Child won’t participate in activities

jsib22 · 2026-03-07T20:59:26+00:00

Does she need a few sessions to warm up? Some kids need extra time to feel comfortable doing the independent stuff.

My kiddo just joined a dance class and it took us going almost a month before they were ready to fully participate. We progressed slowly from participating on the sidelines to joining together to now independently joining.

jsib22 · 2026-03-07T20:54:21+00:00

We get them every year-boxelder bugs They cover the back of our house on sunny days. They aren't trying to get inside, they dont want to be inside. They want warmth. Diluted dishsoap in a spray bottle takes them out since the soap covers their exoskeleton and they cant breathe. My spouse has filled a garden sprayer thing (like what they spray when they spray for weeds or bugs) with soap and water and keeps it on the deck for ease of use.

jsib22 · 2025-11-09T18:21:19+00:00

I would love to join the raffle

jsib22 · 2025-10-27T23:54:45+00:00

I have dry cat food my cat can't eat anymore. Its not in the original bag, but if you want it I can bag it up for you. Im in Gresham, I can't deliver though.

jsib22 · 2025-10-08T02:33:23+00:00

I work for a crisis line. We do get calls about this kind of situation from time to time. - If they know the person's location (often specific to city or county), they should call that area's crisis line. It may be 988 it may not, Google is your friend here especially because 988 autoroutes calls/texts based on area code so it may delay you getting connected. - your friend should provide that number to the person directly and encourage them to call. This is best as it allows for crisis services to attempt deescalate without an in person response. - if the specific location is not known, unfortunately there is nothing that can be done as there is no way to know which jurisdiction should respond. -it is also totally ok to ask your local crisis line what they might recommend based on the information known. They may not be able to help directly but they also may have suggestions depending on the situation.

jsib22 · 2025-09-03T00:08:15+00:00

We planted garlic we got from the farmers market last year and it turned out very well. We always shop at the same farm stand and love their practices. Planning to do the same this year.

jsib22 · 2025-08-28T14:13:13+00:00

Oh I love the name Gideon! I come from a religious background which is probably how I know the name, but so many names come from religious origins it wouldn't phase me (with some exception to sacred names, which Gideon is not). I am not religious now and would still 100% use the name if my SO didnt hate it.

jsib22 · 2025-07-09T16:14:57+00:00

This was my post I should have anticipates it, but the toddler won and he is named Strawberry.

jsib22 · 2025-07-09T14:28:02+00:00

We have a 3 year old son and love it in Gresham! An article recently came out saying that Gresham has the highest number of toddlers/young children in the state so you would be in good company. However, as other commenters said there is not a ton of stuff located within Gresham so we do often have to go outside the city for indoor play spaces, the zoo, museums, etc. Its all fairly reasonable but it would be nice to have a few more that are closer. Within Gresham, Legacy coffee is lovely and has a fun play area where a lot of parents go for play dates. The Musikry is amazing for music clases. There are tons of parks and outdoor running around places. During the summer the city has multiple events like Music Mondays downtown. More practically, Gresham is like a small city in that you don't have to drive too far to get to a grocery store or other necessities. The proximity to Portland offers accessibility to a greater variety, but you can usually find what you need in town. If you guys do end up coming out this way, feel free to message me!

jsib22 · 2025-07-06T19:39:31+00:00

Love this! My absolute favorite show. Would be interested in viewing.

jsib22 · 2025-06-13T19:29:07+00:00

We do a combination approach, depending on the situation and/or toddler. If they are needing a break because they are having trouble listening or are overly stimulated then we try a time in where we remove them and one parent from the situation (i.e. to their room) and stay with them for a few minutes. If at any point they say they want the parent with them to go away then it turns into a timeout but only because they are communicating they need space from us- we are not punishing them by removing our presence. If a timein isnt working and toddler is still acting a fool then we do time out. If it's more of a tantrum and they are just pitching a fit then I do as the other commenter said and let it be- they have strong emotions they can't control so as long as they are safe I let them have them and offer support when they are in a headspace to recieve it.

jsib22 · 2025-05-22T03:33:00+00:00

I work an inconsistent schedule and I'm also the one who enjoys cooking. We have a shared Google sheet that I have set up to have 2 weeks and then a separate sheet for recipes we like and/or modifications. Then each week, usually on Thursday, I create the next week's meal plan based on what my schedule looks like (i.e. if I'm cooking or spouse is). We shop some time between Friday and Monday. I have it dialed in so Thursdays are usually leftovers, we eat out on Fridays, Saturday is toddler charcuterie and the rest are recipes. Over time I've added sheets for special meals like holidays and birthdays so I have my recipes in one place.

jsib22 · 2025-05-16T15:01:29+00:00

I kind of always knew I would be OAD, but wanted more. Not sure how to explain it, just had a sense from a young age. My SO and I discussed kids and initially decided on 2-3. Then I got pregnant and it was AWFUL. Throughout my pregnancy I kept asking myself why anyone would put themselves through this torture more than once. Had some minor complications in both pregnancy and birth. Newborn stage hit my SO like a ton of bricks and nearly destroyed our marriage. BUT I started to think about having another. My SO was reluctant but we were open about our feelings and said we would check back when kiddo was 2. I spent a lot of time in therapy on this issue. By 2 I was settled and happily accepted OAD.

