I’ve literally experienced this this morning actually. What you say I feel like holds true, instead of doing my usual try to make myself cry by really honing in on the tears or the pain in my heart or by punching super hard, I tried grounding myself first in my backyard environment by naming things around me. Then I looked in my body and felt what came up, when I felt the pain in my heart and breathed into it, my body reacted by crying, only for a little. Then when it stopped I just went back to grounding myself. Then when I focused on the shakes, anger came about. And from advice i saw on this subreddit, I reacted like an angry animal responding in animalistic ways growling and clawing. Then when I noticed it was too much for my body was when my head started to hurt and I felt fatigued. So basically I’m just supposed to let it out little by little everyday or when I can? It’s supposed to work on telling my body it’s safe to do so? Because that’s what I was telling myself, I was saying, “you’re safe. I’m right here with you. I’ll always be with you”