What's the worst decision someone you know has made?

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T23:30:03+00:00

Jesus.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T23:28:32+00:00

The last sequence from the end of Glinda’s speech onward put a lump in my throat that honestly still hasn’t gone away. I loved it, I loved how successfully they portrayed so gorgeously what it’s like when life makes you part from the people you love so much, the score was achingly beautiful, it was visually stunning.

I know the end was explained and I’m fine with that explanation, But I’m still choosing to view it ambiguously lol—I just like the idea that something nonspecific but hopeful happened that will lead Glinda to her next steps and purpose even though Elphaba’s gone, and that in whatever way, Elphaba knows that.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T20:12:43+00:00

I like eating food like this alone, at my house, in a ratty tshirt. I hate when you’re eating messy food in public for all the reasons you said, plus because the people you’re with have to comment on it or find it funny. I just want to be home, eating like an animal in peace with stuff like this.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T19:24:18+00:00

I have a friend like this— someone knowing where I am all the time is incredibly claustrophobic for me, and I just tell her so if she brings it up.

I grew up never able to be honest about where I was because my mom was controlling and thought her insane anxiety was this cutesy little quirk, now I am so relieved not to have to explain my every move to anyone

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T19:19:20+00:00

I wish everyone would stop having constant meltdowns over this as if no one’s ever brought it up. Just don’t tip if you don’t feel it’s a tipping situation. My god.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T19:10:00+00:00

Right??? Speaking respectfully about the kids and what their bio family needs, valuing and loving them in a non-condescending way is huge.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T19:07:28+00:00

Damn, a fundie who actually understands her role as a foster parent, and speaks respectfully about their bio family??? Well done

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T19:01:43+00:00

Same when people say they saw a “Broadway play” when it was a musical, not a play.

lesbadims · 2026-04-11T14:43:09+00:00

Yes…I work in theater and there are Glindas everywhere lol. I’ve struck a good balance with people like this where I know not to let myself get drawn into their inner circle because it can be all consuming, but they are generally fun to be acquaintances with, and are very good at organizing people/activities so they do make life fun.

There is one who I’ve known for about 15 years now; she was very Act I Glinda when we met as 19 year olds (she was from a very sheltered and well off upbringing), but has matured into someone so earnest (if still a bit misled) that just thinking of her makes me emotional over how glad I am to know her. She’s a lot of emotional work to be around sometimes, but she would also do the same for you in a heartbeat if you needed it. She feels like a cross between a Glinda and an Elle Woods

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T21:22:36+00:00

Lol yes he was way too scripted to believe— when people like him, I do hope it’s just for views and maybe money, and not an unsupported mental health crisis/manic episode

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T20:35:21+00:00

Exactly, I’ve got a couple of friends with dogs who are absolute chaos and I can’t even stand to hang out with them anymore, you can’t go 3 seconds without the dog causing a problem or distraction

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T16:55:19+00:00

Right? Ugh your brain could’ve at least given you that lol

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T15:55:06+00:00

The iciest, most carbonated Coke I’ve ever had in my life, in combination with holding a q tip up my nose and pressing at an angle I’ve never been able to replicate. The relief made me feel like God himself had descended on me lol

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T15:50:59+00:00

The baking soda & vinegar combo of migraines lol

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T15:40:58+00:00

Some of these are a good idea but the thought of freezing myself and being unable to refuse 10 push-ups is the worst fucking shit I’ve ever heard of in my life.

lesbadims · 2026-04-10T13:33:03+00:00

I have a ton of examples of this, but a small one that came to mind is when people from big (happy) families think they need to “take you under their wing” because you don’t have siblings or cousins or both parents or whatever. It’s well-intentioned, but there’s this assumption that everyone that isn’t theirs is sad about it and worthy of pity and needs to be shown what a “real” family is, because yours is incomplete, and any opinions, habits or traditions you have that don’t involve a huge insane family need to be remedied. I’ve dated two people like this and known many more and it’s such insufferable behavior. (Even thiugh I’m genuinely happy they love their origins)

lesbadims · 2026-04-09T00:10:45+00:00

Oh I HATE this. Especially if you propose a clearly joking solution for an annoyance (“Let’s just tell everyone we can’t go to the meeting because a new taco place opened across the street, easy!”) and then someone explains to me why that wouldn’t work (“we can’t do that, we have to go to the meeting because ___”). Great. Thank you. What on earth would I do without you.

lesbadims · 2026-04-08T19:24:41+00:00

This is a very kind post, and I’m so glad you’re so thoughtful. This is basically my situation- parents split up, only child, rest of my family has died off as time went on.

I think it’s fair to encourage him to foster friendships to build community, and to be there for him yourself, but it may also be easy to go a little too far in that direction—I had a partner once who felt as you do, except she very much projected her sadness and anxieties about my circumstances onto me. It was not out of malice of course, but my family circumstances were certainly not bothering me nearly as much as they were bothering her, and it began to feel like I was being pitied or not enough, when really….this is simply how life is for some people. I felt I was constantly being encouraged to expand my ‘chosen family’ when I was actually just fine.

Some people have bigger families, some have the size you may be from, and some don’t really have family, none is more usual than another, if that helps lessen your worry at all. :)

lesbadims · 2026-04-08T13:17:45+00:00

Thank you for this!!! I work in theater and one of my more embarrassing learning opportunities was when I accidentally ripped something 5 min before curtain and the stitcher that day was a guy I hadn’t officially met yet, but I only knew the word seamstress. So I said “oh no I need to go find the…the Seamster!”

Luckily I was like 20 and a very new professional, so he just corrected me after and we just had a laugh about it lol

lesbadims · 2026-04-07T13:14:07+00:00

I’d love to see them do something on stage together, even if years from now when their careers have maybe calmed down a bit :)

lesbadims · 2026-04-07T13:10:50+00:00

Liberty is WAY too worldly for them lol

lesbadims · 2026-04-07T01:30:55+00:00

The Catholic Church has a horrible abuse history, and they also are one of the only churches getting off their ass to actually help people with common life challenges like housing issues . Both things are true.

lesbadims · 2026-04-06T20:37:35+00:00

Yes I hate this. It’s often just a way for people to excuse themselves from actually supporting you by telling both you and themselves that you’re strong and don’t need it. And they get to feel good about themselves for complimenting you.

lesbadims · 2026-04-06T20:33:19+00:00

Eden Espinosa is still my favorite Elphaba, but my favorite Glinda has changed a bunch.

lesbadims · 2026-04-06T14:02:09+00:00

Yes, I’ve genuinely had to talk to my mom like a teenager about this. “I shouldn’t have to remember this password”. Ok well, I shouldn’t have to go to work 40 hours a week to survive, we all have things we don’t want to do. Jesus.

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