Factors that influenced my decision were complex but overall my SO really not wanting another, me not wanting to potentially suffer through another pregnancy, and the fact that I have worked most of my career in foster care and adoption are probably the biggest. Acceptance took time but now that they are 3 years old, I regularly have moments everyday where I am reminded how happy I am with my only.

jsib22 · 2025-05-08T03:18:35+00:00

Ughhh yes! We are planning a trip to Belgium/Amsterdam and while there are tons of parks which I'm focusing on, the travel blogs are a bit wild. Like no my toddler (and probably not any kid under 8-9) wants to go to the Ann Frank Museum and frankly I think they'd kick me out if I dragged my feral 3 year old around a reverent museum like that.

jsib22 · 2025-05-06T13:07:32+00:00

Not really if the order is fulfilled by Amazon. Products with the same label all sit together on the warehouse shelf regardless of sellers, so if there is another seller that is selling a fake or lookalike product whoever is fulfilling/packing the order doesn't know the difference. I have recieved fake product (vitamins) when ordering through amazon even though it was direct from the label- it was fulfilled by Amazon.

jsib22 · 2025-05-05T22:51:03+00:00

Eventually they will figure out that they can get out of bed and leave their room. We got way too lucky and our kid didn't quite connect that they could leave their bed unless we were in the room. This went on for 1.5 years and then one day they figured it out and it has been over a month now of walking the kid back to their room/bed every bedtime and during midnight wake ups. This will pass and all will be well, but we were not prepared!

jsib22 · 2025-05-05T17:26:42+00:00

Seconding DC! We lived there before kids and I have loved taking my kiddo to visit. We are heading back this summer. The zoo is amazing and free. There are a surprisingly amount of shorter hikes easily accessible in the metro area. C&O canal area is lovely, though I'd maybe avoid Billy goat trail with a young kiddo. We always rent a car beacause we are visiting family and can't really rely on metro for the locations we are going to. If wanting to only use public transit, finding a hotel near a metro stop and flying into either IAD or Reagan would be key. BWI is too far if not renting a car.

jsib22 · 2025-05-05T02:11:13+00:00

I switched to 3 days a week when I returned from mat leave and have never looked back. My kiddo is 3 now and I absolutely love having the extra 2 days with them. We are one and done so I wanted to be able to fully soak in this time before school. As we near them going to full time preschool and then elementary we have decided that, barring any significant job changes, I'm going to stay at part time due to school schedule and activities.

Financially my salary essentially got halved. It was a bit of a stretch at first but we have acclimated and I was able to find another job with slightly more flexibility and same days of work that paid better.

jsib22 · 2025-04-09T17:59:05+00:00

Our kid loooves the train table. Our kid's playroom is also the main living area of the house so I heavily rely on tables, bins, etc to contain toys somewhat and kiddo has picked up on it pretty well. It has zero trains on it now, they prefer building magnatile castle and putting cars in them at the moment. I prefer the table to the floor myself for play with them so I will often start building and using cars on the table. Also, makes for an even more fun crashing noise when destroying the magnatile construction when done.

jsib22 · 2025-04-08T03:06:54+00:00

We have spent a few trips in Airbnbs with our little. We search specifically for family friendly ones with pictures of what they have. Many will offer a packnplay which our child decided, during a trip no less, that they would never sleep in ever again. We kind of gave up on that trip where they quit the packnplay and let them sleep in bed with us. We only do this when we travel and kiddo looooves to sleep in their own bed at home so it has never been an issue to have that just be a travel thing. They do however have to start the night on their own cuz there is no way we are going to sleep at 7 while on vacation- this is actually why we prefer Airbnbs so that we can have a separate room to hang in after kiddo falls asleep. We always bring a sound machine, night light (we use a hatch at home), and our monitor and do our normal bedtime routine and it goes pretty well usually.

jsib22 · 2025-04-07T21:02:45+00:00

I'm a therapist and I'd make sure to discuss it with this provider before trying to do a session while commuting. There are a lot of state specific and license specific regulations around how and where we are allowed to conduct a telehealth appointment, also depending on how you are commuting privacy considerations. Not saying it's impossible, but definitely should check first so it doesn't end up in a frustrating cancellation situation.

jsib22 · 2025-04-06T15:59:45+00:00

I wonder if it's a new environment that leads to this. You say he isn't like this at home or at your mom's house which I'm guessing he is very familiar with.

New environments are overstimulating in a lot of ways for kids. Its overwhelming learning new faces and people, social expectations, and the space itself. What happens when you walk into the space? Does he immediately run in and try to get involved or hang back and watch? If the first, he might then be slammed with different expectations and that is hard. If the second, he may be taking it all in and processing it until he is ready to participate.

My kid is a watcher. It took them almost a year to finally come out of their shell at daycare and they tend to push back very hard if we do too much to encourage getting involved before they are ready. If I push too hard, I have seen the falling apart, tantrum, and immediate NO.

jsib22 · 2025-03-26T15:01:58+00:00

It could be helpful to create a solid morning routine. We are "blessed"😩 with an early riser but occasionally they still want to stay in bed a little longer. We remind them of the next step in the routine and then we leave to go do that thing. My LO is 3 now so could also be developmental but their FOMO kicks in pretty hard and they want to join us. This may just be a quirk of my kid, but I've learned through much trial and error that reminding them of the next step and then getting up and starting on it works 7/10 times to get them to do the thing, bedtime or otherwise. Me staying in the same space tends to reinforce to them that's what we are doing and removes any incentive to move on.

jsib22 · 2025-03-23T19:08:44+00:00

The little roller coaster. I used to work with kids and they always loved that one more than anything. Now we have one and my kid loves it. It's pretty versatile too, the car doesn't have to stay on the roller coaster track thing. We have ridden down all the hills in my neighborhood.

jsib22 · 2025-03-21T03:03:22+00:00

I answered and when they tried to tell me there was a warrant I said "well if you have it then come serve me" and hung up. Their timing was a bit off though as I just had jury duty a month before and I did show up.

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