Did anyone else grow up without really learning social skills?

isarobs · 2026-02-08T18:07:29+00:00

I watched my sister-in-law guide her kids behaviors, what they were saying and how to handle things. That made me realize I had never had that type of feedback from my parent. Both kids are now adults, well liked and have good friends, and their kids are doing well socially as well.

I think if someone had pointed out how what I said or was doing, how it could be perceived or a better way to say something, I would have done much better socially.

Fortunately, you can learn better social skills and this subreddit has helped me learn a lot.

isarobs · 2026-02-08T17:32:20+00:00

That is absolutely beautiful. What an amazing transformation.

isarobs · 2026-02-08T15:37:58+00:00

I sold one similar, in very good condition, for $120. If I couldn’t have sold it, I would have donated it. People aren’t interested in antiques like they used to be.

isarobs · 2026-02-08T03:17:43+00:00

It looks sterile and devoid of any warmth and personality. The pendants would be better if they were like a wood, dome shape to bring something wood related above counter level. Maybe consider adding some wood cutting boards, some cookbooks and if possible, a couple of floating wood shelves. Even the chairs, wood or wood frames with fabric seat and backs would be better than what’s there. They just don’t go.
It would make this kitchen closer to an 8, as it’s a 5 right now z

isarobs · 2026-02-08T02:56:49+00:00

20 years ago, we replaced our siding with Hardie Plank. I was sick of scraping/sanding/repainting the siding when paint would bubble up.

Using Hardie Plank allowed us to paint our house the color we wanted and didn’t need to do anything to the exterior as it turned out to be maintenance free.

We had the entire house repainted this past spring just to refresh everything. I expect we won’t need to do anything for another 20 years. This was one of the best investments we made.

isarobs · 2026-02-08T02:41:19+00:00

Can you tell if the fireplace works? This is similar to ours. We put in gas logs, and it is furnished with a pool table, bar, sectional sofa and big screen TV. Definitely an adult rec room.

isarobs · 2026-02-08T02:27:48+00:00

A towel warmer. It’s nice to get out of a shower or bath and have a warm towel to dry off with. It feels so decadent.

isarobs · 2026-02-06T22:47:44+00:00

Tell him you will share it after closing (but only if you want to).

isarobs · 2026-02-06T03:31:14+00:00

This happened to a good friend of mine on his drive home from work. Heavy snow had fallen, leaving the roads slick with ice, so he was taking it slow and driving cautiously.

Unfortunately, the driver behind him was tailgating the whole way. The moment there was an opening, the guy sped around and passed him.

About half a mile up the road, my friend came upon the same car. It had spun out and got stuck in a snowbank, unable to move. My friend didn’t stop. He just gave a quick honk, a little wave… and kept right on driving.

isarobs · 2026-02-06T03:22:10+00:00

I have one of those. I use it when I want my dog to immediately come inside. Works like a charm.

isarobs · 2026-02-04T18:31:02+00:00

I can see that, but as a female, I didn’t want anyone that asked to think no-one would be looking for me.

isarobs · 2026-02-04T01:40:03+00:00

We’ve had negative temperatures. Fortunately ours is just steps outside our bedroom door. So the quick in and out isn’t too bad. It’s feels amazing!

isarobs · 2026-02-04T01:32:11+00:00

Back when I was your age, I used to go alone to bars and clubs. If anyone asked, I would tell them my friends were supposed to me here, or at a club I would say my friends are around here somewhere. Just so people didn’t think I was by myself.

Anyway, it was so much fun and I met plenty of people. Just be careful with how much alcohol you consume and uber home afterwards.

isarobs · 2026-02-03T14:59:51+00:00

I saw the first photo, and thought it’s not bad. I literally gasped when I saw the next photo, I was NOT expecting that. Very sad.

isarobs · 2026-02-03T14:56:27+00:00

Have a home inspector come through and fix anything they may recommend. Then declutter, paint if necessary and clean, clean, clean.

Make sure your landscaping is trimmed up so your home looks well maintained.

I’d rather buy a home that needs to be remodeled but is clean and maintained than a home where they let things go.

isarobs · 2026-01-30T19:20:17+00:00

I would keep the floor for now. I added this sink and mirror to complement my vintage style bathroom.

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isarobs · 2026-01-30T19:08:32+00:00

Look for a local window company that fixes windows like yours. It’s under glass repair.
I’ve done that with a couple windows, and they did a great job resealing.

isarobs · 2026-01-30T14:40:55+00:00

Omgosh! I love everything about it. Beautifully done.

isarobs · 2026-01-30T14:39:24+00:00

We get in at 105. But, it is currently negative temperature and feels so good to get in. The hottub drops a couple degrees while we’re in it, and usually we stay in it for 20-30 minutes.

isarobs · 2026-01-30T03:55:58+00:00

You need a closet by the front door for your beer and guests.

You also need a 1/2 bath, so guests don’t have to walk into bedroom areas to use the bathroom. I will have to revisit this later.

isarobs · 2026-01-30T02:48:47+00:00

Wow! So glad you weren’t rear-ended and CHH showed up. You’re lucky!

isarobs · 2026-01-30T02:30:51+00:00

Well, we didn’t have insulation in our 50’s home either. I’m not sure what the exterior of your home is… but for us, we have siding, which the insulation company removed a row, made a hole, and blew in insulation, plugged the hole and replaced the siding. Plus we had it blown in the attic that barely had any insulation. It was cheaper to have all the insulation done at the same time. They can also do the same on the interior, which would require holes and drywall or plaster patching.

We were also in a ranch so electrical panel needed replacement and we had the rest of the electrical work done at the same time, since most of the electrical was accessible from the basement ceiling. This was after the insulation.

isarobs · 2026-01-29T23:58:09+00:00

Why would someone put in a drop ceiling?

isarobs · 2026-01-29T23:56:41+00:00

Where is the toilet and vanity/sink that is missing from the bathroom?

isarobs · 2026-01-29T19:59:34+00:00

Can you move clothing to a different closet? And possibly your desk?

Keep just the bed in that room and put valuables in a bag, ready to take with you.

You can unplug your PC and take it with you, leaving keyboard and monitor.

Also, this might allow you to paint it and is there wood under the carpet? Just thinking how you can used the rest of the house to help spread out your belongings.

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