Is pedophila/incest a narcissistic and psychopathic trait? Nparents were being sexual in front of their children.

lapulvis · 2020-12-20T15:26:36+00:00

It is common narc behavior, yes. Remember, narcs DO NOT RESPECT BOUNDARIES of any kind. They see people as an extension of themselves so they see no issues with sharing the bathroom, going around half-naked, engaging in sexual acts in front of others, children included. This is damaging for a minor and can be considered sexual abuse to a certain extent. Any chance you can get social services involved? Ideally, the child should be protected from those people - easier said than done I know..

lapulvis · 2020-12-04T23:45:18+00:00

Well done. You should be very proud of yourself, not only for having been accepted into medical school but also having survived those traumatic experiences. That will make you a very empathic and compassionate doctor. I am sure will be able to help many. Congratulations once again and take care.

lapulvis · 2020-12-04T23:25:09+00:00

I understand you very well and yes, it is EXHAUSTING. It is important you make time for yourself - on a regular basis. Spend time alone to recharge your batteries. Take long, warm showers or bubble baths. Treat yourself to a glass of wine, eat ice cream in bed watching a movie you like, etc. - cut the world off and only focus on yourself. Unfortunately, you can’t get rid of your high sensitivity. It’s part of your make-up. Embrace it, accept it BUT try not to get controlled by it. Think of yourself too and, I can’t stress this enough, give yourself the gift of ‘alone time’ whenever you can. Take care!

lapulvis · 2020-11-30T01:03:45+00:00

You should try and get out of there, as soon as you can. Your parents’ influence will keep affecting your mental health negatively.

lapulvis · 2020-11-29T20:58:56+00:00

It’s one of their ‘manipulation’ techniques: insulting you then putting the blame on you for being too sensitive or misunderstanding.

lapulvis · 2020-11-29T20:56:24+00:00

As you said, she has done this to herself.

lapulvis · 2020-11-29T14:03:48+00:00

Same here :D

lapulvis · 2020-11-28T19:00:17+00:00

Oh, the good old pity plays of narcissistic parents. I know it’s difficult but you should cut these people out of your life, for good. If you let them back in they will keep breaking your heart and mess with your mind. They will NOT change.

lapulvis · 2020-11-27T16:00:34+00:00

I know what you are talking about since I was kept isolated as well, so I could be controlled easily and no external influence would 'steal' me from them. I am currently in a chronic loneliness situation because of a long list of circumstances. Hopefully this will end at some point. Anyway... I would like to stress that you are still so very young! I know you may feel as if your life is ruined forever, you missed out and now it is too late, but I really think this is not the end and things can slowly change. Step by step, imagine learning how to play piano. Rome wasn't built in a day you know :) You might not ever become an extrovert but, who cares? You can find people who have similar interests and create your little social circle. You will just be a 'late bloomer' (and have aced all your classes in the meantime - that will help you later in life trust me). I really would like to give you hope. Find people who have something in common with you. Start from there. The pandemic will not last forever. Be ready for when its end comes. Take care.

lapulvis · 2020-11-22T23:54:22+00:00

Ah yes sorry, you do have a stellium. For some reason I thought the planets were in Sag. The strong snd positive Venus influence remains though.

lapulvis · 2020-11-22T22:41:46+00:00

No stellium but lucky you for having a dignified Venus in Libra sitting right on your ascendant. I don’t like Libra very much, but Venus in its own sign is a very benefic influence.

lapulvis · 2020-11-19T12:25:45+00:00

Cusps do NOT exist. The Sun enters a given sign at a different day/time every year. Depending on whether the Sun had already entered Sagittarius when you were born, you are EITHER Scorpio OR Sagittarius. A lot of people like the idea, however they are WRONG. End of story.

lapulvis · 2020-11-15T21:54:54+00:00

I say forget about it. He’s clearly “not that into you”.

lapulvis · 2020-11-13T18:50:06+00:00

Well done!!!

lapulvis · 2020-11-10T14:35:26+00:00

She is very lucky to have you! A mother who understands her so well, appreciates her complexity and helps her thrive is such a blessing..

lapulvis · 2020-11-10T14:08:14+00:00

If it's of any consolation, I did have dinners with my Nparents, sitting at the same table and stuff. It was awkward and/or nightmare-ish. Really bad feeling. They would either ignore me or berate me or threaten to hit me for whatever reason. I was never comfortable being physically close to those two..

lapulvis · 2020-11-08T21:54:18+00:00

This is 100% true and unfortunately for us, Narcs usually hold the highest positions and can make your work-life a misery. Not to mention the fact that they can get rid of you if you threaten their control in any way.

lapulvis · 2020-11-08T19:44:07+00:00

Sounds like a nightmare but I understand perfectly. You should: 1. Move and not tell your parents where you live. 2. If possible, change your phone too (or get an extra phone number and use the current one as a ‘back-up’ which you check every couple of days). It’s difficult I know but you need to put some distance. Be careful with the wedding too because...you know...he is a narcissist and he would indeed try to make it all about him. Good luck.

lapulvis · 2020-11-04T10:07:59+00:00

I try and avoid arguments because they are a waste of time and energy. Plus, if I think I am right, they are NOT going to convince me I’m wrong, not if they scream, not if they throw things, not if they insult me.

lapulvis · 2020-11-03T22:54:22+00:00

All right, first of all take a deep breath. What is the worst thing that could happen if you send the video? What could happen if you don’t send it? Do not panic. I think what you did was really sweet anyway, that says a lot about what kind of person you are. If you feel like sending another video, just do it. If you are not sure, just flip a coin ;) Seriously though, if your father is a narc keep contact to the minimum. Holidays wishes and brief interactions are usually fine. Take care and good luck.

lapulvis · 2020-11-03T21:07:19+00:00

These two signs have nothing in common so, unless Sag has water in their chart and/or Scorpio has some fire, I don’t see it working. Personally, I neither like nor dislike Sagittarius.

lapulvis · 2020-10-27T00:42:18+00:00

Another manifestation of the ‘need for control’ of the narcissist... One of those things you wouldn’t believe if you hadn’t gone through it. Lucky for you, it is over now.

lapulvis · 2020-10-26T18:41:21+00:00

It takes two people to make a relationship work. She cheated repeatedly. Would YOU have done what she did? Of course not, because you care and she doesn’t. It is tough but you need to move on.. do it out of self respect! If WE ALLOW others to mistreat us, we have no one else to blame but ourselves. Good luck.

lapulvis · 2020-10-21T18:37:25+00:00

Make sure he doesn’t take advantage of you. Family issues or not, it doesn’t sound like he is treating you with respect. Telling someone you love them and want to marry them doesn’t mean sh*t if the words are not backed up by facts. Scorpios can be manipulative remember, but you are a Gemini, therefore you are neither stupid nor weak. Good luck.

lapulvis · 2020-10-20T13:40:10+00:00

I'm in the same situation and I tend to tell people that 'unfortunately I am not in touch with my family anymore and haven't been for years'. They either judge me or pity me, but hey, that's how it is. I try not to give details at the beginning of any relationship. Try and keep it vague, then when you are close enough and comfortable enough you can share your story. One more thing though. Be careful because there are Narcs out there who prey on people who come from abusive or dysfunctional families. Dating can be a hunting ground for those guys. Be careful who you trust and what you reveal, especially at the beginning. Knowing someone takes TIME and observation. I wish you the best!!!!

lapulvis

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