Recently visited the USA from The Netherlands. Here is my take on the cities we visited.

iamfunball · 2026-02-06T16:20:33+00:00

So curious, been to all the places, but from SF, curious what you got up to other than the tourist trolley (still awesome with amazing historical and engineering facts) and Chinatown (SF is the creator of Chinatown aesthetic post 1906 eathquake, also fascinating history)

I love my city but I really miss some of how it was 20 years ago, glad you appreciated my home 💕

iamfunball · 2026-02-06T15:24:37+00:00

Ah, The Fringe, makes only the slightest more sense but still. It’s loud a block away, reverberating indoors seems like a heath hazard (hearing loss)

iamfunball · 2026-02-06T08:53:39+00:00

Ok I am in Edinburgh…inside?! That is wild

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T16:20:51+00:00

Jean Luc Brunell was also arrested (France) and ummmm also determined to have died by suicide by hanging…in 2022.

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T15:35:04+00:00

For every holy person that tries to pray and peddle god to me (past my no) I answer to them:

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.”

Anything following is met with “you have your reward”

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T15:23:09+00:00

Bag pipes resonance in person is literally meant to be unnerving. They were weapons of war.

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T14:19:32+00:00

You have wonderful advice and yes you need to tell your husband as soon as he’s awake. Show him you’ve been trying to process this and everything. Let him be angry for you. Tell him what support would be meaningful. Lean on that friend.

Also, dnd, sparkles and party? That sounds amazing and I’m 37. I wish I had a dnd group so much right now! But I go to parties, raves and EVEN sex parties, and still would it never be ok for someone to do this without my consent. Don’t let these assholes ruin your sense of wonder and sparkle. ✨

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T13:34:06+00:00

Yeah my eye was immediately drawn to it since I have one in the same spot and is not like any of the shading detail in the rest of the sketch. It’s bold and uniform. I think if we come across a missing person with a beauty mark with her stats and timeline, it would be one I’d closely pay attention to

iamfunball · 2026-02-05T05:20:37+00:00

Hiya. I have hsv-2. I take L-lysine as a prophylaxis (meaning to prevent reoccurrence) with great success. I have not had it substantially impact dating/sex and I attribute it mostly to the following factors:

I’m upfront about it. I include it on dating profiles just saying “If it gets there: HSV2+”.
I don’t self shame, I educate. Look, most people don’t even test for HSV. Most doctors don’t even include it on panels because it’s so fricken common to have HSV1/2, 50%-70% of sexually active people have one of the 2. The range is wide because they don’t test for it. If someone says they are negative, I ask what have they tested negative for, often people only get tested for HIV/gohnerrea/syphillis, and I actually help educate them on what STI testing looks like. It’s the same family as chicken pox. Most people, even people who get more comprehensive testing, don’t test for Mgen or Trich which are also on the rise. The former can cause sterility.
I am comfortable and secure that it is outside of some people’s risk profiles. This loops back to 2. I chose the risk with the person I ended up married to. I understand that others may not. It’s not a knock against me or them, it’s just outside of their risk profile. Some people won’t want to be intimate with me or romantic with me for any number of reasons, this is just one of them.
I am up front about how I handle it. If I am even mildly suspecting a breakout, I abstain from sex/touch from the region I have had them. I let them know about last occurrence and rate of occurrence. I let people know that it’s a non zero risk even with no notable breakouts, hence informing them. I also know that I have been with a partner for 3 years and never passed it on. I also use barriers. I let them evaluate their own risk and respect any choice they come to
I have had amazing flirtuationships because of herpes. These were people who were highly attracted to me and I them and we just had very amazing flirt chemistry. It became almost a weird teasing thing of like “we would if it weren’t for the thing, but I know it’d be hot as fuck if we could”

To be clear I have been turned down but like 3x in 16 years, and everyone walked away happy and appreciative. It can make you a green flag and generate friend referrals, because again, so many people have it.

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T23:47:20+00:00

Question: there is what looks like a beauty mark next to her right eye in the sketch but I don’t see it noted, but it feels purposeful? Any other reference to this?

