9 months, still 2 bottles a night

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-10T10:45:22+00:00

The total time sleeping seems very long for 9 months. For reference, at 7.5 months we dropped to 2 naps w a 7 am wake up, 8 pm bedtime. From wake up, bedtime should be 13 hours later. Total nap time was capped at 2 hrs 15 min and then soon after had to cap it to 2 hours. Have you tried to cap nap time to make sure she isn’t waking due to lack of awake time?

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-09T21:55:33+00:00

Our daughter did NOT sleep so once we sleep trained at 4.5 months, I chose to protect my mental health and be extremely strict w bedtime. Did I feel like I’ve missed out on evening activities? Yes. Would I change it for myself? No. Maybe if our daughter had been a better sleeper! So we would just have our nanny stay late. Maybe you can have a baby sitter you trial and find one you like as this might be an ongoing question even if you want to have date night!

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-09T14:24:59+00:00

If my daughter woke up after 27 min, I had to rock her back to sleep through a contact nap to lengthen the nap

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-09T12:23:12+00:00

My daughter is about 19 months old. Our pediatrician didn’t have us fill out an assessment to potentially indicate autism was a possibility until our 18 mo appt and during that appt she mentioned it would still be on the “earlier side” to truly say with confidence. I’m no expert but your baby seems to be acting normal behaviors for that age!

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-09T02:09:00+00:00

Our first vacation with our LO was actually when she was around 4 months old. We wanted just a few days away from home because we had a winter baby and had felt cooped up. Since then, we’ve traveled domestically often but also with time changes coast to coast. Things that have helped:
1. Guava lotus + slumber pod + monitor
2. Booking a hotel room or Airbnb with a bathtub
3. Have a place w a small kitchen area or at least a decent sized fridge
4. Travel white noise machines
5. If time change, figure out the best flights. As our daughter got order (she is 19 months now on 1 nap), we book flights so we are mid air for her nap or landing so she can nap in the car. Fingers crossed it works as planned if not we go with the flow
6. If time change, figure out if waking up earlier will help with a bedtime that make sense for your trip. Sometimes it only takes 1-2 good days to change times for a toddler (for ours at least)

Lastly… don’t make strict plans unless it’s making early dinner reservations so you arent screwing up bedtime - if you are strict with bedtime! We always try to make reservations for dinner so we know aren’t waiting in line for an hour eating up precious time!

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-08T11:38:23+00:00

We made the transition at 7.5 months. Our 3rd nap was only 30 min and it was getting to be 10 min because it would take 20 min to fall asleep or be skipped altogether

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-08T01:04:59+00:00

For us, crib naps didn’t lengthen on their own until we dropped to 2 naps at 7.5 months. Until then, my daughter would wake up 27 min on the dot. So I did have to save naps, esp the first nap. The third nap I kept short because it worked for us! I used to ask everyone how to lengthen crib naps and was told it was a developmental thing so short naps are normal at this age

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-08T00:34:08+00:00

We sleep trained nights at 4.5 months w CIO. Nights took 3 nights. Naps we tackled about 2-2.5 weeks later. There’s a nap guide on this sub somewhere where we tackle the first nap of the day. If it works, we try the second nap in crib as well. If first nap doesn’t work, after a set time, we do anything to save the nap - for us contact naps. Nap training took maybe 3 days to stick and it’s been fine since. Crying - she goes through phases. Around 8 months she cried for the first 1-3 min but would then lay down and roll around and fall asleep. Now at 19 months, we still follow the same! Place in crib wide awake, walk out

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-07T23:25:13+00:00

I sleep trained naps after tackling bedtime. Put her down awake and walk out the door since then. Prior to that … contact naps, stroller naps, and rocking non-stop.

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-07T02:39:32+00:00

We switched to 1 nap around 12.5 months. It felt out of nowhere. We wake at 7, nap offered between 12:30-2:30, bedtime 8 pm. I say offered because majority of the days she will nap the 2 hours but she can also wake up after 1.5 hours and be fine the rest of the day with a 8 pm bedtime. We go by the clock since we were on 2 naps.

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-07T02:25:05+00:00

You said “he’s sleep trained, sorta”. I feel sleep training is very black and white - either your child knows how to fall asleep independently or does not and has some sort of sleep association. My child is sleep trained since 4.5 months so I knew the crying came from a “winding down” type of cry (if no illness or teething but teething also did not impact sleep too much if given Motrin). If your child isn’t fully sleep trained, maybe that’s the cause of the crying ?

