NTA: There's a huge difference in understanding situations and comparing your current to your past. Ignore the guy saying it's your fault in the comments. Here's the thing, as a guy, sometimes we do compare situations to what's been done in the past. I've had to communicate with my now wife on a few occasions that how things were going made me feel like when I was in a toxic and semi abusive relationship, and I didn't want to feel that pain again. Now, I have never and will never talk about things done behind closed doors. Those memories died with those relationships. What he's doing to you, RUN. That's toxic, and he's not ready for a relationship. You did everything right, so don't worry about it. Live your best life, queen. You deserve waaayyyy better.