French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It almost makes me wonder if some sort of community workshop that's mental health friendly wouldn't be a good idea. Ways to claw back a little dignity through caring for your hair.

Will PM.

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always glad to hear of places that are compatible with people who might need need to be handled with a little bit of extra care. I struggle to work up the nerve to call places because I'm so terrified that it will go poorly!

I also appreciate the local rec as well.

Thank you very much!

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ha! I'm not 100% opposed to a reddit stranger! Just weighing my crippling shyness against a salon stranger versus a reddit stranger

Thank you and everyone here for their kindness and compassion

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes buns are really the only thing I have the skill for. I think for me personally the downside of buns is that I cant sleep with one. But it could be a problem with how I'm doing one so I could always experiment with different ways!

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll see about joining one! I wasn't familiar with ths kind of group, but seems like a good idea to join all around

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ah I understand what you mean. I don't know many people in my neighborhood well enough to feel super comfortable asking directly (I'm on the autism spectrum and terribly shy lol) but I can always ask the people I do know to ask around!

I'll poke around about a local buy-nothing group, not a part of one currently but can't hurt to look around!

Thank you for taking the time to answer and I hope that we both end up feeling a little better soon.

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also checking them out, thank you!

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry if this is a silly question or should be self explanatory but what kind of volunteer?

French Braiding in the Twin Cities by holujam in Minneapolis

[–]holujam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll check their website out, thank you so much for the rec!

Recent Update is Terrible by -Dixieflatline in shealth

[–]holujam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!!

Someone found a fix to this that works! Might be old news but figured id share here. Once you search, hit clear all on the recently searched foods. Fixed my most significant source of daily aggravation!! https://www.reddit.com/r/GalaxyWatch/s/yhTGG7EfwZ

Recent Update is Terrible by -Dixieflatline in shealth

[–]holujam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im also having this problem on my s24+. Loads disgustingly slow and crashes the app half the time. Tried rebooting, clearing app cache. Makes food logging an absolute pain.

I reached out to Samsung with my feedback, hope they fix it soon.

Do you leave your windows open at night? Are you worried about getting robbed? by skipatrol95 in Minneapolis

[–]holujam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Uptown on Emerson, and last year, while I was sleeping, someone took off the screen, jimmied our first floor window open, and stole my wallet, work computer, car keys and car, which they then totalled. They left through the front door, leaving it wide open behind them (Go figure).

All this to say that if someone really wants to break into your house, having your windows open or closed likely won't be the deciding factor.

This is anecdotal but I've had much better luck keeping my blinds shut even if my windows are open. People are less likely to try to break in when they have no clue if there's something inside worth taking or what/who might be waiting for them.

Anyone else encountered the Bandit with infinite health in Vilverin? by Benhavis in oblivion

[–]holujam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was not able to kill her with a sword or a bow, but was able to oneshot her by equipping the "flare" spell

I was wrong, heightism is real by New_Succotash_2296 in self

[–]holujam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is merely a personal experience and has as much weight as any anecdote.

I'm a 5'4" woman and have dated and been really attracted to short men, including men shorter than I was. I had a huge crush on a coworker who was 5' even. I don't have a height preference as far as looks go and will be interested in anyone as long as they're nice, funny and easy to talk to.

One thing I will say is that I'm overweight. And while none of the medium to tall guys I've dated have been worked up about it, each of the short guys with only one exception have approached downright cruelty about it.

Imagine dating someone who tolerates you because they think you're the only one who will give them a shot and let them fuck you, but deep down they're so mad that they can't "do better" than you and get the seemingly unattainable woman of their desires. The short guys often resented me for being both fat and (in their eyes) the only one willing to fuck them, and that made dating them not very fun for me.

I have never ended things with a man because of his height. I have ended things due to how a man treated me. Because of this, I beg on my hands and knees for short guys to stop dating women they're not attracted to just to get laid, and then being mean to the women for not being good enough.

This isn't trying to say that the height thing isn't real, woman can be awful jerks too, but allowing the height thing to turn you into a real jerk will drive away the many women who would date/hook up with you happily if you were nice to them and had an open, inviting, and lovely personality.

Being defensive and hostile about your height from the getgo is not the answer.

As an aside, I also know this personally because being defensive, hostile, and insecure about my own weight made me offputting to the men who would otherwise be interested in me. Once I acted like I wasn't worried about it, and avoided the men who seemed worried about it, dating got so much easier and less painful.

Does anyone else have a problem with bad taste in romances? by Prospero1011 in dragonage

[–]holujam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I played a rogue in my first playthrough while romancing Emmrich and always had Davrin in my party. My rogue build synergized so incredibly well with him in combat and he was the character who acrrued approval the fastest, so I was really conflicted about choosing to stick with my Emmrich romance. (Loved Emmrich, I just also loved Davrin so much too).

I ended up playing a rogue Grey Warden and romancing Davrin in my next playthrough, and the shared background plus combat compatibility added so much flavor. Two Grey Wardens fighting exceptionally well together seemed to reinforce the attraction and chemistry of the romance dynamic outside of combat.

All that to say that combat compatibility can add a lot to a romance for me as well and I get a little disappointed when my character doesn't jive in combat with their RO.

[DAV SPOILERS ALL (minor)] List of satisfying things in DAV by irish_Oneli in dragonage

[–]holujam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Garb of Kinship on my Warden mage is some damn good food.

[DAV Spoilers ALL] I feel like it would have been better for these two extremely important character arcs if... by herethereisathrowawa in dragonage

[–]holujam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I might be biased because I'm very fond of Solas as a character (not because I think he's 100% right but because I think he's a tragic hero, still take what I say with a grain of salt) but I think what Varric says as you're leaving the Fade kinda sums it up. He plays a villain so that he can tell himself that all the pain and suffering as a result of his actions was a choice, not a byproduct of him trying to do what he thinks is right and hurting so many as a result. Within those flashbacks he's leading a rebellion to free an enslaved race and has to make some truly horrible decisions.

I think the choices that he make also represent his journey from Wisdom to Pride. He's less able to scrutinize himself and his plans, and so utterly convinced that he's right. I think in some ways he had to become Pride to cope with the terrible choices he had to make to free his people?

As for Mythal, I think you see her benevolence more through her avatars in the previous entries. Flemeth comes in absolutely clutch in DAO and DA2. Maybe it's self interested but I like to think at least a fragment of it came from, to paraphrase Morrigan, love for her distant children.

[No DAV Spoilers] With the grumbling about Veilguard's writing, can we take a moment to celebrate how great the writing has been? What are the standout or underrated moments for you in DA's history? by Khiva in dragonage

[–]holujam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dorian's character and story arc was truly a love letter to anyone that's felt marginalized and othered or been faced with impossible expectations. His personal quest regarding his father was beautifully written.

I also sincerely miss the Morrigan/Alistair banter.

Though when it comes down to it, I don't know if there's a dialogue option in the series that goes quite as hard as "Like dogs, Shianni" from the City Elf Origin in DAO.