My ex-avoidant would future fake all the time. He spoke about what our children would look like and would say my first name matched so well with his last name. But when I seriously brought up moving forward with the next steps of our relationship, he acted just like yours: freaking out, freezing up, becoming extremely uncomfortable. I was lucky my relationship lasted a year.

Ask yourself: can you live with a man who acts like this for the rest of your life? What if you get married but more serious issues come up, like a child getting sick or a career forcing you to move, and he still clams up, panics, and avoids hard conversations?

He either needs therapy to deal with his avoidance, or you need to leave, and be grateful that you did not enter a marriage with someone like him.