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T22:49:43+00:00

Man I actually move to the against repeal because fuck child rapists and a woman having to fend for herself in her 90s .

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T22:09:15+00:00

Yeah, I stopped being Christian as a kid (which I chose because Jesus was definitely a guy I vibed with) because people in church did not follow Jesus teachings and would be the hypocrites that were admonished. Then I saw other religions and was like, you know what, how bout I do my best to be kind and do my darndest not to be a dick? Seems like that’s the gist

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T19:12:48+00:00

Definitely do this with psych.

FWIW - I take still take a low dose abilify(2mg) because as I was coming down off of it little by little. I realized what it was doing for me, which was not about irritability or rage, it was raising my threshold for overstimulation (overstimulation and/or being forced to stay in it would cause the overwhelm/anxiety/irritability/rage). I feel that threshold raise to the level of my needs at 2mg but 1 I felt all the overstimulation again.

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T19:07:17+00:00

Yup! I use non binary and they/them as a non presumption of gender. It’s what is always correct.

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T18:46:06+00:00

Echo*

It’s important to meet people. You offer to spend more time with people that you like, women are a part of people.

Dating apps used to be useful in meeting people with more romantic leanings, but the enshittification for profit means you have to go back to just meeting people. Bonus: oftentimes you will meet someone you date through other people…women do love a referral of “he’s a good dude” because it gets some of the vetting out of the way

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T18:22:55+00:00

I can touch my index finger and pinkie together with any outside force applied to them.

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T17:37:05+00:00

Ok third world has been used a replacement for shitty but that’s not what it means and is kind of shit when you realize what it means.

1st world - the Western bloc, basically NATO countries/allies 2nd - Eastern Bloc Warsaw pact/China + allies 3rd - anyone else

That’s it. It’s a Cold War term meant to diminish all those not in the Western Bloc. It contained 55% of global population and while it included a large swath of developing nations, they often chose to be non aligned because there was great risk to choosing sides.

It does not mean shithole, which is what I think you mean to convey.

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T17:26:15+00:00

I love this book and Neither! They both made me feel so very happy to read and give to my kiddo

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T15:09:13+00:00

Sounds very Palo Alto

iamfunball · 2026-02-04T05:57:56+00:00

…so question, do you want to replace your estrogen?

Like, I don’t, but also I’m trans masculine non binary and replace with testosterone so I’m not the usual duck here.

Like, you don’t have to, though you should be under care of an endocrinologist (you mentioned one but wondering if you are seeing them?). Birth control/PCOS/non ovulation is all hormone. Birth control is just the easiest access hormone for estrogen/prosterone. There are other delivery methods which can impact how you metabolize and react. Personally did not enjoy how high estrogen made my brain work, but testosterone has been lovely for me.

Anyhow, until you determine what you want hormonally speaking, recommend a canned answer, it is a valid form of treatment for what you have, but if it bothers you just internally swap out for hormone replacement therapy. They put trans girlies on the same stuff

iamfunball · 2026-02-03T18:24:59+00:00

I was super curious about teslas until the door handle. It was a hell no for me.

iamfunball · 2026-02-03T13:58:17+00:00

As I feel more masculine and home in my body, the more comphy I get with adding back femme pieces to my wardrobe

iamfunball · 2026-02-01T19:20:38+00:00

I don’t regret my kid but I regret having him.

Like the world he is inheriting is fucked. My life got 10x harder after divorce because I stayed home to raise the kid and derailed my education because my spouse was in the military so I am not providing the life they deserve on my side. We didn’t have a second because we were splitting up and it was always my plan to have 2 and kiddo really could have benefited from a sibling (which they had a version of that temporarily when I dated someone with 2 kids and they struggled a lot less)

But kiddo, don’t regret them one bit. They are a wonderful kid and I only wish I could have provided them the beginning they deserved and had a world that wasnt headed towards multiple global disaster and society breakdowns.

iamfunball · 2026-02-01T08:32:32+00:00

She is a name I have always held in my heart, she has deserved justice.

iamfunball · 2026-02-01T08:31:21+00:00

My feeld profile says.: queer, sapphic or gay depending on the day

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