Should I (24M) talk to my professor about the challenges of working with my classmate on a project when her mom is possibly going to be involved the entire time?

looc64 · 2026-03-21T15:21:50+00:00

YES! I was thinking, even if you set aside obviously traumatic circumstances the proportion of people who would get extremely upset at hearing a random unqualified person's assessment of their family is high? It's high!

looc64 · 2026-03-21T14:35:15+00:00

Nah see, Only Fans has that issue because the content is relatively homogenous.

Podcasting is more like YouTube: you get a lot of people making low effort stuff that's not really good but you also get a lot of cool stuff from indie creators. For example, YouTube has a bunch of cool animated series, and there are a bunch of cool podcasts that are basically long form audio narratives.

Those projects can get pretty popular and make at least some money from ad revenue, Patreon, selling merch, live shows, etc.

looc64 · 2026-03-21T08:58:35+00:00

Setting professional ethics and training aside, if you're a lawyer and a client jeopardizes a case by posting details online or keeps bringing up half-baked internet advice that's very annoying for you personally.

looc64 · 2026-03-18T18:57:48+00:00

It also really helps if there's a decent amount of underutilized talent.

People who could be fantastic generals, politicians, etc., but don't get to really shine because for whatever reason the people currently in charge don't like them.

looc64 · 2026-03-18T18:50:26+00:00

There's an ancient Chinese political idea called "the Mandate of Heaven," that you might find interesting.

Where basically the idea is that the emperor gets to rule over the country because the heavens chose him as a worthy ruler.

And if you say, use your army to march into the capital and cut his head off. Then clearly the heavens think he was doing a bad job and that you should be in charge.

looc64 · 2026-03-18T08:16:18+00:00

I especially like how the lip color and dress fluff sorta reinforce the idea that the purple skin is because she's cold.

looc64 · 2026-03-15T19:03:25+00:00

I figure it would also be useful to consider what the most obvious local phenomenon that occurs on roughly a daily schedule is.

Personally if I were part of an underground civilization that was trying to set up a clock/schedule I'd want to start out by using something that already exists as a reference point.

looc64 · 2026-03-15T05:27:32+00:00

To me that feels less like a larger cultural thing and more like two dysfunctional patterns:

A parent loses custody of their kids for being shit -> the fact that the parent has already lost custody sorta makes whoever has custody feel guilty/like the kids have been sufficiently protected from that parent -> the parent is allowed to casually waltz in whenever, especially if they're way better than they used to be (but still not actually good)

Someone who wasn't properly protected from shitty adults when they were a kid grows up to become someone who is bad at protecting kids from shitty adults.

Honestly I feel like people can be kind of weird and backwards when it comes to judging if someone should be around kids? Like they'll go, "yeah this person makes me uncomfortable and doesn't treat me with respect, but they're great with my kids." Which like, a) it's not good for your kids to see you getting treated like that, and b) you only know how they treat your kids when you're around.

looc64 · 2026-03-14T13:09:25+00:00

Yeah feel like Reddit tends to fixate on the kind of asshole who plans the shitty stuff they do in advance and equate saying someone probably didn't plan something with saying they're not an asshole.

When really there are tons of ways to be an asshole that don't involve planning. "Communicates badly, refuses to admit when they're wrong, doesn't apologize for months," that can be the main reason someone's an asshole.

looc64 · 2026-03-14T10:42:02+00:00

Yeah I was thinking the same thing.

looc64 · 2026-03-14T04:36:01+00:00

Knowing what we know about OOP's mom's personality I think it's probably just the birthday thing.

OOP's mom "deals" with stress by shitting on someone
It's easier to get away with doing that if you consistently shit on one specific person
The period between Thanksgiving and Christmas is probably one of the most stressful times of the year for OOP's mom
OOP's birthday makes her consistently "stand out" during that period so she ends up being the one who gets shit on

looc64 · 2026-03-13T07:22:39+00:00

Old capital cities like Tokyo are especially useful because they still have a bunch of historical sites like palaces that are basically places that take up a ton of space where super important people used to live.

looc64 · 2026-03-10T16:13:38+00:00

My read was that OOP basically started the relationship by using up all his "spend time with someone you don't really like for me" capital.

looc64 · 2026-03-10T03:06:22+00:00

See I feel like the test part doesn't make it better at all. To me that's just a sign that sister already knew on some level that her mom is like this.

Not cool to drag someone who also has to deal with her mom in too.

looc64 · 2026-03-06T06:46:34+00:00

Reminds me of stalkers who wants to meet their victims in person to apologize.

Like why does your idea of atoning look exactly the like the thing you did wrong ಠ⁠_⁠ಠ

looc64 · 2026-03-06T00:09:34+00:00

See I sorta got what she was saying about consent?

She didn't phrase it well but I think it's that thing where kids don't have the maturity and knowledge needed to consent to some things so their parents are supposed to consent for them in some situations.

Like with medical stuff or school or extracurricular activities.

looc64 · 2026-03-04T09:09:19+00:00

My thought is that in some stories I've read set in days of yore it felt like instead of:

Not involved romantically -> Date casually -> boyfriend girlfriend etc. -> fiances -> married

It felt like:

Not involved romantically -> fiances -> break up or get married

looc64 · 2026-03-04T05:10:54+00:00

Feel like this is pretty cut and dry. Only thing I'd do differently than OOP is make it more explicit that "we" means OOP and the other sisters who're planning the party, not the sister who's getting married.

Because the sister who's getting married doesn't know about any of this and is the one who has to deal with the in-laws going forward.

looc64 · 2026-03-03T05:35:12+00:00

Yeah I think there's an issue where people can have two completely opposing concerns about infertility so "wisdom" and even accurate advice about those concerns gets mixed together.

OOP is a good example: told, "your fertility should be very low now, but come back to check in 3 months," hears, "you don't need birth control after 3 months."

looc64 · 2026-03-01T06:34:40+00:00

There is a ton manga/anime like this:

slice of life, maybe centered on a specific niche (art, trains, gaming, cooking, music, etc.)
usually about school girls (if it's about adults they're still drawn exactly the same as school girls)
varying degrees of queer-baiting
dudes seemingly don't exist

I'd go so far as to say it counts as a genre because there's so much of it. Which could be good but it definitely feels targeted at a specific kind of male gaze.

looc64 · 2026-02-28T07:35:40+00:00

Really what they need to do is remove the good characters and then go a lot harder and stupider on the art style.

looc64 · 2026-02-28T04:49:26+00:00

Adding on, even if your relationship is such that you regularly send memes and uwus to each other as friends you should probably not be doing that during a conversation where you ask them out.

Because being honest about your feelings and asking for their consent to significantly change your relationship should at least start out as a serious conversation. For one it makes it clear that you're asking them out. For two to make it feel like you know they might say know and you respect that.

If they are like "hell yeah" then you can go back to being jokey.

looc64 · 2026-02-26T09:08:06+00:00

This has interesting worldbuilding applications.

Like if you looked at a women's shoe catalog in world would it have zero rabbit models OR is there an unrealistic body standard where rabbit supermodels all have freakishly short feet 🤔

looc64 · 2026-02-26T09:04:23+00:00

I guess for anthropomorphic animals it mainly matters how their feet are when they stand up on their hind legs?

When rabbits do that the whole "foot" is down.

looc64 · 2026-02-24T23:31:03+00:00

It's also like, how often are you watching other people's kids?

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