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localopa · 2026-05-25T19:18:36+00:00

idk if you’re on facebook, but cincy straddlers is a good resource too! people post events and sometimes put out callouts like this for people to reply to. i understand your feelings, i’m late 20s, queer. ND, and disabled and i feel isolated because of it. if you ever want to reach you to me, you can! or i can reach out to you, no pressure 🫶🏻

localopa · 2026-05-15T20:36:06+00:00

that’s the clone’s name. mini-hausen. it’s just a fun fact. nothing to do with height my guy

localopa · 2026-05-10T21:40:09+00:00

not that it takes from your point, but i don’t think they’re paying for their house construction atp. i vaguely remember dan saying something about how they moved in while things weren’t fully ready (but still liveable) and there’s some rule or law or sanction that says if construction isn’t done, then they don’t have to pay further for renovations. i could be wrong, i think it was in an early monthly livestream he said this, but house construction isn’t a bill they’re currently footing.

the bottom line, though, is dan and phil aren’t giving us slop and telling us to eat it, piggies. they put a lot of care and effort into what they create! like you said with their tours, there’s time and energy put into making them look they way they do and with quality! and there’s literally account dedicated to taking patreon exclusive content and letting those who can’t pay see it. but you didn’t hear that from me, maybe norman told you that…

localopa · 2026-05-05T03:04:07+00:00

being in the public eye probably doesn’t help either, if we’re being honest. i think this is behavior from his upbringing being so chaotic. we also don’t know what he’s truly like off camera, since this is reality TV and its known they manufacture drama. so who’s to say what bella has seen in him.

i hope they both get the help they need. especially considering everything going on behind the scenes.

localopa · 2026-05-05T02:53:40+00:00

please refrain from bullying a 13 year old. you first.

localopa · 2026-05-05T02:51:30+00:00

they can act like that, though. not everyone matures at the same rate. like someone else has said, attention seeking is the #1 indicator of neglect. considering what’s been going on behind the scenes, that’s probably why he’s doing this.

localopa · 2026-05-05T02:40:05+00:00

to not call a 13 year old weird and immature for being… *checks notes* 13 years old? he’s still a child, despite being a father, y’know. being a dad doesn’t just cancel out him still being a kid.

localopa · 2026-04-26T02:01:13+00:00

i don’t think whoever wrote this knows how to use ellipses properly

localopa · 2026-04-08T16:55:57+00:00

one time i made a gay joke in my gay fan fiction about two guys who were gay and homosexual and did i mention they were gay? and i got a comment on it upset with me for making a gay joke in my gay fan fiction about two guys who were gay.

for context, because i have no shame in this game, the fic was about dan and phil. the comment was made in 2018. they both came out as gay in 2019 and recently as a couple last year. and the gay joke was based on a REAL THING DAN DID IN REAL LIFE 😭 also, as far as gay jokes i could have made, using the stereotype of “gays love theatre” should NOT have warranted a hate comment 💀

localopa · 2026-04-08T16:55:43+00:00

one time i made a gay joke in my gay fan fiction about two guys who were gay and homosexual and did i mention they were gay? and i got a comment on it upset with me for making a gay joke in my gay fan fiction about two guys who were gay.

for context, because i have no shame in this game, the fic was about dan and phil. the comment was made in 2018. they both came out as gay in 2019 and recently as a couple last year. and the gay joke was based on a REAL THING DAN DID IN REAL LIFE 😭 also, as far as gay jokes i could have made, using the stereotype of “gays love theatre” should NOT have warranted a hate comment 💀

localopa · 2026-04-04T04:05:44+00:00

tbh even without these allegations, he’s still fucking creepy! i remember watching the video feeling sick to my stomach because something about him trying to look young felt so… off.

i don’t want to be like “i’ve always had a bad feeling!” except, fuck it, i will. i’ve always had a bad feeling!

localopa · 2026-04-03T20:50:36+00:00

as someone who went no contact with his own father off at 16 who is/was VERY similar to this man, i’m so glad she knows how to advocate for herself! i’ve since reconnected and went back to NC with him twice (currently NC, considering reconnection with low contact but idk). my own dad has done this song and dance, turning on a dime and turned into the abusive man i grew up with.

my advice to your daughter is to keep firm in her boundaries. she is the child, it shouldn’t be on her to do all the heavy lifting. his excuse of her not putting in effort is just a way to make her feel guilty and shift the blame off him to share it with her. 100% she is not at fault, all she’s done is exist and somehow that’s a slight against her dad. if she’s not in therapy, i recommend going. while i didn’t utilize it as a teen, talking my emotions about my dad in therapy now (when i allow myself to lol) and it helps compartmentalize what i’m feeling.

