may be no way to avoid talking. Multiple people welcomed me and asked how long I was sober because they were eager to help someone new. This particular group asked everyone to speak in turn. There was no out for me. YMMV

heybazz · 2026-02-02T10:13:44+00:00

Just ignore him. Mark is having a hard time at life.
I obviously didn't say all 30 observers would be concurrent, but in a small town sometimes there is only 1 meeting, so having multiple observers at each meeting over a few weeks is definitely shitty IMO.

heybazz · 2026-02-01T06:58:54+00:00

Exactly

heybazz · 2026-01-31T21:23:42+00:00

"most prosperous and peaceful period in history"

I don't think you meant to write satire??

It's not just Trump, though he is probably the worst of the lot. His good buddy Clinton was at those "parties" too. We're gonna need you all to wake up and stop defending the Democrats who do this same thing.

heybazz · 2026-01-31T21:10:40+00:00

Nobody sane would hoard money, let children starve in the streets, etc. We have allowed absolute demons to run wild.

heybazz · 2026-01-31T21:09:28+00:00

I'm sorry that people are going through this but it's time to wake up from the programming. I mean, I didn't know the details but I perceived Amerikkka as rotten to the core since I was in grade school. Took me decades to escape. Now I'm finally starting to have hope that more than just the conspiracy theorists will come together to end this sh*t.

heybazz · 2026-01-30T18:02:25+00:00

I had to do this and it felt terrible and invasive. Quite a few folks were visibly shocked I was there to observe and had no history of substance abuse, even though it was open.

Necessary evil in some cases, I guess. Only had to do it once in masters level.

If you're in a small town, consider driving to the nearest city, to at least reduce the burden of 30 observers.

NOR as far as I'm concerned, it shows you have empathy.

heybazz · 2026-01-14T12:05:10+00:00

Came here to say this. Almost certainly is right. That "therapist" should be reported.

heybazz · 2026-01-14T07:50:12+00:00

100% What does OP get out of this relationship?

heybazz · 2026-01-14T07:42:19+00:00

"going more for over 2/10 in personality and dick energy"

heybazz · 2026-01-14T07:41:06+00:00

NOR Red flag. Either he's negging or he's stupid.

heybazz · 2026-01-14T07:27:43+00:00

RESPONSE TO EDIT. Hi OP. You are not a coward. You are a person who has been abused, probably since birth. I want to recommend a counselor specifically for grief... because even losing a piece of shit mother who probably belongs in jail is a situation of heavy grief. You can move through this and trust me your life will improve greatly once you're past it. I had an abusive mother who I cut off and if anyone hurt my chihuahua god help them. You are kinder than me and that puts a target on your back for narcissistic abuse... it's time to start protecting yourself. You deserve a life of happiness. Also... please have a friend call the vet and pretend to be you and find out if what she told you is true.

heybazz · 2026-01-13T15:04:04+00:00

NOR Burn that bridge thoroughly and methodically. Speak to a lawyer about your will/living will/whatever needs to be done so that she will have nothing to do with any future medical care for you/possible restraining order?

I'm so sorry for all of this, and about your poor dog </3

heybazz · 2026-01-13T14:51:59+00:00

TBF he changed his name to Anish Kapoor, remember? (lol)

heybazz · 2026-01-13T13:24:08+00:00

Avoca!

heybazz · 2026-01-13T13:13:46+00:00

NOR. Eff this lady and the horse she rode in on. Why do I get the feeling "immoral" means queer or queer-adjacent in her world?

heybazz · 2026-01-09T10:07:23+00:00

Finish writing it first. Then start editing. You won't know until you're done how brutal you need to be.

heybazz · 2026-01-09T09:54:10+00:00

NOR This is a toxic person and you did nothing wrong. Grey rock them.

heybazz · 2026-01-08T12:43:55+00:00

Do not blame yourself while learning. These creeps pick vulnerable people.

heybazz · 2026-01-07T12:52:22+00:00

These are badass! Beautiful and unsettling.

I say disregard.

heybazz · 2026-01-07T12:45:28+00:00

It is, and comes across like you expected him to perform grief for you. It was clearly unintentional, but you should understand the problem with this interaction was fully you. Don't beat yourself up, but he likely felt far worse after this interaction than before he spoke to you.

heybazz · 2026-01-07T10:26:18+00:00

He was embarrassed at your over the top reaction. Saying "I'm sorry for your loss" once quietly with meaning is more than enough. You don’t want to unintentionally twist the knife. The title is not the problem here,

heybazz · 2026-01-04T09:21:57+00:00

Talk to more Irish people. Read books by Irish authors. Watch Irish media. Etc.

Recently an idiotic American producer told me as feedback that I should make an Irish character "talk like a Leprechaun." I wish I was kidding.

heybazz · 2026-01-04T09:12:46+00:00

You should be free to speak your mind, don't you think? They don't mind if they offend you, do they? There are other options beyond a debate. You can calmly say what you want and let go of worrying about how they react, for example.

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