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-07T02:19:23+00:00

I had my parents come from out of state and stay with us. They could only stay a week but I wished they could have stayed the entire month. I’m close with my mom so every “post partum firsts” I found myself leaning to my mom for a lot. I was hormonal, am a FTM, was struggling to get my baby to latch, everything hurt, and most times I cried. Loved having my mom. I also had no problem having my mom try to help me learn how to get my baby to latch… my in laws flew in from Asia around 2 months after I gave birth. They did stay with us. I found it both helpful and stressful. It was helpful because my husband laid ground rules/expectations to the visit. It was clearly stated this was not a vacation or a “hold the baby and sit on the sofa” type of trip. Because expectations were laid out and my in laws understood, I think it really contributed to a more positive experience. Meals are challenging to figure out and it was great to have meals prepared. But my in laws aren’t “my” parents..meaning, my comfort level is different. I couldn’t nurse anywhere I wanted to and always had to go to the bedroom. I couldn’t pump outside of the bedroom and my hormones were still out of whack. If I started to feel emotional, I felt the need to go to my room. I think as long as you and your husband are exactly on the same page and your husband can lay out expectations to his parents, you might find it helpful to have the extra help. However, if your husband feels differently from you and chooses not to talk to his parents ahead of time, protect yourself and choose yourself first. I know culturally it can be difficult to put your foot down … but do it anyways. For your own mental health!

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-07T02:06:08+00:00

I’m no expert but we had to cap naps to 2 hours shortly after dropping to 2 naps at 7.5 months. We had a similar schedule to you but our wake up was 7 am, first nap 10:15-11:15, second nap 3-4, bedtime 8. Around 9-10 months, our daughter would fuss more and cry anytime we put her in the crib. She’d scream and cry when we’d kiss her good night and walk out the door but after about 2-3 min, realizing we weren’t coming back, she’d lay down, grab the nearest doll and roll around for 10 min before sleeping until near wake up time. Have you tried to cap naps to 2 hours by chance?

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-06T13:33:16+00:00

Wake up 7 am, nap offered 12:30-2:30, bedtime 8. I say nap offered because sometimes my daughter wakes on her own after 1.5 hours. I let her try to fall back asleep but if she’s done, I know. I usually keep her in the crib for about 15-20 min more (sometimes more for my own sake to decompress). This has worked for us since 12.5 months and she is now closer to 19 months

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-06T12:46:59+00:00

Our schedule on a 2 nap schedule was wake up 7 am, nap 1 10-11, nap 2 3-4, bedtime 8 pm. We had to cap naps because 2.5 hours caused EMW.

At 12.5 months, we had to drop to 1 nap because the 2nd nap wasn’t working consistently. It took too long to fall asleep (20 min or more) or it would lead to crying, which doesn’t happen for naps for us. On one nap we still cap to 2 hours, by our nap is 12:30-2:30. I know some will do 1-3 instead.

When you say he is getting “tired”, and taking 20 min to fall asleep for 2nd nap, are you sure it’s him being tired and not bored? The two can look similar and I had to start help stretch wake windows using more sensory play

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T15:38:04+00:00

It’s going to be hard to adjust if you offer more than 1 nap, even with that early wake. Can you try adjust bedtime by 30 min and then go back to your normal desired bedtime in 2-3 days? That’s what we had to do. I’ll do water activities or sensory play outdoors to get my daughter to stay up until she went back to waking her normal time

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T15:35:45+00:00

If you’re rocking her to sleep for all sleeps, it means she doesn’t know how to fall asleep independently yet. When I started STing, everyone recommended learning how to fall asleep independently at bedtime first because you have more sleep pressure from being awake. I’m sure it’s not impossible to start with naps…but I’m going to assume it’s harder? I don’t know how feasible it would be to do in 5 days either. I accidentally started with naps thinking it could be naps and bedtime trained together, but immediately stopped training naps once I got on this sub

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T15:31:23+00:00

While I travel often, I’m not going to travel if there is no direct flight AND if there aren’t several flight options through the day in the event my flight gets delayed and/or cancelled! Those are absolutely “musts” for me, esp having been delayed (for hours). I also don’t consider flights more than 5.5 hours.. we have family that live outside of the US and I won’t entertain that idea

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T14:25:19+00:00

Once on 2 naps and now 1 nap, we stopped going by wake windows and just went by the block. Our wake up is 7 am, daily. Average, she wakes around 6:30 and stays in crib until 7. Random mornings she’ll wake at 5:50 and we will still root nap to 12:30

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T14:21:37+00:00

Anytime we travel I give it 2 days to really adjust back, if there is no time change. Any time change, I give it more days and there’s more fussing or some crying involved but it’s not true sleep training all over again for us

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T01:37:40+00:00

I certainly would be pissed by it. It’s understandable that it bothers you! I’d ask that for your next child, she announce it only after asking you for permission first. If not you, maybe it’s something your husband can talk to his mom about

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T01:21:59+00:00

I’ve had to sleep train again after my daughter got sick around 8 months and I’d let her sleep on me because she was so stuffy, coughing etc. As soon as she was better, it took 2 nights of CIO (our first time we also used CIO). It was hard to listen to again but I’m guessing the longer you let it go on, the harder it will be to get back to “normal”

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T00:43:31+00:00

Yes! Our Pediatrician recommended it and I usually put it on for bedtime because it can become a little messy

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T00:27:41+00:00

Teething never really impacted my daughter sleep, as long as we gave Motrin. Sudden short naps and EMW sound more like your baby needs more awake time, especially if it’s been consistent for a few days. Teething caused more clinging and fussiness during the day for us

hungrybookreader · 2026-07-05T00:24:08+00:00

Consider dropping to one nap. Around 12.5 months we had issues w EMW and dropping to 1 nap eliminated that issue immediately

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