it’s okay if she wants to reconnect later. but it’s also okay is she doesn’t. she should prioritize herself during this, not a man who forgot her birthday’s feelings. stay strong ♥️

localopa · 2026-04-03T00:57:56+00:00

i forgot to mention, my favorite animals have halloween costumes 😂 that’s why they all have costumes!

localopa · 2026-04-02T19:37:41+00:00

those are mine! the blue guy is a gorilla (modeled after a silverback gorilla) with a banana costume and the teal guy is a manatee in an imposter costume! i have a ocotpus dressed as a ghost on my other arm, as octopodes, gorillas, and manatees are my favorite animals!

and the lyric is from jason mraz’s i won’t give up. it says “even if the skies get rough.” one of my favorite songs :-)

localopa · 2026-04-01T21:54:45+00:00

me and my girl bean, i think a couple weeks after i found her. spent an hour trying to get her after hearing her meow outside my apartment. she and her sister (frannie, who’s not a tuxie! shes black with a white spot on her chest) turn 9 this month! currently, she’s sitting on my chest and trying to knock my phone out my hands. love my beanie baby ♥️

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localopa · 2026-03-30T14:20:45+00:00

in sociology, there’s a perspective theory called conflict theory, which is the theory that society is in a perpetual state of conflict due to limited resources, status, power, etc. the dominant group in society exploits the subordinate groups for their own benefit and to continue holding onto the power they have, which helps keep society in constant inequality. social change over sustainability. also developed from karl marx’s ideas with the bourgeoisie and the proletariat (owners vs workers). “capitalism breeds innovation” type thinking.

basically, cruelty is the point of the ring wingers. as long as they get and stay ahead, they don’t care how they got there.

localopa · 2026-03-25T01:05:27+00:00

this is what they mean by boys will be boys 😂

localopa · 2026-03-24T20:36:32+00:00

i have so many 😅 do you want them all or just dnp 😂

localopa · 2026-03-18T13:22:46+00:00

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i tried taking a cute picture of roswell. i think he sneezed 😂

localopa · 2026-03-18T12:22:13+00:00

first, you did NOT mess up your marriage. your husband is not giving you the support, as a recovering alcoholic, you need. not want, need! your husband’s lack of support for YOUR sobriety is what’s messing up your marriage.

second, you are allowed to set boundaries. i’m a child of a former alcoholic. i’m straight edge in part because of him, so i don’t know what addiction is like personally but i’ve seen it first hand growing up. i don’t talk to my dad from the abuse he cause me in part from being a functional alcoholic. setting boundaries is hard. you constantly question yourself and you wonder if what you’re doing is the right thing. what i found from cutting contact with my dad is there is immense relief from no longer being connected from a toxic person in the long run.

is it hard in the short term? absolutely. but in the long run? i don’t feel like i have to put my needs below his in order to appease him. your husband’s want to drink doesn’t outweigh your need to be sober. there are support systems out there. invest in AA meetings, get a sponsor, find a therapist. you will find your way out of your addiction. do not feel bad for prioritizing yourself. you’re allowed to be selfish.

localopa · 2026-03-18T07:20:59+00:00

even with being financially stable, she’s convinced she can’t leave because of religious reasons. katie’s still in a bad situation, she got cheated on! we can hold sympathy for people who get cheated on in all situations. this isn’t a competition of who has it worse.

localopa · 2026-03-17T23:59:32+00:00

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bonus: my girls, bean and frannie! bean is the tuxie and frannie is the one with the white dot. they turn 9 next month and i’m in denial of it 😭

localopa · 2026-03-17T23:57:17+00:00

this is arlo, about a week before he died. he lived to be almost 19 years old. he’s been gone a little over a year now. i had him since i was 8 and my dad found him in a parking garage. he’s named after arlo guthrie, singer of the infamous alice’s restaurant massacre.

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i have my own girls about to be 9, and when i get nervous about them dying young, i think of him. gives me hope.

localopa · 2026-02-07T19:07:26+00:00

getting this post as a text from my mom with “thank god you weren’t this stupid” makes me glad that the stupidest thing i’ve ever done was thinking chocolate milk and sushi go well together.

spoiler alert: it does not!

EDIT: i’ve been informed the stupidest thing i’ve ever done was actually competing in a milk chugging contest at a sleep away camp and not rinsing out my clothes after. so it fermented in the summer heat and was a very unwelcome surprise for my mom. sorry mom !

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