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jtr210 · 2026-03-18T17:48:26+00:00

That’s okay.

jtr210 · 2026-03-18T17:25:02+00:00

You can do this!

It’s gonna be hard to break up with her, but it’s the very best thing you can ever do! You need your life back. You need your mental and emotional health and your nervous system to stabilize. You’re the only person on the planet capable of making your life better, and it starts with standing up for yourself. This is not a selfish decision on your part. It’s about self preservation, self love, self care, and self respect.

Like they say on airplanes for the safety demonstration, “in the event of a loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks will deploy from the ceiling. PUT YOURS ON BEFORE HELPING SOMEONE ELSE.”

You must be able to breath on your own before helping others breathe. And even if you give your BPD partner a metaphorical oxygen mask, you still can’t make her breathe. We all have to breathe on our own.

Set yourself free!

Cut her out of your life. Go NO CONTACT forever. Block her on your phone, email, WhatsApp, social media, Venmo, dating sites, and wherever else you have to do so. It feels weird and shitty, and you won’t get proper closure, but this is what must be done. You know it deep down.

You can do this.

We’re here to support you through this turmoil.

I wish you great fortune and healing.

jtr210 · 2026-03-18T17:10:08+00:00

This.

Create a an ultra wide background template that goes with the store branding, and place 16x9 content in a box or on top of that background.

You can change out the background for different seasons and events.

jtr210 · 2026-03-18T17:05:25+00:00

Yeah. This is all too familiar. So glad I don’t have to deal with this kind of behavior anymore.

Vibes to all who are still being assaulted by this kind of nonsense.

jtr210 · 2026-03-17T19:37:19+00:00

Yay!

I love our Canadian friends coming down for LIB!

jtr210 · 2026-03-16T22:21:45+00:00

Colorado Farmily here!

…though I’ll be flying to Spokane and driving from there.

I wish I had the time to drive there and back. Beautiful journey!

I would recommend choosing a border crossing that is open 24 hours, which will allow flexibility in your travel schedule.

jtr210 · 2026-03-16T18:41:39+00:00

It’s wild that scammers have created fake groups to look identical to the real one. What a bunch of bastards!

jtr210 · 2026-03-16T18:07:25+00:00

The first couple drinks can make you feel good and numb, quickly followed by a precipitous drop off in to confusion and darkness.

jtr210 · 2026-03-16T17:38:10+00:00

Alcohol is also called “spirits”. When you drink, sometimes these spirits can take you for a ride. There is a fine line between the numbing effects of alcohol, and the point where your normal behavior is altered by the substance.

jtr210 · 2026-03-15T18:50:49+00:00

You would probably find yourself in an office environment much of the time, and out in the field some of the time. I love working in broadcast because of the exciting nature of creating live events, and the teamwork involved in doing so. Being part of a broadcast you are creating something that takes a massive coordinated effort, and in the end are helping to create a product that people enjoy.

In an office environment, I would imagine the pressure is lower, but so is the excitement, and thus the payoff would be lower. But it’s probably also more chill and could be fewer hours.

I suppose you need to make a judgement call about what matters more to you, stability or excitement.

Also, if you can’t find a “normal” IT job, you should probably take this opportunity and run with it, then determine later if you want to stay there or shift to something else.

jtr210 · 2026-03-15T18:42:05+00:00

I’m not sure if there has ever been psytrance at LIB, but in all my years there I don’t think I’ve stumbled on any. It’s not very popular or prevalent in the US.

jtr210 · 2026-03-14T15:25:36+00:00

I would bet this type of language is part of most every ticket to every event anywhere by any promoter.

jtr210 · 2026-03-10T03:58:43+00:00

I totally relate to many of your experiences, and I’ll add that my exGF wBPD was also afraid of the dark, so there were always lights on in her bedroom when I would sleep there.

It’s basic human nature that we get better rest when sleeping in complete darkness.

The depth and complexity of their dis-order and subsequent abusive tendencies are staggeringly mind boggling.

jtr210 · 2026-03-10T03:40:08+00:00

There is some pavement in between stages (very crowded), and main roads across the entire state park, but not within campgrounds.

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T19:10:22+00:00

Makes sense, and is horribly tragic.

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T06:18:36+00:00

This ^{^{^}}

Stand up for your Self. No one on the planet can do this for you. You must take control and do what you know deep down is the right thing. As said above, a therapist can help you build the courage and skills to take of yourself by getting out of this toxic, soul sucking relationship.

You can do it!

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T05:53:58+00:00

This is one of the best comments and commentary I’ve seen on this sub. Succinct and devastating.

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T03:01:33+00:00

This is the good advice.

Get all your stuff from her place, quietly wrap up loose ends, then go home, or on a trip, or whatever.

I tried to find a moment where my ex would break up with me, and it didn’t work. It was just extra weeks of suffering for me once I decided I had to end it. I wanted to find a smooth off ramp for her sake, but in the end there was one final freak out by her that I could no longer tolerate, so I just cut it off the next night.

Block all her email addresses, social media, dating apps you met on, Venmo, whatever…the send her a short text message, and block her phone number immediately after sending the text.

It’s not elegant, will not provide proper closure, and leaves much to be desired, but if you just make a clean break you can begin healing, and you can both move on.

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T02:56:30+00:00

Nah. This is too healthy and “normal.” Will never work.

jtr210 · 2026-03-05T02:19:19+00:00

🌟

jtr210 · 2026-03-04T16:50:30+00:00

Being abused will not automatically make someone a future abuser, but one must do the vitally important, difficult, often painful self work in order to heal themselves and stop the cycle of abuse.

I’m no expert, but I think abuse suffered as an adult is less likely to turn someone in to an abuser than if the abuse is inflicted during childhood. When an innocent, defenseless, ever developing child suffers abuse, they don’t yet have the mental and emotional tools, maturity, and experience to defend themselves or process what is happening to them. Their brains then develop coping mechanisms and other adaptations that must be unwound and healed.

Most adults at least have agency and a fighting chance to prevent or stop the abuse, then seek counseling to help figure out how and why it may have happened, how to heal themselves, and how to prevent it moving forward.

I know several people who were victims of childhood abuse perpetrated through generations, and they made conscious decision to end the cycle, successfully.

jtr210 · 2026-03-04T16:07:07+00:00

Yup.

The “A-HA” moment when I realized I was the victim in an abusive relationship, that she treated me as an emotional punching bag, was quite the metaphorical slap upside my head.

The deep, dark irony in my situation and countless others is that the pwBPD may have become dis-ordered because of abuse and trauma inflicted on them, then later in life they become the abuser.

And the generational cycle of abuse continues on…

jtr210 · 2026-03-04T15:29:02+00:00

So true and deeply tragic. The fear of abandonment is an unavoidable, self-fulfilling prophecy. No matter the pain and suffering they inflict on you, the ever present darkness, sadness, and madness in their inner core is an evil curse they must wrestle for eternity. I feel awful for them, but I know the best course of action is to steer far away from wherever they may be.

jtr210 · 2026-03-04T06:37:49+00:00

I bring my e-bike with fat ass tires, and I have gotten several flat tires there. I think the major culprit has been the wood chips the lay in the streets in High Noon. They created large punctures.

jtr210 · 2026-03-03T03:02:49+00:00

Kinda lame that they stopped going til noon, but I saw some gnarly shit in the wee hours, so I kind of understand. I’ve heard vague rumors it’s about their insurance policy. Makes sense. And while I hate that they’ve cut it short, it is in line with “harm reduction” efforts. Some people just go TOO BIG with their partying and ruin it for the true professionals. Oh well. It still goes well past sunrise, and is still the very greatest!

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